Is mumsnet for times like these?!?

[ForestFly]

Anyone awake who wants to talk?

From reading this Maamyaa, it's not what women do! I feel a bit weak!

I feel a bit daft, he's upstairs, and if i had my choice i'd be with him. he thinks i've got lonely, i think i've found shit hot women!

Well I did... Kick out my X I mean. But there was violence involved so not the same situation really...
How many children have you got, and how old are they? I have a dd who is 2and 3months.

I've had violence, but never physical, usually very abusive, wanted to help him(obviously can't)My babbas are boys 2 and 4 xxxxxxxxxxx

Well in my experience it's very easy for verbal violence to slip into physical violence. Plus verbal/mental violence can be just as bad if not worse. Isn't it weird though how you can keep loving someone who is violent and horrible to you? I still loved my x wehn I kicked him out and I too wanted to help him but he never wanted to help himself. He never accepted that he needed help in the first place so not much I could do really. Before we split up we went to Relate and that didn't help, in some ways it made things worse. Having said all this, now I look back and wonder why on earth I stayed with him so long, and hwo I could carry on loving him despite all the crap.

Thankyou for everything, its sounds a bit mad , but you have made my break up better! I am so glad i found this sight!I feel when im going to cry lots of women have cried to, and i'm not alone

Well it's time for me to go to bed now so good night, stay strong, and keep posting if it helps.

Sleep well mammaya

Forestfly - how did it go last night? I'm not going to lay on the "what the hell are you playing at" lecture...... but....... Do you think it was a good idea for YOUR feelings to let him stay? Never mind his feelings.

What's happened this morning? Is it still all over? Did you manage to discuss anything constructive??

All these questions...... Honest... I'm not the mumsy type, just worried that you may be more upset than before.
You're probably having a long lie coz you were up til all hours on Mumsnet!!! It's very addictive.

It was stupid to let him stay!!!!!!!! Just can't believe it was o.k a week ago!!!!! Hes gone now but i had to loose all pride
and make sure he meant it. Thats what you do with best friends!!!!!!!Gutted

FF - It's done now... you had to it for yourself to make sure it was really going to happen. Look at this as your first step forward.
Did you manage to sort out any practicalities?

Hes a student, and we rent our house. Hes gone home until he can afford to live round here( Im in Manchester,he's back to Edinburgh) Nothing to sort out really i'm just going to have to go on benefits (great)

well done you FF, your a strong person and were all here anytime you need us.

Wish i did messed about far to much in my life, then had kids! Desperate for a career, but only qualified for C*P jobs. I know i could work really hard!!!!!