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wtf??? i am shocked and furious, DS, 4, did a poo outside in the garden. and i think he has done it more than once

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superv1xen · 11/07/2010 18:20

i just could not believe my eyes. DS was playing outside earlier and my dp found him with his pants round his ankles then we found that he had done 2 poo's on the slabs. he is 4.2

i went absolutely mad at him and he kept denying he had done it, but then he admitted it, i told him that was very naughty and unacceptable and to go to his room.

he has been potty trained for about 2 years so there was no way he was simply "caught short" - i just dont get what the hell he thought he was doing.

and, even worse, we think he has done it before, as recently, me and dp have found poo on the lawn yet we dont have dogs or any pets and it was a total mystery. Until now.

also, the neighbours kids on both side (roughly the same age as ds) were all playing outside and i hope them or their parents didnt see it or they will think we have some sort of feral child, god, i am sooooo embarassed and also very freaked out.

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cornsilky · 11/07/2010 18:23

Sorry but you're being OTT. Just tell him not to do it again.Maybe he left it till the last minute and thought that he couldn't make the toilet. Better in the garden than in his pants.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 11/07/2010 18:26

Withought wanting to make lightly of this, are you for real? The highlight of a BBQ at my parents house 16 or so years ago, was my sisters eldest son dropping his trolly's and having a dump. It's human poo and your DS at that. Pick it up and flush it. Fuck the neighbours.

CoupleofKooks · 11/07/2010 18:27

LOL
it's just child poo
yes it is a bit embarrassing
he's only little, they do silly things

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Olihan · 11/07/2010 18:29

I think you're completely over reacting, he's a 4.2 yo boy, he's experimenting and exploring his world. He could have been pretending to be a dog or just wanted to see what it felt like.

Children's minds don't work the way ours do, he won't have thought about it being a bad thing to do, he would have just followed through an idea because that's what children do.

He lied because he could see you were furious and he wanted to make you happy again, not because he knew it was naughty.

Get over it, he's been told it's not acceptable now so it's unlikely it will happen again.

mathanxiety · 11/07/2010 18:32

I'd be willing to bet that every child does this at some point. There's nothing wrong with yours, and nothing unusual either. And you can be sure the neighbours' children, or the neighbours themselves when they were children, have done it.

ConnorTraceptive · 11/07/2010 18:34

Major over reaction on your part.

Rockbird · 11/07/2010 18:36

He's 4, that's still such a baby. So he's trying things out or pushing his luck but a few reminders on the correct place to do a poo would be sufficient, no need to blow a gasket.

hobbgoblin · 11/07/2010 18:37

i think over reacting in this way is very serious. would you be more worried or less so when you found yourself dealing with pschologically induced constipation? totally the wrong reaction from you imo and i'd be more gentle and less blunt were it not for the fact i feel so sorry for your poor ds.

Northernlurker · 11/07/2010 18:37

I don't see what the problem is here? Obviously it's unconventional but being angry with him is really not going to help. I would be a bit frustrated and annoyed too but everything in proportion please. As for the neighbours - unless they are in fact robots or perfect their kids will have done unusual things to at times. It doesn't matter what they think - but it does matter what your son thinks. You've shown him that you can be scary and angry about something that is a normal process and that he can't even explain - I think you need to get off the pc and start walking that one back!

hobbgoblin · 11/07/2010 18:38

psychologically

whoopstheregoesmymerkin · 11/07/2010 18:39

it's not like he smeared it on the fence or anything is it?
He was outside, having such a good time he didn't want to come in. He's 4. He's a boy. Shit happens.

TheFoosa · 11/07/2010 18:40

better on the patio than in the paddling pool, where they usually do it

MayorNaze · 11/07/2010 18:41

if he was 14.2 then i owuld be furious

i think at 4 it's more a case of testing boundaries/experimenting as oppose to deliberate defiant defecation.

SandyBits · 11/07/2010 18:41

Arf @ shit happens.

TheFoosa · 11/07/2010 18:42

'shit happens' very good

TheLadyOfTheGreenKirtle · 11/07/2010 18:43

totally OTT on your part. poor kid.

mamatomany · 11/07/2010 18:44

Crickey my 8 year old got caught short in the garden not so long ago

thefirstmrsDeVere · 11/07/2010 18:45

You are very obviously upset and I am loathe to make light of it BUT

If you think this is the worst/most disgusting/outrageous thing your son is going to do you are going to be very suprised.

He couldnt be bothered to go to the toilet so he did it where he was - simple.

4 year olds are not hung up like adults so I doubt if he gave it a thought. Its not like he thought he would have to clean it up or anything

Try not to make it into something it isnt. It isnt devient or worrying behaviour. Its a typical horrible smelly four year old thing to do.

Deep breath (if you are standing near the poo, through your mouth).

secunda · 11/07/2010 18:46

'obviously it's unconventional' pmsl

ItsGrimUpNorth · 11/07/2010 18:46

Not a big deal.

Is this for real? "Feral child". Feral mother more like.

You'll probably ensure your child will be constipated for a few months yet for fear of displeasing you about pooing.

SparklyJules · 11/07/2010 18:48

4 yr olds do silly things and they don't always know why. I think he probably understands now that it was a bad idea, considering you did go "absolutely mad" at him. He's prob very upset now. I think maybe a little chat later about appropriate toileting and a little apology from you might help. It's not the end of the world, it's just a poo!

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 11/07/2010 18:51

DS1 did this at around the same age. I found a big log by the wheelie bin. I called him over, pointed to the man turd and asked him if it was his. He told me a big dog had jumped over the fence, had a poo and then left again. I had to bite my lip so hard not to laugh, but instead I did a Stern Look and told him not to tell fibs, and not to poo in the garden again. He didn't. He does, however, remember his alfresco experience fondly, recently admitting that he had wiped his bum on the grass. Nice

JaynieB · 11/07/2010 18:52

My cousin apparently did this all the time! DD was encouraged to have a wee outside by DP last night - he thinks being able to have an al fresco wee (and probably poo in the necessary circumstances) is a good thing...

SandyBits · 11/07/2010 18:54

Chickens I am giggling at the wiping his bum on the grass. This is just the sort of thing my ds will do when old enough I'm sure. Superv1xen, I've been on a couple of threads and you do seem wound quite tight. It may do you good to loosen up a little

Lancelottie · 11/07/2010 19:02

They all do this sort of thing. I did send my neighbour's 5-yr-old home though when he did it on our garden -- poo on yer own turf, kiddo!

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