Annoying neighbour who won't leave us alone!

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Just not sure on how to deal with this as nothing work's. We have a neighbour who thankfully isn't vile or has anti-social behaviour the issue is she just won't leave us alone she constantly knocks at the door at all hours daily and like yesterday the knocking on the door was very aggressive I'll admit it scared us because aggressive and we didn't know who or what it was about so ignored it,(just me and my son in the property). If I answer the door it encourages her to knock even more 4\5 times a day for no reason which is exccessive so I've been ignoring which makes no difference except I'm questioned because I've ignored the door when she sees me why wasn't I home when she was knocking! I've also been told by this neighbour as we're both single she can basically knock whenever she likes no idea what difference that makes and I was so shocked she said this I'll admit I said nothing i was speechless! I've tried explaining to this neighbour in busy have things to do etc or am out ...I've tried being off\rude to get and now ignoring nothing work's obviously as neighbours is rather stay civil at least and I know she has some issues so don't want to be horrid but it's getting too much now

Get an eufy doorbell everytime she knocks answer via the doorbell there’s an automatic response on there that says sorry I’m busy I can’t come to the door right now

I've have a neighbour like that, lives around the corner and has some physical disabilities and doesn't work. When I first moved in he would stop and chat a lot, I work from home and he would knock on the door and want to chat, or knock on the door to say he'd noticed something about my car etc. Id see him taking up the time of other local women. He doesn't notice social cues. I don't feel safe around him.
It took a couple of years, but after I snapped when he interrupt me sorting something with the children getting into the car and raised my voice and said Not Now he gradually stopped talking to me. I'm not responsible for keeping him busy and entertained.

My friend has a neighbour like this but she will just walk in the house my friend can’t always keep the door locked because her children are playing out I was at my friends once when this neighbour just walked in and she had the cheek to say I seen you had company thought I would join you CF my friend was in utter shock so I said well if you don’t mind I was actually having a very private and personal conversation with my friend she left and has got a bit better with my friend but that’s only because my friend was very blunt with her on a few occasions

Oh my gosh, I'd find this far too overwhelming.

Similar situation except with a school "friend", thankfully they don't just come round knocking (I would have lost my shit by now 😅) but they send A LOT of texts, was daily but I got to the point where I just said I were busy and focusing on family etc and put them on mute so I don't get notified when they text me (which seems to be every other day now so it's slowing down lol) but i guess unfortunately that's not so easy to do when you have someone actually coming to your home and putting you on the spot.

Knocking aggressively too, no no... I'd have had a go and said they woke my child up and gave them a scare, so blooming rude.

Gets on my nerves that some people think they can have access to your time whenever they want.

Hope this situation resolves soon, I totally sympathise.

Oh god! At that point I think I would have just shut the door in her face!
Feel for you OP - this would drive me insane. But I’m not as nice as you - I’d have probably made things awkward by now by telling her in no uncertain terms! 😂

If direct doesn’t work, Answer the door with your phone to your ear, I’m on the phone sorry and shut the door, or go upstairs & shout down to her, I’m taking a bath…be busy every time until she gets the message

Answer the door and simply state she must stop knocking on the door. If she continues talking state she isn’t listen and can she repeat back what you’ve just said, if she still doesn’t listen close the door in her face and walk away.

You’ve been incredibly patient and civil.

Let her knock aggressively, don’t answer the door. Can you get a tin doorbell? Answer on that so don’t physically go the the door? “Sorry can’t come. Is there an emergency?”