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What do women want? (Please flip this thread!)

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mollipops · 10/07/2003 08:35

Hi! It's been a while since I have posted here, but I have been lurking when I get the chance while studying a social science degree.

This semester I am doing a womens studies unit and part of my first assignment is to ask women I know (and I count you wonderful mumsnetters as some of those women!) "What do you want?"

PLEASE flip this thread and/or respond to this before you read any other responses, so that your answer is truly completely and uniquely yours without being influenced by what others may say. (Which is why I'm not telling you my response yet! )

Thankyou so much!

OP posts:
anais · 10/07/2003 20:05

What do I want????

That's a very deep question. I want...to have a big family, health, happiness, security. A big house in the country, by the sea, with a big garden, goats, chickens and ducks in the garden, a pony or 3 in the paddock, maybe a cow....is this the kind of thing you're after???

I want to live a peaceful, safe life surrounded by children and animals, but I also want to make some impact on the world. Make a difference, change the world, make it a better place - even if just to one person. I want to educate my children myself and for them to grow up as confident, happy people who have the will and desire to fulfill their true potential.

On a less selfish level (oh I do hope I'm not the only one to waffle on this much...!)I want a world where everyone feels safe and loved, has enough food and no-one is discriminated against on the basis on race, age, gender, sexuality, species...yes, I also want a world where animals are treated with the respect they deserve.....

hmmm, that will do for now!

anais · 10/07/2003 20:11

Oooh, forgot a very important one - I want everyone to realise the damage we are doing to our planet and work towards a sustainable and earth friendly future.

jasper · 10/07/2003 21:16

Health.
Love.

northernlass1 · 10/07/2003 21:27

happiness, more time, more patience, more money, more confidence, good health

Janeway · 10/07/2003 21:32

self-knowledge & acceptance, fulfilment in my romantic life, family life and intellectual life (though the order of priority changes)

not much hey?

zebra · 10/07/2003 21:42

I WANT.
A big house in a nice place to live. Nice being somewhere near a city centre with interesting, not too expensive shops selling good quality goods. And some green places (like parks, or better) I can walk to. And neighbours who aren't complete lunatics or otherwise offensive.

I want to get along with the people I love. I want to live a long healthy active & happy life & die a painless, fear-free death.

I want the same things for my children. I'd like the world to be a better place for my children's grandchildren than it is today.

I probably would like more, but all that I've written seems quite ambitious already.

CAM · 10/07/2003 21:51

I want to be a lady novelist and eat chocolate

ks · 10/07/2003 23:05

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mammya · 10/07/2003 23:09

I want my child to grow up a happy, balanced human being, a job that I enjoy and pays me a decent wage, a nice house or flat to live in, good sex once in a while, chocolate more than once in a while, a fairer society, and world peace.

prufrock · 10/07/2003 23:11

Another bottle of Baileys - this ones empty.

No seriously:
To be respected/accepted by men as as good as them, but different.

For a man (well just my dh would be a start) to think for himself and be as responsible as he expects me to be.

To find a fulfilling career whcih I can happily combine with being a parent

For my dd, and other future kids to admit, even if only when they are much older, that I wasn't that bad as a Mum

suzyj · 10/07/2003 23:14

I want to raise a happy brood of rosy-cheeked, enchantingly grubby yet unfailingly polite tousle-haired moppets, while running a cutting edge silversmithery/jewellery design business from a beautiful home, shared with my creative, happy, in-love-with me and still-sexy husband.

Or, failing that, the moon on a stick for thruppence.

cathncait · 11/07/2003 01:46

hmm.. this is a hard one....
I would want:
To feel passionate and motivated to do worthwhile things with my time - like help more people, play more with dd, spend more time with the people I love.
I want to feel secure and loved by my partner and family.
I want to feel like I contribute to the world and not feel like I do 'nothing' because I'm a SAHM. (not that I consider it nothing!).
I want my daughter to grow up being happy and secure in who she is and to find what it is she is passionate about and to pursue it.

Bobbins · 11/07/2003 02:33

I want to be loved and respected by my family and feel love and respect for them. This includes a partner obviously.

I want a child. I want peace...how contradictory!

I want a job that challenges me, but I also feel comfortable and confident within.

I want to be slimmer and richer. Lastly but definitely not leastly...I want extremely good sex.

Bobbins · 11/07/2003 02:49

whoops...forgot

WORLD PEACE

MAN

Skara · 11/07/2003 07:24

A husband who is around to see our children grow up instead of working 13 hour days. More time more money and less stress. To live in the country and let my children have the childhood I enjoyed with dogs and ponies and freedom. A government who prioritise their spending and sort out education, housing and health instead of spending millions on wars no-one wants. An end to world hunger and to corrupt governments. And lots of other things I could think of had I a child who slept later than 5am every morning (oh yes, I'd like her to learn to sleep till 7 too!)

emsiewill · 11/07/2003 07:41

I want my family to be happy and healthy. My relationship with all of them to be loving, open and mutually respectful. I want a job that I can enjoy, that challenges me and lets me use my talents. A home to live in that is comfortable and secure. To have enough money to be able to spend it without thinking about the consequences. A world where everyone has what they need to live in comfort and happiness. Access to proper healthcare and education for all.
And the ability to eat whatever I want without worrying about it would be nice!

easy · 11/07/2003 17:41

I want my hip and leg to mend properly so I can get on my feet to be a proper mother and wife again.
ATM I'm relying on dh to care for me right now (how will I ever get my sex-appeal back), and other people to care for my ds (i gave up work when he was born to be full-time mum, now I can't do it)

selfish I know, but at the fore right now.

EmmaTMG · 11/07/2003 18:06

I want DH to be at home more and all the DIY to be done on our house so that we can spent all our spare time with the kids/eachother.
I would love DH to say lets have another baby after No.3 is born in September. I haven't even mentioned this to him as it took me over a year to convince him to have No.3 so I'm quite sure No.4 would be out of the question.
I want to feel normal about having no social life....a strange one I know but so many people think I'm mad to want to stay in just being a mum and a wife.
Obviously health and happiness for all my friends and family, and to always know that my children whatever their ages, even in adulthood, will always be safe from harm and away from all the 'nasties' in this world.

EmmaTMG · 11/07/2003 18:22

I'd also want those 'nasties ' to stay away from ALL children and for everyone to be safe from harm, which I suppose translates to world peace!

SamboM · 11/07/2003 19:38

It all.

Immediate things

I would love to be able to work 3 days a week yet still be paid the same. Actually make that 2 days.

I would love to take off on an adventure

I want to be thinner. (working on that one)

General things

I want my daughter to be healthy and happy.

Ditto husband, family and dog (oh and me of course)

I want MORE TIME!

SamboM · 11/07/2003 19:39

Oh and I forgot one very important one, I want my dh and I to be happy together forever (pass the bucket I know, but it's been nearly 14 years and I want another 40!)

bouncy · 11/07/2003 21:50

To be able to afford to stay at home with ds and not work.

For me and my family the best of health.

No more war, no reason for war.

To be able to find someone reliable to look after ds so dp and I can go out once in a while.

morocco · 11/07/2003 23:53

healthy happy children
a good marriage
an interesting job that I can fit around my parenting but that is flexible enough for me to take time out when I need to too
excellent maternity leave and my job kept open for me for up to 2 years after giving birth
cheap phone/internet/flights so I can keep in touch with family easily
an end to third world poverty, innoculations for all children who need them, access to the essentials of life to everyone, world peace (do I sound like Miss World?)

Lennie · 12/07/2003 00:55

*Financial security
*healthy and happy children
*a good marriage
*a successful career working for myself
*flexible lifestyle to enable my family to travel
*a computer with sound card and the ability to use webcams
*to lose a stone without having to diet or excercise a lot

  • to be able to afford to fly back to see my family at least one each year, and not have to go economy!
Lennie · 12/07/2003 00:56

I swear I didn't read Morocco's before I posted!