Mums with a superiority complex.......

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How many do you know or do they all live near me?

They wait until your kid is having a temper tantrum then say "Oh mine never behaves like that"

or yours is having a fly swig at your coke when in a cafe and they say "mine never has fizzy drinks"

or when yours is playing with the toy they got in McDonalds they say "I've never taken mine to McDonalds and the oldest is 6".............

WHERE DO THEY GET OFF????

drives me nuts

Just laugh! I had coffee regularly with a group of mums when ds1 was tiny. One had a ds who had rolled over at birth, sat up at 3 months, walked at 6 months - you know the type. Once when we were all having a general moan about sterlising she said "oh, I don't sterlise everything, the only toys I sterlise are the hard plastic ones." Sterlising toys? We just laughed at whatever this woman said.

The best one was the most smug thing I ever heard: "He's so physically advanced, but I just hope he isn't bright. You've no idea how difficult it is growing up as a bright child, I really suffered for it. Believe me, none of you would have wanted to have been very bright." She'd missed the previous meetup at which it had emerged 2 of us had been at Oxfrod at the same time. We didn't say anything after this comment, just laughed as usual. But one of the other mums was insensed on our behalf, and waited until an appropriate moment about half an hour later, and said to the 2 of us "was it like that at Oxford too?" The woman's face was a picture (and that annoyed me too, cos while I'm really proyd of myself for going to Oxford I would never ever ask it of anyone else to be impressed with me just because of that, iyswim)

PMSL that the woman believed that she was so much brighter than the rest of you

Wot about her social skills, then

no need to be upset fisil and great story. some people need to hear a story like that for their own benefit. it is better to let others blow your trumpet for you. it has a better effect than blowing your own. iykwim.

Think she related to a someone I know - always bragging that her dh went to Oxbridge! Intellingence by association i guess. So bright in fact she told another friend ' that she could never admit to shopping in Asda after said friend told her she was going to do shopping there'. When I was discussing potential names for dd she relied ' its a bit council isnt it'.....

You make me feel awful!
I struggle with upholding my decision to not let my ds have fizzy pop without sounding like an arsehole.
I just dont want him to have it yet while he doesnt know about it as he has got years ahead of him to eat/drink this stuff.

I absolutely agonise over it.
He has this type of stuff at parties etc no problem, when we go to other peoples houses and stuff is offered he has it, i just dont buy it in at our house.

This afternoon a friend came up with her ds amd he asked for juice, she got 2 cartons out of her bag, one pure orange, one pure grapefruit juice.
Her ds wanted the grapefruit juice, well ds wanted one naturally. Trouble is any thing orangey gives him horrendous nappy rash and makes him blister and bleed. I felt like such an arse saying this to her, very very uncomfortable and like "one of those mothers".
I give him water or milk.
Just thinking about it makes me feel awkward.

donbean not allowing your son citrus juice is perfectly normal, as it can cause botty problems for some kids. you allow your ds other things, you dont ban it totally, just dont buy it.

Hurrah this is the thread for me - in fact I was going to start a new one to rant about supersmug mum whose house I was at recently. I'm a new mum and just getting used to all this meeting-other-mums malarkey - SO TRUE ghost about it being like school!

This mum is so Stepford it's untrue - her house is spotless and looks like a showhome - she has 2 kids of 4 months and 18 months and not a toy in sight! When I used her changing station and looked in the drawers for a tissue, I saw all their clothes all neatly folded, ironed and categorised - and she was saying she doesn't have a cleaner because they can't clean to her standards - OMG she is sooooo smug. She has told me I will spoil my DS by carrying him around my house in a sling, that nursery is best for him whatever I think, and (my fave) "You are too in love with that baby". Meanwhile her D is counting at 18 months, blah blah whatever. I wouldn't have even thought to pass comment on her parenting style until she started on me - but it makes me want to retaliate and tell her her kids will grow up repressed. I have no intention of going back to her place but my main worry is having the group at my place - I can hardly invite everyone else and not her (we all met at preggie yoga) but when she sees my messy and far from pristine house she'll absolutely freak and probably not let her baby come in.

How do you shake off a mum you rtealise you have nothing in common with?

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Ive had this too. My DS is 8 months old, and used to meet up with a group of other mums on a regular basis. DS was the first to crawl out of the whole group, and i was told this was because I left him on the floor all the time! They are all so smug it's unbelieveable. I don't meet with them anymore, as it's too unbearable. They are the sort of women who look like they never fart or blow their noses. I'm dreading when DS goes to school, as I will come up against it then. I hate the fact I feel like that too.

Some of these have made me pmsl. How can you be too much in love with your baby?

I was chatting to another mother once about how I was pleased that I managed to persuade my son that oat cakes were biscuits. She was very smug about her son never having had a biscuit. At that same moment her son was scoffing a whole pack of organix crisps. I know they have less salt/better oils etc but they are hardly a health food!

Laligo, I know a woman like that. Her baby is the smae age as DS, and there isn't anything out of place at her house. She came round to me once, and turned he nose up at the baby vomit stains on my carpet and the bathroom, which was decorated c. 1987.

I went round there once, and felt that I couldnt eevn cough, but the worst thing was when she pulled a box of teabags out of the cupoboard marked "builder's tea" to make me a drink.

She only drinks Lapsang, Dahhhhhhhhlink.

Builder's tea!!!!!

And she's actually labelled it!

lol at builders tea! One of the horrendous women i met was my son was little had cream carpets and cream sofas. I said it was handy as baby sick was the same colour. And she looked in horror at me and said you are joking aren't you. I said yes and laughed then rubbed in my sons sick when she wasn't looking

Yup. Sad cow.

My DP calls her the Good Housekeeping Harpy. He told me he finds her frightening.

Lol Jane!!! Good on you! I wish our landlord had put in a cream carpet, as our nasty green one is now a nasty green one with assorted vomit stains!!!!!!!

also her and her dh put carrier bags round every wheel of 5 pushchairs when we went once and it was raining (to save the cream carpet). Her dh also offered us some chocolates but said we couldn't have a particular one as that was his favourite. I thought he was joking but no.

I hate lapsang... give me builders tea any day!

What a pair of t*ats, Jane.

And Sadie, I love Builder's Tea. Milk and one sugar please. Much nicer than all your poncey teas!!!!!!!!

Looking at this from another angle though, i think that people are perhaps bieng like this (bigging themselves up/smarming} as a kind of "pat on the back" to themselves for what they see as a job well done.
None of us deny that parenting is a bloody hard job, we wouldnt be on a site like this if it was easy.
When does any one ever say to you at the end of a bloody long slog bitch of a day with a kid who woke up on the wrong side of the bed with a mard on..."well done today, you kept it together and did the best job that you could, well done" do they?
So my theory is that these people are doing it for themselves, in thier own little world they are sighing with relief that they are ok. Even if they do have to compare themselves to us normal people!

OHGODOHGODOHGOD......just had to recheck i wrote "mard on" not.....something else....previewpreviewpreview.

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