need help staying calm driving, especially when other cars almost hit me and make me go into panic attacks..........

[Psychomum5]

I need help......

I have now had 3 car accidents, none my fault and not even suggestive of me driving without care.

First one - me stationary at a junction and hit from behind.

Second one - someone coming out of a minor cross-road to go across to the other road while I was driving along the main road and hit on my side shunting the car and hitting me again.

Last one was head on with a man coming around from a side road on my right (being blocked by a bus), and him simply ignoring the fact that a car (ME) could be on the other side. He was trying to head down a road on my left!

anyhoo........I am now a scarily nervous driver and passenger, and have been recommended CBT, am now scared of what they may entail, but at the same time, am now reeling from an 'almost crash' this morning!!

I had to take DD3 for one of her twice weekly blood tests, and came out of the surgery. I was on the main road, and again, a car tried to come out of a side road to go straight across (another minor cross road). He failed to stop, he almost hit us, I swerved thankfully (so at least proving to me I do have good reflexes!), but he almost also sandwiched a bike between us (poor lady, I do think she may have fallen but wasn;t in a fit state to deal with her). I ended up sobbing while still trying to drive, scared DD2 who was in the front with me (she has also been in all the other accidents) DD3 was fretting in the back, so DD2 rang DH who ordered me to pull over and calmed me down. (I was panicking as DD3 was due at school......her bloods are done at 8.30am).

I am now obviously home.....flame came and calmed me down with coffee and rescue rememdy even tho it wasn;t plaaned (spur of the moment thing where by she arrives when I need her to at times but also ).

She has now gone tho and I am still tearful, heart still pounding, not wanting to do school run later, but know I need to, and in need of ways to deal with all this.

I don;t want this to beat me, I need to drive. I have the kiddies to think of, let alone me not needing to be a recluse.....but.......

HOW???????

help

God how horrible psycho

A friend of mine decided to take some more lessons to get her confidence back after she was really shaken up like this. She says its really helping.

driving lessons?????

hmm....that may be an idea

Shall I ask her for his number? She lives near me.

Ooh driving lessons sound a good idea

are you a bournemouth lady too????

yes please if so.....I will need a sympathetic teacher if I decide that route, and I will get it funded too as the solicitors have okayed funding for anything to get me calmer again

hey flame...........need more hugs, altho hanging in there at the moment

watching Harry Potter

I'm sure we've met psycho i used to be amynnixmum.

tut with these name changing people

most likely have met then!!!

I've been on a few of the meetups.

We need to meet up for coffee at some point! I'm sure we've been threatening it for about 6 months now!!!

Could give hugs after school, but you have plans

Coffee would be good

am hoping that DH is helping with said plans......

dusty......you heard about the one planned on the 20th???

Yes Sparkler told me. I'm hoping to come but will be late as have to wait for dh to get home from work.

. well, if you are able to make it, then you could bring said number with you.

still shakey......

gar.....I so hate feeling like this.......bloody idiotic drivers sometimes!!!!

Tell me if you want me later then

Dusty - we're meeting in Boscombe for coffee in the morning if you wanna come?

(Just inviting people without checking with you first Psycho )

If you want it I'll email it to Flame later.

Tomorrow morning? Yes please.

I might say yes.........

ah, ok then

We're heading there straight from school, if you wanna email me your number or summat, or we can arrange somewhere to meet now - the cafe (got to take something to a friend, so is a specific cafe) is down Roumelia lane and is a bit hard to find!

ok i'll email you now

Hi - i used to live in boscombe (well pokesdown really but I told people Boscombe.) I would take the train to Poole to work, cos I couldn't afford to live there. Who can?

Used to watch the Poole pirates inmy younger days!

Hi CM Dh used to watch them with his Dad.

PM - I think there is such a thing as a defensive driving course which gives you tips on how to actively avoid accidents and judge what others are doing so you can predict potential problems before they arise. Sounds as though that isn't the problem, but might give you a bit of extra confidence? Really sorry you've had so many arseholes problems. Very happy no injuries. Take care xx