If you knew your child wasn't going to be inviting another child to their birthday party, would you not send your child the theirs?

[Indiechick]

Only I think I've committed some social faux pas. I only invited the girls to my dd's 5th birthday party but I've been cheerfully sending her to all the boys paries throughout the year. Is this not the done thing? Or should the one mother of a boy who felt the need to comment get over it?

My DD has been invited to 2 parties this year to celebrate 4th birthdays (4!!!!) I've said that i'm going to let her have a couple of friends over for her 5th birthday and that is when DS will also start to do it to. I'm sorry but I can't afford to do a whole class party and I don't want the responsibility of a whole class party either.

No matter who tells me that it's not that expensive, it is to me. I want a few friends, birthday cake, a few hours of them playing etc. We went to one 3rd party which had hired a play place out with everything included etc and then didn't get invited to the 4th birthday, I think because we didn't have a party and invite them back. I can't be bothered with the one up manship of it all.

Exactly paranoidmother-do exactly what you want to do-there is no need to get drawn in. I think the younger the DC the smaller the party. By the time they get to the age to appreciate a large party people have gone down to a small one!

That is dreadful lockets-I don't think she would have wanted to go anyway. Some people are very odd!!!