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Bad Mothers Club

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Clarinet60 · 28/02/2003 11:14

Anyone watch this item on This Morning this morning?
It was great, a real breath of fresh air, even the mum who left her 20 mnth old alone on a potty for half an hour and returned to a room and a dd smeared with poo.

Does anyone fancy exposing their own worst BadMamma moment? (I'll be admitting mine forthwith - just have to summon the courage....)

(Actually, I wouldn't be surprised if the founders are amongst us on mumsnet. If you are out there reading this, give us a clue.
Are you out there?)

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sprout · 04/03/2003 12:51

Picking dd up by the forearms (sp?) to stop her going head-first into the water barrel in the garden last summer ... only to have to head off to a&e a few hours later as I discovered I'd dislocated her elbow. Very difficult trying to explain at the hospital how it had happened.

CAM · 04/03/2003 12:57

Bugsy that did make me laugh! I've had dd being sick on me but luckily not the other way round (yet)

witch1 · 04/03/2003 13:08

Suffering from weeks of sleep deprivation with first baby ventured out into world of shopping balanced rock a tot on top of supermarket trolley and as I turned caught the foot of the rocker in my jacket and flipped seat off. Caught it cms from the floor upside down but was immediately assaulted in frozen pea section by gang of grannies for being soo irresponsible. Just stood there in a stupor still shaking with relief. Went home and cried for a day swearing never to leave the house agin as I was not a capable parent. DH only concern was that he might end up having to do shopping for ever.

witch1 · 04/03/2003 13:14

Oh dear now I keep remembering all the things I have done wrong over the last 6 years and it is getting me down. HELP

Tissy · 04/03/2003 13:18

I drove 20 miles with dd strapped into the car seat, but forgot to put the seat belt around it on the front seat. Only noticed when I went to take her out of the car.

NQWWW · 04/03/2003 13:20

Witch1 - you have reminded me of an incident with a friend's new baby (is this worse than mistreating your own?). We had got the kids out of the car (my friend's 2-week old dd was in her carseat on the pavement) and I was helping my friend get the bags out, when I saw my ds heading for the road. In my panic to grab him I leapt over the carseat, but caught it with my foot and sent it flying. Happily no injury to the baby, but I was devastated.

bossykate · 04/03/2003 13:30

bugsy, that is a role reversal in the man bites dog category!

Marina · 04/03/2003 13:37

Bugsy, I think that is a role reversal we have all dreamed of carrying out at some point! You and Lara have both made me laugh today

sylvev · 04/03/2003 13:49

After a wonderful sunday lunch out with dh, ds (then 3) and other relatives, dh and I fell asleep on the sofa. We woke to find our ds had felt-tipped himself all over with a laundry marker pen, biro and various felt tip pens!!

bossykate · 04/03/2003 14:53

child free friends:

  • they always know someone who went out partying until their due date
  • they always know someone who kept on playing squash until two weeks before their child was born
  • they can't understand why (a) you won't bring your child to their loud, late-night, smoky, drunken party when their sister/colleague/friend of friend always does or (b) why you can't get a babysitter or (c) why you can't be back at 2.00am if you have a babysitter
  • they just don't get and never will till they have their own kids!

cha, i've been on the receiving end of this sort of thing, but i tend to agree with scatterbrain, from your friend's pov, you blew her out at the last minute on her birthday. if you want to keep the friendship going (maybe you don't and it's time to move on), i would apologise again (yes i know this will probably stick in your throat) and then really explain how awful and tired you are feeling etc etc. i'm not surprised you are angry, but i just think many people who haven't been through it themselves won't understand.

hope you are feeling better about it all now and good luck with whatever you decide to do

bossykate · 04/03/2003 14:54

aargh i have posted this on the wrong thread! sorry!

Rhubarb · 04/03/2003 15:20

Everytime we go out the door, dd asks "Are we going to the pub again?" She also knows the difference between wine, booze and Guinness!

Lara2 · 05/03/2003 22:10

Another shameful incident! Last summer, walking in Benidorm old town, Sunday evening, very crowded, I was mugged by this kid. At the time was holding ds2's hand (5). I was so incensed at the mugging, I actually let go of ds2's hand and ran after the thief, grabbed him and shouted at him to give me back my purse. Meanwhile, DH has luckily found ds2 (who was 'only' a few paces behind him) and is wondering what's happened to me. I did get my purse back, but was shaking with the thought of what could have happened to ds2!!! NEVER again - no matter how angry I am!!!!

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Clarinet60 · 05/03/2003 22:25

LOL bossykate!

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MandyD · 05/04/2003 22:25

Yesterday DS came home from playgroup with what looked like another outbreak of ringworm (he picked it up from there once before). I was trying to remember the whereabouts of the ointment, forgot about it till bathtime then washed his face and it came off - it was spaghetti sauce!!

Slinky · 05/04/2003 22:55

Just sighed a breath of relief as I read Bugsys message!!

I too have thrown up over DD1 (then 6 months - now 7.5 years and seems unaffected by my Bad Mother moment). We were staying at a friends house overnight - I had a bit too many to drink. Went to bed, DD1 was sleeping next to our bed in her travel cot.

Woke up, thought I was in the bathroom and threw up. Woke DH up to say I had been ill, but didn't know where LOL! Switched lights on to find that DD1 was laying in her cot STILL ASLEEP covered in my vomit - not over her head or face, but over her blankets.

Didn't tell anyone as I was too ashamed - but the friends we were staying with later became DD1 Godparents - so with great delight they told everyone at the Christening Party.

Oh, the shame!

Bron · 06/04/2003 16:33

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emsiewill · 06/04/2003 16:40

Bron LOL. Sounds familiar.

jac34 · 06/04/2003 16:49

Another Bad Dad's Club one,
DH had taken DS's swimming(then 3.5yo), in the changing room afterwards, he dried them, wrapped them tightly in a towel and put them to sit on the bench, while he sorted the clothes out.
DS fell off the bench, and because he was wrapped so tightly, couldn't free his arms to save himself.
He wacked his head on the tiled floor, it came up like a balloon, and we ended up spending the rest of the day in A&E.

Bugsy · 24/04/2003 14:55

Have any of you actually checked out the Bad Mothers Club website? I had a look and was really disappointed. Their chat rooms or discussion threads are really annoying ones where you don't seem to get an ongoing conversation. I still haven't found a site for parents/mums that comes close to this one.

SamboM · 24/04/2003 15:54

Only last week my brother came round, hadn't seen him for a few months and dh was out so we got stuck into some wine, a couple of bottles later dd (7 months) wakes up and won't go back to sleep so I get her out of her cot and bring her down to see her Unk. Dh arrives home at midnight the worse for wear too so we open another bottle and have great fun with dd being v entertaining. We all go to bed and I wake up feeling terrible, the nanny arrives and wonders why dd is covered in red wine stains...

Whoops! Didn't even notice when I put her to bed. Actually don't really remember putting her to bed! Hope social services don't read this board lol!

Marina · 24/04/2003 17:08

I had a quick peek Bugsy and was also very disappointed after the initial hype it got. I think Mumsnet has two big advantages - the best software I've seen and the best contributors

Tinker · 24/04/2003 19:00

I've flirted with BMC but, tbh, don't really check it out very often. I may be being unfair - not really looked at all the threads - but talking about how crap you are all the time can be a bit tedious. But I may be being very unfair there. I think it is very hard to keep up with more than one site.

willow2 · 24/04/2003 19:05

Ditto Marina. I logged on when it got all the publicity - and it was quite amusing at first. But it seems to have become incredibly cliquey - and the threads have suffered as a result. The software is nowhere near as good as Mumsnet's - and the actual content of the site is very hit and miss. Some funny pieces - but some really poor ones and some awful cartoons.

mammya · 24/04/2003 21:32

Totally agree with you Marina, Willow2 and Tinker. Mumsnet the best and I'm hopelessly addicted...