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Please spare a thought for my friends baby

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sweetkitty · 26/02/2005 17:06

One of my best friends had a baby on Thursday her third a girl by C section. She hasn't had the best of pregnancies had loads of bleeds, bad backache and diabetes. She was praying to hang on until 38 weeks so she could go to term, during the section they nicked the placenta and the baby lost a lot of blood resulting in trauma to some of her internal organs. They pur her on a respirator in SCBU to support her breathing and her condition was critical but stable yesterday. Today I had a text message from her hubby saying they had the baby christened and it's not looking good.

The thing is her first baby was an emergency c section due to a placental abruption at 33 weeks. She was told then her baby might not make it but he pulled through and is a lovely 8 year old now. Her second boy was also heading for an abruption but they got her in time although he has a condition affecting his immune system and has spent loads of time in hospital (he's 4 now and getting better).

On top of this she has had loads of troubles with her hubby and they two of them got back together and were delighted to be having this little girl.

I so so feel for her I'm too far away to go and see her I am in bits for her, I've got everyone I know praying for this little baby girl to pull through she's just got to. It's makes you realise how lucky we are sometimes.

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blueteddy · 27/02/2005 08:40

How awful for the poor family.

Peckarollover · 27/02/2005 08:41

How awful

Wishing your friend and her little girl strength

pinkdiamond · 27/02/2005 08:51

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LIZS · 27/02/2005 08:54

Can't begin to imagine what they are going through - hope they get a miracle this time too.

TiredBunny · 27/02/2005 08:58

And I am chatting and moaning on another thread about not getting a lie in.... puts it all in perspective doesnt it!! Saying a prayer for them now x

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sweetkitty · 27/02/2005 09:30

I know what you mean for once I wasn't complaining when DD got me up at 8 this morning but hey life has to go on and we can't stop laughing.

No news as yet dunno if thats a good thing or a bad thing when I phoned her last night (at her request) she was resigned to the fact the baby would pass away but didn't want her to suffer anymore. I felt so helpless what words of comfort can you offer someone in that situation felt like I had to talk to avoid uncomfortable silences yet I was rambling on.

The thing that really angers me about the whole thing isn't that the baby was born premature or had an illness she was a healthy 38 week old baby on Thursday morning who is fighting for her life because some doctor cut into her mummies tummy the wrong way. It was registrar not a consultant that did the op and he wasn't experienced in sections involving placenta previa.

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Toothache · 27/02/2005 09:34

Sweetkitty - What can you say to her at a time like this... nothing really, but be there for her.

It's so so SO unfair and infuriating.

PuffTheMagicDragon · 27/02/2005 12:21

It is tragic that a healthy baby is suffering apparently needlessly .

Blu · 27/02/2005 12:24

Oh Sweetkitty.
Keep talking to her. We are by your side.

Shazia - so sorry.

Dahlia · 27/02/2005 13:19

How very sad. I'm praying for her too xx

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sweetkitty · 27/02/2005 15:24

Had a text from her DH this morning saying the baby had passed away. x1000000

So angry that this could have happened the family have had too much heartache already without this happening.

I feel so so helpless she lives about 3-4 hours away from me and I don't drive. I have no one to look after my DD and I don't want to take her with me. I know she will be surrounded my family and friends though. DP is trying to get a day off work to look after DD so I can go up there.

What can you say? We chatted every day and had a trip planned with both our DDs and used ot chat about them being playmates, it's so so sad.

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joesy · 27/02/2005 15:37

I am so sorry to hear what has happened. You feel you have problems until you hear of something like this.
may she rest in peace. In my prayers and thoughts

SeaShells · 27/02/2005 15:37

So very very sad to hear that, I've been thinking of them since I read your post the other day, so sad

blueteddy · 27/02/2005 15:54

How tragic.

sacha3taylor · 27/02/2005 15:58

I dont really know what to say- sorry doesnt seem to be enough

bunny2 · 27/02/2005 16:00

how unbelievably tragic. Bless them.

Yorkiegirl · 27/02/2005 16:00

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Merlin · 27/02/2005 16:04

Feel really bad now moaning about my back on another thread - how very, very sad. My thoughts go out to your friend and her family.

RTKangaMummy · 27/02/2005 16:05

I don't know what else to say

80sMum · 27/02/2005 16:07

Sweetkitty, I'm so terribly sorry for your friends' tragic loss of their daughter. I was so, so hoping she would pull through. My heart breaks for them, it truly does.

emmatmg · 27/02/2005 16:11

Only just seen this SK.

very sad for your friend and her family, how utterly heart breaking.

PuffTheMagicDragon · 27/02/2005 16:59

Heartbreaking sweetkitty . I'm so sorry she didn't make it.

tortoiseshell · 27/02/2005 17:00

I'm so sorry to hear this news.

WestCountryLass · 27/02/2005 20:10

What terrible news, I am so sorry (((hugs)))

I don't think there is anything you can say or do for your friend at the moment other than jsut being there.

Some things that could be of comfort might be to ask all about her (how much she weighed, what colour eyes she had, whether or not she had hair and all those questions you ask about a newborn), never forgetting her birthday and sending a card to say you are thinking of her parents on this special day, including her name on their Christmas card, to let her parents talk about her and to bring her up in conversation (you will never upset them by remembering her) and to remember her at those times when your DDs would have been playmates and to acknowledge the fact she is missing.

tears

Amanda3266 · 27/02/2005 20:13

. Terrible news for your friend.