Sister went nuts!

[Marei]

What would you do?
My sister and I both have disability keys, there different at the top.
Anyway I had borrowed hers when out as I had left mine at home, as I swapped handbags. Last night she appeared at my home for her key,and I gave it to her, then 5 mins later I received a text stating it wasn't her key!
Then she came into my home, asked to see my key and demanding it was her key and I had swapped it. (This sound pettie i know)
But I asurred her it was her key and produced mine from my other handbag, proving mine was in my other bag, and she went nuts demanding, shouting, with my 10 year old by my side, that that was her key and I must have "swapped it"
I was really angry by this,gave her MY key, to get her out my home, and have blocked her from contacting me. This isn't the first nasty incident shes done to me. Any thoughts??

My thoughts are with your 10 year old to had to endure the shouting and drama. Poor kid.

Yip,was not pleasant.

I had to Google. I'm assuming this is a key to give you access to a public toilet specifically for disabled people? What's the difference between the 2 keys?

It is yes

Mine has a heart shape, hers has a shield.

What difference would it have made? Has she got additional issues which would make her especially bothered about this non-event?

They open the same doors don't they?

OK. But they do the same job? I think blocking her is a bit much. For an argument about a key
But as you infer that there are other issues, it might be reasonable

Yip that was my point to her,but still took my key. This is the 3rd time she has disrespected me in a few months.
I think I'm really asking people what you would do in this situation. I feel really let down also in disbelief that a key has caused her to go ape sh*t.

I think you need to keep some distance in this relationship. Maintain polite contact and big family occasions but don’t go out with her, and be careful to be self sufficient and keep everything arms length.

Blocking her will probably escalate.

You need to look at your own volatility. Look up grey rock. She was in the wrong but your child was present so you getting really angry over such ridiculous behaviour was unhelpful.

Observe her, don’t rise to it, don’t engage, keep a distance.

I have been observing, as I said this is the 3rd incident. I wouldn't tolerate it from anyone else, and it's obviously making it look like I'm going to accept this behaviour. Which I'm not. And I need to stand by my word, especially with my kids seeing me being treated this way.

I'd be concerned that she had other health issues going on, very odd behaviour. Do you feel able to ask her kindly if everything is going okay for her more generally?

Had you asked could you borrow the key?

We were at an event together, and she gave me her key as I'm more likely to use the bathroom more.
It is very strange behaviour, but it's not the first time. Im avttully think more of protecting myself and children from this behavior

So you borrowed her shield shaped one yet when you returned it to her she said it wasn't her one and then took your heart shaped one insisting that the heart one was hers?

She sounds confused.

This. If this is new behaviour then surely you would be concerned for her welfare and want to understand what is going on for her.

I’m not sure but I wouldn’t have blocked her.
Is she behaving in a way that’s out of character?
The confusion and the anger would concern me more that anything .
I can’t really think of anything my sister could do that would make me block her .

Disrespecting? Can you not just roll your eyes at it and get on with using whatever radar key you have (they're really cheap online if you need a teddy shaped one or something, too).

Why does it matter which key you have

And make everyone think it's exceptable to be treat like that, fir sone one to shout at you ant take you belongings!

Good grief. Block her then, that will show her 🤷‍♂️

Sometimes we have to choose our battles. As your sister also has significant disabilities, is it really worth the time and emotional energy getting dragged into a Radar key based bust up? They're £2.50 each on Amazon: get a pack of each and it'll be worth the price of 2 pints of milk and half a box of teabags to get her out of your hair next time (quick bonus is that getting more than one means you won't be needing to borrow hers again, either).

Yeah, sounds simple. It's more the accusations of me swapping them and the way she treated me tha. The actual key. Thanks.

How old is she? Could this be onset dementia?

I would have given her my key and kept the other. Not something I could get her up about particularly as there are two keys. It sounds like a children’s argument on both sides. I would not have had an argument in front of a child.