Is mumsnet for times like these?!?

[ForestFly]

Anyone awake who wants to talk?

Hi Forestfly, seen your story on other threads. I'm awake, can talk if you want.

Thankyou, thought i was talking to a blank wall!!!!!!!!!

I'm up (just) - I haven't been on mumsnet for yonks, first time for months, so I've completely lost touch with whos whos and whats whats.

Don't know who's who, or whats what either!just got very upset and found it helped!

So how are you feeling tonight Forestfly? Hope it's not too bad. I really feel for you, it must be really hard. I had to chuck my p out about 18 months ago, and even though it was my choice it really hurt for a while. So I can (sort of) relate to what you're feeling. But maybe you want to talk about something else altogether?

Curryfan, if you want to know what this is all about, Forestfly's story is on the "staying calm" thread.

So are you new on mumsnet FF? How did you find out about it?

Yes, I read a lot of really interesting threads with great advice and comforting words when I was a regular. I think it certainly helps to vent your feelings to people who do not have any idea who you are.

Well I'm here. Have read your story on the other thread, Forestfly, and sending you big sympathy.

Although I didn't have children at the time, so didn't need to be particularly strong for anyone, I do know how devastating having your partner unexpectedly leave you can be. Just to say, don't be ashamed to cry, when you're by yourself, and when you're with others. It will be much easier for other people to offer to help you if they can see how much you are suffering. The strong, silent type is always deemed to be "coping" very well.

Is there anything you could do to try and occupy yourself in the evening? Maybe sign up for an evening class that needs some homework, or learn to play the guitar or something. I get the impression that it is the evenings you are finding hardest.

Hope you find some night owls to talk to as bed time beckons for me. Take care. ((((hugs))))

A search engine! I am new to this, but its bloody good! My X is upstairs,his last night!I'm here feeling very sentimental! Don't want to say goodbye, but heyhoe these things happen!

Just read your thread FF, I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. I only know that in times of trouble I turn to my friends and family, who I know will always be there for me.

Good 4 u Curryfan!

I feel like a terrible mother because im the only one up!

How come he's upstairs? That must be really weird.

Well i'm up too...

And me, although I'm off to bed in a minute.

Does that make me a horrible mother? I hope not...

i'm a soft touch and if anyones lost i want to look out for them

Anyway, I'm off to bed. Night all.

Yes I can relate to that. You can't be such a horrible mum then...

night night curryfan

But still from what I understand there was quite a scene with your parents, how can you go from there to having him sleep upstairs? Sorry, you don't have to answer if you think I'm being nosy...

My X man is upstairs because i dont want to let him down, can't get that nasty streak in me yet!

Are you still there forestfly?

Sorry our posts crossed.

That's very generous and noble of you, and I mean that without any sarcasm.

maybe that will help him realise what a big mistake he's making. If you want him back and you obviously do, it's probably a better strategy than to kick him out...