I don't need advice just need to offload as this has driven me to a series of panic attacks, snapping at my daughter, I am incompetent at work, had to up my mediication and is about to drive me to drink.

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I have posted before about the fact my BIL has our inheritance and for about two months has found excuse after excuse to not to hand the money over.

On Thursday we are supposed to be handing over our deposait on a new house. We still don;t have the inheitance. Dp has sat outside of BIL house all day today to try anc catch him and confront him before going to a solicitor. The house looked a tip when it is usually very tidy( dirty curtains, all curtains shut, overgrown gardens)which to me is sign somehting is going on.

BIL car was in the drive but there was not answer at the door.

I am so angry with dp for allowing this to happen, if we can't pay our deposit on Thursday we can't get dd a school place.

I have told dpI am angry with him for allowing this to happen, last week we had a huge row about it and dp walked out after I said he was not showing a commitment to our family.

Today dp left the house at seven in the morning to supposedly be at BIL house for eight in the morning. I phoned dp at half nine and he had gone into work instead in the morning and did not get to BIL house until almost eleven, meaning he missed him.

I am so stressed over this, I had to go to the doctor last week who has upped my medication and wants to sign me off work again which I just cannot allow to happen. I passed out today at work after a panic attack and had to walk out of two important meetings as I could not breathe and I had severe pains in my heart.

I have just snapped at dd and had to send her to her room so she is not inflicted by my stress driven rage. All I want to do now is to drink until the stress has gone.

I don't really want advice as noone other than dp can do anything about this and at the moment he is doing very little.

Is it possible to pay the deposit on credit card, just until the money comes through?

We were renting a house last year and I am pretty certain the letting agents accepted all forms of card.

Firstly, you poor thing. What a terrible, terrible situation. It sounds unbelievably stressful.

I know you said you didn't want advice, but this is MN so...If I were you I'd eriously consider seeing a solicitor by myself. You dh sounds frozen with panic and anxiety. I think you need to move it on. Ask the sol for advice and maybe even to write a letter and make it a fait accompli. Even if you can't send the letter without your dh's signature, maybe it would make it less of a big deal for him if you do the donkeywork.

blimey after your last thread I'd really hoped your dp had seen sense and contacted a solicitor
But I guess it's easier said than done

oh my god. what a terrible situation

surely it is theft? can you get the police and a solicitor involved

have you spoken to the school and explaiend

no wonder you are having panic attacks

I'm sorry this still isn't sorted TSaP.

I'd be bloody furious TBH.

OMG, I saw your last thread and hoped you had something sorted.
Is BIL definitely still there?

criey twinny where is this going to end??

u poor thing

hope you are okay tonight

Bil does not answer the phone, or at least only once in a blue moon.

My mum has offered to lend us the money for the deposit.

Dp has promised me that if he does not walk away with the money tommorrw he will call a solicitor.

I am not great tbh, I don;t handle stress. I threw up twice at work today. Have taken a sleeper so I can get some sleep.

but if you borrow the money and the bil NEVER pays up......

you need legal advice NOW. he has money wihich is yours , that is theft. you should borrow the money, and then if you have to sue BIL for the money back, so be it. don;t lose the house etc

are you sure BIL still has the money?
hope something gets sorted today.

I can't remember the details but I am assuming that BIL took out Letters of Administration in order to deal with MIL's estate as she left no will? Is that right? If so, he will have had to swear an oath to the court to deal with the estate properly and, if he isn't distributing it as he should, he is in contempt of court.

Contact your local county court and ask if they can advise what you should do. CAB may be able to help too. Or contact the probate registry on 0845 3020 900 - helpline number.

He handed over the money today after we told him we were taking legal action. At last i can

Thats great, glad to hear it all worked out in the end

ohhh twinny i bet you feel v relieved

Good stuff TSAP

Oh I saw your last thread Im glad this worked out in the end.

Moral of this story....make sure you write a will so your family cannot fall out over what you leave

phew

I know Wily I am writing mine this weekend!