For all those starting threads about fulfillment and SAHMdom..

[Mud]

Can I suggest

if you are unfulfilled being a SAHM, get a job (then see how unfulfilled you truly feel )

if you are unfulfilled working, try and find time for a hobby or sport or try to go part-time, stop working

if all else fails buy a rabbit

.. there, that's sorted

Fab advice, Mud

PMSL Mud

OMG you've solved the age old problem. and it was so easy. hero

Love it!

What kind of rabbit? A real live one or a battery operated one?

mummycan

There's more than one kind of fulfilment!

If only it were that easy Mud. I can't get a job because I feel I have an obligation to ds3 who is still at home. I was home for the others and want to give ds3 what I gave them. Also, in a new area. Not sure how to find a suitable childminder. Not sure I can afford a childminder. Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, I lack the confidence to get a job. Sort that out for me please.

I think only you can sort that one out LM!! If you really really want a job you will research childminders etc. Perhpas couselling would help with lack of confidence?

I'm a SAHM in the day and I work at night and weekends-great for my sons but not for my relationship-I would choose to work a couple of days in the week if I could afford childminder/nursery so as to have a sane balance for all of us but as the kids come first then Mummy and daddy are second for the time being!
I agree with the hobby bit but you are presuming that person 1;
A. Has the energy to do so
B. Has the time to do after working loads of hours,fitting in housework,childrearing etc
C.Has money.

And talking of money,you are presuming that people who are unfulfilled at work CAN afford to go part time or to stop altogether.

What planet are you on Mud?

No, if I want to go back to my old job, I am coming round to the idea that I shall have to avail myself of the retraining ops (much as it sticks in my throat to admit I need to retrain - me! who was so competent at her work!) Perhaps the issue is getting the confidence to go for something new. Another Mner pointed me in a good direction the other day and I might pursue that but it would be unpaid initially so there would be no money for a childminder so I would have to wait two years for ds3 to go to school.

What I really want Mud to understnad is that it isn't simply a case of changing to what you want. There are limitations, restrictions, other considerations....

Mud: I assume that as I'm starting the threads, then this is directed at me.

I'm just interested in other women's experience other motherhood, and why they make different choices to myself.

I'm sorry if any of my questions make you (other other posters) feel uncomfortable - I really don't understand why that is.

Yes i agree,(MP) a bit harsh that posting mud.

it was a joke

could you not tell by the rabbit comment

have some people had their SOH surgically removed???

I thought it must have been a joke, wasnt sure because of the postings that followed.
Sorry hun..

Apart from the rabbit and batteries one...hmmmmm

rabbits anyone?

Ha,bloody,Ha! Am too tired to appreciate subtle humour-try "Why did the rabbit cross the road..." next time! It may raise a titter!!!

OH MY F***G GOD!!!!
I must live a sheltered life, have you seen the variety of THEM.....

It was a bit difficult to tell Mud. The rabbit bit might have been a bit of facetiousness but the rest sounded patronising. Just goes to show you can't read tones in people's words.

Just have to have one more look.....

oh and before anyone asks how I found that website.......I googled it 5 minutes ago

Getting ready for the weekend Gwenick?

It is always so difficult to get some thing across on here, im always worried that people wont get mu humour or if they are feeling fed up, will take it the wrong way.