I am of course BU so this is not in AIBU, but my sister has left leaving my confidence in the cellar and I now need to pull myself together to brave another visit in a few weeks and then they all want to come in March with my Mum. I need hard drugs.

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I of course want to see her and have told her as such but God it is shit having perfect siblings and a parent only to happy to point out al your failings.

It is even worse as now we are living somewhere new I have to deal with the whole surprised exclamations of "are they your sisters?"

In the past it was easier as at least I was seenas the daughter who had escaped poverty and achieved stability, now we dont even have that.

I know I am rambling and being highly unreasonable but as soon as I saw my sister off and realised another one was on the way I was planning my next expedition into starvation and complete life rehaul.

Am I the only mad jealous old bint who feels like this? The worst thing is that not only do I get depressed about the fact that I am the far ugly failure of the family it pisses me of that I am the green eyed monster of the family as well, jealousy is so unnatractive.

I have a few things to say about that.

1. You are not a far ugly failure.
2. You are a normal human being
3. I'm quite willing to bet that they are jealous of you in some way
4. If someone exclaims "Are they your sisters?", usually it's because they don't always think that much of them.
5. Sisters are a pain in the arse
6. Mothers are a pain in the arse because they always talk about sisters.
7. You're mother HAS the problem and your mother IS PART OF the problem.
8. Now you are living somewhere new, remember people get to know you and your family- they don't really care about your siblings as they're not living in the same community.
9. ((have a quick hug))

is this the sister you are housing because she can't find anywhere herself? hardly perfect. in fact none of them are if they are unkind to you in any way.

To be fair different ID you do not know me so I could be a fat ugly failure

They are not jealous of me in any way shape or form, for a brief while my sister said she envied me having a settled family life but the more time she spends with us I think the more she realises the grass is not greener.

I had my middle sister to dinner the other day with some new friends I had made and they could not get over the fact that we were related and yet so different. One even said "I cannot believe that she is only a year younger than you I would have said at least ten years" My sister was the total star of the evening and I was relegated to the kitchen.

That is the other sister fishie, they are never unkind to me, my middle sister in particular does not have an unpleasant bone in her body. I am the rottweiler of the family.

My baby sister is just unbelievably lucky, she just has a magnetism, as well as being incredibly beautiful, that means things go her way.

maybe it was novelty value?
anyway- I may not know you but I like your sense of humour on mn.
No one is a failure till they give up- you certainly aren't giving up on anything as far as I can see therefore you are not a failure

And this jealous whinging only adds to my flaws, when did I become so crap?

I agree failure is a strong word, I could very easily be a failure were I not such a stubborn bitch.

see- a positive at last! Being single-minded is a positive thing.

lol I suppose so, I just hate myself for feeling like this.

I almost wish that I did not love my sisters to bits as then I could cut them out of my life. I have cried myself to sleep almost every night that my sister has been here.

You're the eldest sister too aren't you?

I am the eldest that remained in the family yes.

I always hate the fact that i've always been "gently" reminded throughout my entire life that "she's your little sister, let her be". I resent that and the fact being the eldest there is the expectation I should be the one doing this that and the other. I have reached a point where I have to just do what I need to do for my own health and wellbeing first and then other people next. 2009 is a fresh start, to maybe look forward to?

well i beg to differ, ive met you and you are lovely, funny, intellegent and very couragous getting through what you ahve been through.
AND just look at what a gorgeous daughter you made...that takes geneous and deserves the upmost respect and envy from any one who doesnt have children. (including skinny sisters)

Twinset, haven't been on here for a long while, plus have namechanged as I thought a fresh start would be nice, but I remember you well as a witty and amusing poster .

In the time I haven't been on here, you've obviously had some major upheavals (haven't searched for posts specifically but get a general impression). So......I reckon you need to be kind to yourself; accept you are going to feel like this in response to whatever has been going on, and try not to beat yourself up about feeling negative....you are human.

I just dont see it deany and tbh neither does anyone else in my family. Deany have you namechnaged?

Donbean

xxxxx

You are not the only mad jealous old bint who feels like this. I have three beautiful stepsisters and an over-achieving, rich and successful brother, and yes, sometimes (OK, often) it grates.

But but but - they love me. As I'm sure your sisters love you. They love you regardless of your poverty or stability or fatness - and ultimately that has to be enough, because otherwise you will have a lifetime of feeling jealous.

And besides, do they have a DD as great as yours? Do they have a job they love? Do they have a whole army of MNers who like and support them? Somehow I doubt it

my sisters are skinny and gorgeous and comment about my weight and that my son is dislikable and out of control and are not very nice on the whole. (i have posted endlessly about one of my sisters in particular)
And to be honest, i dont compare myself to them because i am me, they are them and they are not nice...i am

hello donbean I was wondering where you were.

Hassled they do love me and I really want that to be enough, and in some ways it is because I always welcome them into my home and we share things and they are a great aunty to my dd. But it hurts seeing them and I know that this is about me and not them. The middle sister has a job she loves the baby sister will never have a vocation as she is not motivated that way but she will be successful financially which is what matters to her.

Deanychip unfortunately both my sisters are very nice people, the baby is nice in quite a self motivated way but still lovely. My middle sister is practically as saint.

God talk about timing , middle sister has just facebooked me to say that she has been stood up new years eve and can she come down tomorrow to be with us as she loves visiting.

I am such a cow

I will make you feel thin and beautiful on Friday

Thanks 5gomad

Now do you want cold roast chicken, ham, jacet potatoes, followed by treacle tart or do you want proper high tea, cakes, crumpets etc