wtf??? i am shocked and furious, DS, 4, did a poo outside in the garden. and i think he has done it more than once

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i just could not believe my eyes. DS was playing outside earlier and my dp found him with his pants round his ankles then we found that he had done 2 poo's on the slabs. he is 4.2

i went absolutely mad at him and he kept denying he had done it, but then he admitted it, i told him that was very naughty and unacceptable and to go to his room.

he has been potty trained for about 2 years so there was no way he was simply "caught short" - i just dont get what the hell he thought he was doing.

and, even worse, we think he has done it before, as recently, me and dp have found poo on the lawn yet we dont have dogs or any pets and it was a total mystery. Until now.

also, the neighbours kids on both side (roughly the same age as ds) were all playing outside and i hope them or their parents didnt see it or they will think we have some sort of feral child, god, i am sooooo embarassed and also very freaked out.

Lol, I did this when I was four with a neighbour the same age, except we did it in the playhouse (to this day my mum still loves to remind me of this...) Relax, it's not the end of the world!

This is a good point Rockbird

DH is not English and is aghast at the amount of dogs squatting and shitting in areas where children play/people walk

His mentality is it would not be acceptable if he pulled his pants down and did an al fresco crap, so why is it ok for dogs...he has a point

When I was 9, my best friend did this under a bush outside. She's now a stalwart member of the WI so obviously an al fresco poo or two doesn't always spiral down into a doomed, feral life (unless the WI is just another symptom of course.)

Am PMSL (should that be SMSL) at all the alfresco pooing kids.

DS now poos immediately when he sees a see saw for some reason . He's only two but potty training will be interesting if he doesn't drop this habit

I was once told by a seven year old that he particularly liked peeing on roses as the smell of the roses mixed with the smell of wee 'smelled like his gran'. Nice!

My neice was caught at a similar age making a shrine to her poo in the garden.
It was all decorated with daisies.

I have to say I agree with OP and can't understand why people think this is ok! I could just about cope with it off in the shrubbery but in the middle of the patio is not on. I may however change my mind when DD is that age.

I have LOVED some of the stories though and have LMAO, thank you!

If Paula Radcliffe can do it in front of millions, then your son doing it in the privacy of his garden is not a catastrophe

DD1 (4) and a friend did this together under the climbing frame in my friend's garden. I was feeding DD2 at the time and my friend came in laughing saying "you don't want to know what those two were doing". What is funnier is that when we stopped laughing enough to go and tell them they shouldnld't have done it DD1 said "no, next time we will have to find somewhere more secret". Of course I said "no, next time you use the toilet". I would hae loved to have heard the conversation preceding the tandem al-fresco pooing incident.

OP, honestly, I think you may have overreacted a bit.

Paula Radcliffe did an al fresco dump?? With people watching? Are you kidding me?

I know you need to be lighter when you are running but.....

thanks for all the responses! i now feel like shit for telling him off and being angry but at least now know that he is not seriously disturbed or anything!

i just found it a very odd thing to do as he has been toilet trained for such a long time and knows full well that the loo is where you go for a wee or a poo. he has no problems if he needs to hold it either, if he needs the loo when we are out, he can wait a good few minutes while we find a loo. i could understand it if he was either much younger or very recently potty trained, or both.

i was just shocked and i have to say that if i saw a neighbours child doing the same thing i would probably be disgusted. if that makes me sound like some kind of judgy uptight freak then perhaps thats what i am! i just don't want human (or any) shit on my patio thank you very much but somehow i dont think it will be happening again...

I thought Paula Radcliffe just had a wee?

Paula Radcliffe famously had a poo in the road during a run. But no, I still can't believe it either. How could she show her face after? - if that was me I'd just have to go and be a hermit for the rest of my life.

Maybe if the crowd only saw her chocolate star fish, she wasn't instantly recognisable??

I'm going to google and see if she really did that...ughh...

DD (also 4) did this the other day. She was running around in the back garden and playing with " doggy " her imaginary friend when I came out to call her for lunch she had stripped off all her clothes and done a poo in the flowerbed and was covering it with soil (like a dog)

Yes I was shocked but, she was only playing I explained that whilst dogs may go in the garden Little girls use the loo End of matter.
Some of my friends Dc have done the same kind of thing. One of my friends DS wee'd on a lampost the other week as he was marking his spot!

wiki.answers.com/Q/Did_Paula_Radclif_have_a_poo_halfway_around_the_marathon

My ds1 was 3.5 when he did a huge poo under the slide in the local park. Now that was !

It's just poo and he's small. Yes you need to correct him so he knows that what he did wasn't right but its not something to be so mad about.
I say clever of him, really; instead of soiling his pants he thought it was best to find somehwere close enough.

I remember when I was about the same age as your DS I wriggled under my sister's bed and wee'd under it. My mam was very suprised and dissappointed in me I got a telling off for it and afterwards I felt ashamed for doing it but at the time I wasn't doing it to be naughty, it wasn't laziness, I didn't hate my sister and I certainly was not a feral child- I was simply curious about the sensation of having a wee lying down.

I think you have over-reacted a bit, all children do silly things- that is why they are children so draw a line under this and try and imagine things through a child's eyes next time.

I can remember weeing in the cat tray when I was 12...Dad was in the bath and was taking aaaaages even though I was saying Dad, get out I wanna wee (think he had fallen asleep) so I went into kitchen, shut the door and weed in cat tray

Cat looked rather puzzled as if to say wtf is she doing in my tray and parents were not impressed but could not argue with my logic of it being the best place to wee in absence of a loo

hun its just pooh, you want embarrassing picture this my boys 5 and three at a holiday park in june, the weather is lovely, the outdoor play area is packed to the rafters what are my cherubs doing? playing hide and seek? no no no challenging two other little bpys to a peeing off the bridge contest!!! lol, they are boys it happens, poor lamb must of wondered what the problem was, and on the up side at least he wiped his bum, its beyond mine,even with moist loo roll

laughing so much at the cat tray, can just IMAGINE the expression on the cat's face

Whomovedmychocolate, ROFL. That is the funniest thing I have read on MN, ever.

All this over-reaction about an alfresco poo has made me recall the time I thought it would be nice to poo under our dining room table. I was about 4, the bathroom was all the way upstairs, and I didn't think my parents would find it!

Seriously, he's still very young. Children do daft things because they don't have the social/moral understanding of adults.
By all means explain why he shouldn't poo in the garden, but shouting at him isn't going to help.