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Am totally and utterly disgusted!! How do children know these words??!!!

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 16:10

Just picked up the kids from school and Ds1 was in the office (as he is in a wheelchair) and when I went to get him, he whispered to me that someone called him a 'Retard' Apparently they got their class photos today and this kid said 'Oh look, theres a retard in the pic' and pointed at Ds1... I went straight to the lady in the office and the dep. head came to see me and wrote it all down. How the hell do 10 years old know these disgusting words??!!! She is phoning the parents today about it...

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TearsofaPersonalClown · 30/06/2008 16:12

Ignore the little fuckers darlings and slobber over your DS1 for me.

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 16:15

PC..

It still shocks me that children know these nasty words, even my 8 year old Dd1 (who has CP, ADHD, and learning disabilities) said it was a disgusting word..

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snooks · 30/06/2008 16:16

that is horrible . Well, tbh it will be the ignorant parents - it is the 'older' generation that used to (still do by the sounds of it) use offensive, ignorant labels like that.

Hope your ds is ok.

littlelapin · 30/06/2008 16:18

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Ledodgy · 30/06/2008 16:18

A DJ on LBC radio used the word 'retard' the other night as in 'i'm being such a retard' I have to say I was . I would have complained only I was half asleep and can't remember who the presenter was or the exact time to check!

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 16:19

He was in tears. I know exactly how these kids know these words, its the parents!! My children only know what words shouldn;t be said because we explained that some people will use certain words and if that happened to tell us and we would sort it out. I know having 2 disabled kids will come with run ins like this.. but it still shocks me when it happens..

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 16:21

The thing is DS1 is one of the smartest kids in his class.. so def. not 'slow'

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Divastrop · 30/06/2008 16:23

i dont know,there was a discussion on here about this word becoming popular again a while ago.it is used alot in the online gaming community from what i have seen.also,i got charlie+the chocolate factory out for ds the other day and i was shocked to hear the 'R' word used on there!

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 16:26

I know that teenagers use it (my 18 year old niece used it once in front of me, and also the Spaz word, I said to never use those words in front of me again, and she said sorry) But if someone in the family freely uses it, knowing her cousins have disablities, what hope do we have of educating other people

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onepieceoflollipop · 30/06/2008 16:29

In America I think that the word Retard is used more often than here, as is the word Handicapped (e.g. handicapped bathroom where we would probably use the word disabled).

However in this situation I feel very for your ds1 that children of that age are using that word.

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 16:37

Wonder if I am going to get a beating tomorrow for grassing up someone's precious son.. lol!!

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dustystar · 30/06/2008 16:47

Jeremy Clarkson said on Top Gear last night that if the car he was driving was any crazier it would be licking windows I hate that expression

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 17:15

thats so wrong!!

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2shoes · 30/06/2008 17:17

ffs
I am so
ds would love to deal with th little shit for you.

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 18:45

LOl 2shoes thanks

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2shoes · 30/06/2008 19:08

when I ead post out to him he was very annoyed.
we get the spaz word round here. how I love the shits darlings who do that.
thing is your ds has more brains in his middle finger that the darling who used the word will have in his whole head.

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 19:16

within two days of joining that school, someone called Ds1 a spaz. I was in tears in the garden, thinking I had made a huge mistake moving him from a school where he was fully accepted, and not seen as different. Since then we have been without incidents until todays, which was the worse I believe. He is VERY bright, in fact the EP wants him to go to a very good school in the next town, that will push him to the complete limits, because he needs a school that will do that. I bet the little git darling won't get into it..

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forevercleaning · 30/06/2008 19:19

oh what a really sad post. I do hope your DS is ok. Kids can be so unkind . These parents should be told what their children have said or done. And be made to apologise.

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 19:21

Oh and TBH, I am not happy with the Head teacher, he was in his office with his door open and didn't come and see if Ds1 was ok or talk to me about it..

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forevercleaning · 30/06/2008 19:24

well he should be ashameed of himself, a weak man by the sounds of it. Tell him you are disappointed that he did not come out and speak to you both.

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 19:28

He is not a very good head, he is a very business type, but doesn't get involved with the kids etc. On sports day he didn't even come out till right near the end..

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herbietea · 30/06/2008 19:34

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spicemonster · 30/06/2008 19:38

I would go and be all sympathetic to the mum and say sweetly that I was sorry but that I'd not realised that her DS had behavioural issues. Bitchy but effective.

There has got to be some way to make people realise that words like that are NOT ON

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SparklyGothKat · 30/06/2008 19:43

Ds1 said he take tablets, and thinks he has ADHD (but isn't sure) but my Dd1 has ADHD and knows that word is NOT ON!! And TBH if a child knows that word, then someone has used it in front of him, in ref. to a disabled person

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spicemonster · 30/06/2008 19:49

It may not be the parents - he might have got it from another kid at school. You might find that his parents are completely horrified and apologise.

Am trying to give the little shit boy the benefit of the doubt here ...