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dd 17 is missing from home

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ilovesprouts · 30/08/2009 12:57

hi my dd went to work on fri and said she was going camping whith bf and fam ,my dh saw bf sd on his motor bkie, so i rang his sd and they was all at home since then ive found out dd has gone to salford to see a pal ,whos well known to the police etc so i rang the police up and they said as she is 17 she can come/go as she wants to she wont answer her fone im so upset !! anyone been in my shoes

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 30/08/2009 22:01

17 isn't an adult - 18 is, and I know that is splitting hairs but the police should be being more helpful. You could argue she is a vulnerable person because of the company she is keeping.

WebDude · 30/08/2009 22:03

Is your daughter into music in a big way? Just that there's the Creamfields festival on near Runcorn/Liverpool, so not a million miles from Salford if that might be somewhere they could have gone.

Hope she's in touch soon, and while can understand concern, hope you can try to stay calm and not explode when she returns, as she's old enough to say "I'll do what I want" and flounce out again...

Know you're worried, angry, and unhappy {with her and her dad}, but even though she knows you are concerned (when she bothers to listen to voicemail, sees text messages) and will know she'll be in trouble when she gets home, she might react badly and overstep even further if she thinks she has nothing to lose, hence my concern that having a big row about it could be worst possible thing...

I'm sure she knows (deep down) you are concerned because you love her, and concerned for her safety, and consider her friend least suitable as a friend, but explaining you're cross because you care rather than mention the friend, might help her see you're not being a killjoy, but have concern about her safety if she says one thing and does another.

(Only know about Creamfields as I heard it mentioned on R1 on Saturday while flicking across the stations while I was on a train - never been much of a festivals person myself)

Marrenon · 30/08/2009 22:05

webdude, if you live within a few miles of it you have no choice as to wether you are a festival person or not!

WebDude · 30/08/2009 22:05

(sorry, see Marrenon also mentioned Creamfields)

Marrenon · 30/08/2009 22:06

[old grump emotion]

and i am a huge music fan,

just not that sort of music

thesecondcoming · 30/08/2009 22:12

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suwoo · 30/08/2009 22:19

Parts of Salford amd its surrounding areas are very nice. I live 5 minutes away. Most of Salford, however is not so nice. Maybe if you have left her messages threatening to bollock her she won't be in a rush to come home and put you out of your misery.

Meglet · 30/08/2009 22:21

bit further away but Leeds festival is also on.

I hope she gets in touch soon.

WebDude · 30/08/2009 22:21

understood Marrenon... suspect even I may enjoy some of it (despite being 50) if it was being played below 100 dB !!

Wherever daughter is, keeping my fingers crossed she responds soon, to at least confirm she is OK, and safe...

aristocat · 30/08/2009 22:31

hope you hear from her soon

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ilovesprouts · 30/08/2009 23:45

secondcoming ,no shes not gay nore is her palif you read my first post she has bf !!police are not coming out tonight as they are dealing we emergancys only !!

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ilovesprouts · 31/08/2009 00:15

ffs my dd is NOT GAY

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MaryMotherOfCheeses · 31/08/2009 00:22

I hope she gets in touch soon. You must be so stressed.

chimchar · 31/08/2009 08:08

any news sprouts? how you doing?

StillNorks · 31/08/2009 08:22

Sprouts, I hope you DD is home safe and well soon.

I understand that you are very stressed and emotional right now, but jumping down a posters throat because she suggest your DD may have have been gay is a bit much. she was only suggesting options.

BTW in your first post you mentions DD's bf, which can be best friend or boyfriend, so difficult to know as you do not mention her relationship any further.

I agree with other posters that if she knows how angry you are going to be then she will be reluctant to return

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 31/08/2009 09:25

sprouts - any news?

Have you texted her to say no bollocking but can she please just let you know she is okay and a rough idea of when she will be home?

TheDMshouldbeRivened · 31/08/2009 12:27

any news? I was on tranquillisers when dd ran away and we actually knew where she was! Kids!

ilovesprouts · 31/08/2009 13:11

i was not jumping down anyones throat ,i said itf she had read my first post she has bf !! ... anyhow the police have been this morning and i have filled out a missing person report etc ,but since then my pals dd rang her this morning and she would not answer as she did not reconise her num so palds dd txt her ,so she rang her and said she was im salford as she wanted to get away for a whlie ,and if i knew she was going with her friend i would not of let her go ,too right i would not !!so just waiting for the police to get in touch and to see wen she is coming home !! so i if i jumoed down a posters throat im sorry ,but im out of my mind !!thanks for all your concern ,i will post an update later !!

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ilovesprouts · 31/08/2009 13:14

sorry bf = boy friend

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TheDMshouldbeRivened · 31/08/2009 14:20

glad you know she is alive and safe. Thats one relief.

aristocat · 31/08/2009 14:43

good news.....i think
hope you are not so worried now.

MaryMotherOfCheeses · 31/08/2009 15:40

Glad she's safe.

I can understand you've been a bit stressed out.

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