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[Rhubarb]

There, now I can be all miserable without hijacking anyone else's thread! Custdy mate, wanna join me? We can be miserable together!

I hate pregnancies!!!!

Rhubarb - my thoughts are with you.

Rhubarb, I am so sorry to read your story, I had 2 m/c's before I had DS, I remember being totally gutted to find out I was pregnant, decided on an abortion, then changed my mind, then lost the baby. I had so many thoughts rushing round my head, I even thought it was my fault because 'the baby' didn't feel wanted, and it too a long time to except that it was just natures way and nothing I had done. Just wanted to say thinking of you today. People handle this situation very differently. Best of luck. XXX

Thinking of you, Rhubarb. Lots of love Snowbird xxx

Rhubarb I can't begin to imagine what you are going through - but we are all here to listen whenever you need to talk.

Thinking of you, Rhubarb, expecially today.

gillymac xxx

Rhubarb - so sorry. Thinking of you xxx

thinking of you too rhubarb. best wishes.

Rhubarb - so sorry to hear of all you're going through. Lots of love Rx

Jimjams - I apologise in advance for the post on the other thread!
I stopped bleeding yesterday. Went for a scan this morning which basically said that the pregnancy sac is still there, which was a shock for me. However there is a large blood clot above it. This could indicate the start of a miscarriage, this is what happens in most cases, but in some cases, this simply gets absorbed by the uterus and the pregnancy carries on as normal. It is too early to say if the foetus is alive or not. I have another scan booked for a week tomorrow when they can see what has happened to the blood clot, and if the sac has grown at all. The doctor gave the pregnancy a 50/50 chance of continuing.
Of all the possible scenarios I had in my mind, this is quite possibly the worst! I would much rather either miscarry, or be told it is fine, but to be left in limbo is just awful! We've had to cancel our Easter break and now we are just waiting - don't really know what for! I still think I will probably miscarry so I guess I am waiting for that to happen. Dh is hopeful it will continue.
I guess this is justice! Did someone quote "Be careful what you wish for, it might come true"?

I feel awful at present. A whole muddle of feelings. I don't know what to hope for or what to focus on at all! So I'll take a little break from Mumsnet, but will come back if anything happens. The support I've had on here really has helped and does continue to help! I think I just need to get my head around this one.

Wishing you all the best rhubarb, hope things work out your way

Me too rhubarb. actually didn't mean to be brusque but was checking ds2's gum at the time- he has something stuck so wasn't really thinking as I was typing, and it came out stronger than I meant.

Thinking of you over the next week. Make sure you rest lots and look after yourself.

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Just to let you know that I went for the scan this morning - everything is fine! They picked up a heartbeat (just the one!!!) and the dates correspond. The blood clot is still there, but has moved to the side so is no longer such a threat, it will probably be absorbed and come out as brownish discharge. They wanted to go a vaginal scan, but I said no, so they want me to go back in two weeks just to double check. But the doc said he is 90% sure that everything is ok!

Thanks for all the messages, I have been reading them. You've all helped tons and I'm really glad I have found Mumsnet!

So.....I'm pregnant again! Aaaaarrrgh! No, it is good news, I wouldn't have wanted anything to happen to it (probably a boy, always trouble-makers!), but still have to cope with giving birth and having 2 kids around! Ouch! Somebody tell me some good things about doing this again!

Glad to here the good news. Take care

I'm so glad you sound happier, Rhubarb

OK, 2 are hard work, I won't try to hide that fact and yes, giving birth still hurts 2nd time round but I watch my 2 DSs playing together... listen and sneakily watch DS1 hugging his brother and saying "I love you"... I am endlessly facinated by how different their personalities are when they come from the same genetic make up and the same environment... I think "wahey! two sons to look after me in my dotage" and yes, it was worth all the bad bits.

The bad bits only last a short part of a lifetime after all. The good bits are there forever

It's not exactly the same 2nd time round - you'll get a different little person this time and you have a vague idea of what you're meant to do with it.

Hugs,

Rhubarb, glad everything is going OK, and glad to hear you so much happier and more positive. Take care of yourself.

So pleased to hear your news, and that you seem so much happier, look after yourself and best wishes for the next few months.

Rhubarb - so pleased everything is looking up for you! What is you due date?

Rhubarb, how good to hear all is still well and that you are feeling less shocked by your news now. Take care!

Rhubarb, I'm so relieved. Please don't feel bad about what you wished for. I've been there too. I lost DS2's twin seconds after I had got down on my hands and knees and cried that I couldn't stand the sickness any longer (I had severe pregnancy sickness). I'm not being melodramatic - that is actually what happened, and I didn't know it was twins until the m/c scan. Anyway, enough of me, I hope you feel better, wish you all the best, and the offer of practical help still stands.

Rhubarb - I'm so pleased that everything is OK. At least you know the signs to look out for if your PND comes back, so will be able to get help. With the aid of God and a few policemen (as my Grandad used to say!) it won't rear its ugly head again. I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy. Keep us posted.

Chinchilla

Rhubarb, it's fantastic! Just wait till you get to number three