Valentines Day

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Just wondering as I having started planning anything yet what everyone is doing for Valentines Day

dont make a big thing of it...too commercial if you ask me!

we do buy cards though and hopefully mum might take dd and i'll make his fave meal at home.as for presents we buy each other a packet of love hearts and leave them in silly placesw round the house...been doing this for eight years and its quite fun!

I have to admit that myself and some male friends are all avoiding the whole Valentines day bit by going straight from work to see a film at the cinema and maybe having some food.

My DW doesn't need valentines day for me to show her how much I love her.

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last year my hubby had moved down south and was setting up house and everything and i was 300 miles north, i took a couple of days off work drove for 6 hours to see him and gave him a valentines card.
he didnt even get me a soddin card - not a little card - not a drawn one not a thing to symbolise it no thought at all just an "oh sh*t soz, erm..forgot"
so i threatened him in tender places with sharp objects
the next day he bought me a moby phone - but it doesnt count - the day after doenst count - even if its a surprise and its expensive it doesnt count
the moral of this story is - if he had got me a card on the day itself last year he Would be £69 better off and wouldn't have had a year of me throwing it in his face everytime we had a row.
he has already got me a card this year he dare not forget

Custardo

Glad I'm not your hubby.

Don't get me wrong, I can see the attraction if you're single or with new partner but I just don't understand why it's such a big deal if you've been with someone for a while. I totally believe that you have to keep romance going but why on one particular day that has, lets face it, been decided upon by commercial industry. Bah...

I must admit that i have been married nearly 4 years and i still love valentines day and think that i always will. I know you do not need a day to remind you that you love your partner, but i enjoy going out and buying little gifts, getting dressed up and going out for a romantic meal.

My romantic hubby has just sent me a large bouquet of flowers, ok it is because he is off to Dubai for the weekend for a spot of sunworshipping, sorry I mean working very hard.. Shouldn't sound so bitter, but it is much harder at the w/ends by yourself with little ones. Anyway, guess I have flowers to look at. oh onto Valentines day, a card is nice but it is silly spending ridiculous amounts on flowers and going out when a week later or earlier it is half the price!! Married too long you see and too sensible........

Custardo, 10 years ago dh didn't think to buy me a mother's day card on my first ever mothering sunday (DS1 was 5 weeks old) he has never ever dared to forget since.

I can't be doing with all this commercial valentines nonsense though - just give me a bar of chocolate

oh simon howard! i am shocked that you would deny me! after all these years

i understand the commercialism view - but he doesnt have to buy me anything - he just has to put htought into something - like putting the kids in bed early and servin my usual fish n chips by candlelight a little later - or takin me for a nice walk or sayin nice stuff -

come on girlies by using this commercialism argument your lettin the forgetful un romantic cant be bothered partners an easy ride and all the time they are counting their blessings you dont believe in it whilst they forgot it was valentines day until you commented at how silly you thought it was when a "greatest love songs" cd appears on the telly!
dont let them get away with it! lets face it they want sex with you make 'em work for it!

I think we'll probably 'think' about getting each other a card and saying some mushy stuff (well, 'I' will probably think about it - it actually won't cross dh's mind!). And then we'll completely forget about it. I'll say where's my valentine???? He'll shrug. and we'll all live happily ever after. We don't really care about Valentines or that sort of stuff. We show our romantic sides (be they ever so small) at other spontaneous times.
Not that I would mind getting some roses....

Dp has been fantastic on valentines day, so much as the cynic in me thinks it's a horrible commercial event designed to get us to spend money the things he's done have been wonderful. 2 years ago I woke up to find 36 handmade cut out hearts put through the letterbox (we didn't live together then), followed by a rose 2 hours later, followed by champagne appearing in my fridge (he had a key) at noon. Swoon, swoon, I was impressed...last year there were hearts (handmade again) with loving messages on the back all over the dining room floor. Not sure what he'll do this year but feel very sure he won't forget. I am envious of all the romantic weekends away here though! Have a lovely time everyone.

I seem to be in the minority here...I LOVE valentines day!! DH proposed to me on feb 14th many moons ago so that makes it special. I agree that we should show our love all through the year, and we do.But when you've got kids it's very easy to let "romance" go out of the window..and spend your evenings slobbed in front of the tv while wearing pyjamas.I think its nice to have an excuse to make the effort for each other.And if you can still feel gooey inside because your bloke has sent flowers or a card or whatever, after years of being together and all the ups and downs that a family brings then surely thats got to be a good thing?

if official..... i turned green WWW i hate your dp! how dare he be so thoughtful am off to have a row with hubby and ask him why the hell i dont get hand made hearts and roses and flowers and champagne.....b*stard!!!!
anyone know a good lawyer?

if official..... i turned green WWW i hate your dp! how dare he be so thoughtful am off to have a row with hubby and ask him why the hell i dont get hand made hearts and roses and flowers and champagne.....b*stard!!!!
anyone know a good lawyer?

I have formally cancelled Vaentines Day ... at Christmas MIL was ill, at New Year Mum was ill, Dh's Birthday, I was ill. If that wasn't enough Chinese New Year arrived and DH had a holiday and DS(16mo)got chickenpox!!! So no more holidays, special days or celebrations! But if DH doesn't get me a choccie egg at Easter this year there's going to be trouble!!!! ;-)

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I thought I should get, something special to wear on our weekend away, but we are on a budget, what with paying for the trip and the spending money.
I found a really cute little nightie in Peacocks, in deep pink with hearts,frills and ribbons on, only £10, they also do them in white and in sizes 10-24. So anyone else on a budget, wanting to surprise DH/DP, take a look.

Valentine, birthdays, etc are of no importance to me and I wouldn't miss any of them if they ceased to exist. However they are very important to DP.
I went to the florist to order 12 red roses which I planned to collect on the 13th. They wanted £50. I've only ordered 6 (£30) - am I a real tightwad?
To me it's throwing money away.

StuartC, I don't think you are being a tightwad at all! The prices for red roses at this time of the year is ridiculous and the fact that you are treating your dp to something when you don't really believe in it is great! We only exchange cards on Valentines Day as it is so close to Christmas and my birthday and things get a bit pricey really.

No Stuart, not a tight wad, you were being ripped off by a company who appreciates the marketability of flowers on V Day. Any other day they would be half that! Personally, for £30, I would prefer a pair of ear-rings, or a voucher for a facial/leg-wax/pedicure etc etc. Flowers are lovely and all that, but they are dead in a week. Jewellery lasts a life time, and a leg wax lasts a few weeks

Sorry, I'm sure that your dw/dp will love them, I know that I would. I would love anything...my dh is snowboarding in Canada at the moment, so I am having my parents round for dinner Romantic hey!

I am just a teensy bit envious of you people with romantic partners: www yours sounds a bit amazing! We do give each other cards, but the best one I ever got was the first year we were going out, not in this country and dh hardly spoke any English and hadnt previously known about Valentines Day. Anyway he got me a card and wrote in English 'Happy VD' Luckily I saw the funny side...

Soyabean Dh is not a great romantic, but has learnt his lesson over Valentine's Day, i.e when a woman says she doesn't want a fuss, that means she DOES! I remember making his sandwiches for work that day, buying him some Thorntons choccies as a treat and cooking a special dinner for us both. But he had failed to cancel his usual squash night, so instead of dropping everything, he ate the lovely meal I had cooked, and the choccies, thanked me for the sandwiches and headed off to play squash! The next day I got on the train to my sister's and refused to come home. He actually phoned me and gave me a telling off for not being home for tea!
Oh and then there was the time when again, I had cooked a romantic meal, dressed up, sexy underwear and everything, candles lit.... the scene is set, and then his mate phones to ask him to go for band practice, so he only bloody well goes doesn't he?

I'll probably get some flowers on Friday, I don't expect anything more. I guess I've just accepted that you cannot change a man, the most you can hope for is a compromise! Besides, we'll be in London on Saturday waving our anti-war placards about - very romantic!

My DH did Valentines Day for us both on Saturday Night. He bought a takeaway Curry bag from Sains for himself and a Chinese bag for me as he knows I will eat Indian but prefer Chinese. He bought me some peach coloured roses and two tubs of Rolo and Yorkie ice cream. It was really nice to be suprised. oh and a really nice bottle of wine and a bottle of gaviscon (i'm not pregnant just suffering slight heartburn/nausea.
I am going to scatter the heart shapes, me and dd are making him a card and I have a balloon which I need to get filled with helium and bought him a porsche ornament at a table top sale last week. So you see it doesn't have to be commercial or cost too much.

We went shopping in Boots last week and bought a load of nappies and stuff for dd. As we'd spent over £15, we were given a box of chocolates - my Valentine's gift, apparently.........