Anyone with Just the one..................

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Having been trying for three years dh and i are coming around to the idea of just having one dd is 4.

Problem: will she not feel lonely???
Is it better to have siblings????
We have said we will see by the end of the year but not bothered really???

Kama - I am 35 and DP 42. I was advised to have planned C section (but didn't in end) and I planned that I would be be sterilised at same time. As I was that sure that I only wanted 1 DD. I did know sex before birth so maybe this helped as really wanted a girl. It took me 4 yrs to get pg, I was over joyed but still only ever wanted 1 DD.

Oaktree i am so sorry, have you thought about ADOPTION???? A few months ago i was told that as we had been trying for 3-4 years that coz i am 34 and he 41 it looked as if something was wrong or that i could not have any.... i have been waiting for an appt with the fertilty clinic for 2 months and i think in that time having read what you have to go throughdh and i decided that we are lucky just to have one beautiful child then never to have had any..............

Thank you batters my dd has no cousins her age. my sil children are 13 & 16 so i hassling my sisters to get on with it now. But i too do alo of socialising and dd loves metting new people and is so confident in new surroundings.

Sorry very lazy with my full stops.

Oaktree, Please dont fold up, keep positive and dont believe all that the doctors tell you. They do get it wrong and honestly they admit that they dont have all the answers. If you really want another, do what it takes to try and make it happen. It all seems very raw now but do your research (if you havent already), and armed with knowledge you can be the judge of whether you can conceive or not. Dont like to pry and tell me to b- off, but do you know what the problem is exactly?

Sorry haven't had to read all of the thread and need to catch the last post but we have 1 dd - she is 5 - we have been tring for about four and a half years but number 2 just hasn't happened - some things not meant to be - we love her, try not to spoil her, she does lots of activities and has friends round. Made more difficult as DH and I have 9 siblings between us but at least she has cousins and loads of aunts and uncles who adore her. Of course I am sad that we only have the one but am also very grateful to have at least one as I have a number of close friends who have tried for years without success. HTH

pry away!!! As i understand it (& could be wrong) teh high FSh levels indicate that whatever gland is involved is having to work extra hard to stimulate my ovaries into producing eggs as I either hvaen't got enough, or they are of poor quality so need kick starting. They will do another test next period to check them again just incase it is post miscarrige hormones still.
I do realise that having a sibling is no guarrantee of closeness (DH & I have 3 siblings between us that we have very little contact with depite our best efforts) - it's just that hvaing only 1 wasn't in my plan & I'm sulking!!!!
hvae bought some agnus castus & will proably carry on trying so at least i feel i'm doing something. thnak you for all your kind words - I can't talk about this without crying so htis is a great help.

No expert in this field you understand, but sounds like a visit to an Endicrinologist is required. (not sure of spelling) Can recommend Mr Edwards of the Steptoe & Edward collusion (first pioneers of ivf treatment). Last I knew he was based at The Evelyn Hospital in Cambridge.

Mr Edwards checked my hormone levels when it was discovered that I had a over secretion of a substance from my pituatry gland. It was treated with tablets whilst I went through ivf.