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Dilemma

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 13:57

Hello

I recently moved in with my partner - it's his house, and he recently renovated and spent alot on it etc!

Anyway I was cooking the other evening whilst he was out and my saucepan was bubbling up very quickly so moved onto work surface for literally 5 seconds and when I got it off it had burnt the surface. It's only size of a pea if not smaller, but still I feel sick to my stomach about it - I went to garage and got some filler as it's almost a little hole, and it does look better as side is also white, I'm waiting for it to dry the going to file it down flat.

I'm soooo worried about telling him 😣😣😣

Any advice on how I should? I done it yesterday. I put a cleaning spray over it when he got home, I feel like I've ruined his home! It was really a honest mistake.

Thanks

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PinkFootstool · 07/07/2023 13:59

What's the worktop made from? If it's the plastic coated type, you may be able to use the proper colour coded filler.

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:01

@PinkFootstool It looks like marble but it's that sheet stuff that's on top of the surface?

I have filled it - going to file it down and hopefully will look a little better!

I honestly feel sick 😣 so angry at myself! I'm pregnant and become overly clumsy atm!

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CountryCousin · 07/07/2023 14:04

I’m a bit more interested in your legal situation as regards accommodation. If you have indeed moved in on the basis that it is ‘his’ house - what safety net do you have if you split up tomorrow? Do you own or rent your own property elsewhere.

(Please don’t tell me he’s so perfect, he’d never see you out on the street - I’ve lived too many decades.)

I’m sure you have all this covered - and there’s not the slightest possibility of your becoming pregnant without a secure legal stake in the house you live in.

CountryCousin · 07/07/2023 14:05

Oh.

You are pregnant.

With apparently no rights to the roof over your and your baby’s heads.

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:06

@CountryCousin I'm fine thank you. And I do have a property myself but I'm living with him which has nothing to do with my question anyway but thank you for your concern.

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TeenDivided · 07/07/2023 14:06

He's your partner.
You should not need to be worried about something like this.
Buy a heat proof mat/slab to have near the cooker.

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:08

@TeenDivided Yeah you're right I am probably massively over thinking, I think it's because it's all new I am panicking! I am just having to own up this weekend and tell him otherwise going to carry on being stressed about it!

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24Dogcuddler · 07/07/2023 14:08

I’d have left it fessed up and claimed on the insurance. Happened to our last worktop when DH put a frying pan on it.

Maybe he should have mentioned it or showed you worktop savers?
I now have white quartz but never put anything hot on it and have a large worktop saver and some trivets.
Hope it is all ok.

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:09

@24Dogcuddler Yeah I think I'm going to just have to tell him, honestly is best isn't it! Just so angry at myself for doing it! 😣

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ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 07/07/2023 14:10

If you're this worried, he's not really your partner, sorry.

Summer2424 · 07/07/2023 14:10

Hi @elb90 honestly don't worry about it! You done the right thing filling it and filing it down.
It will be fine xx

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:11

@ZeldaWillTellYourFortune it's because it's not my house, I am this worried, it's the thought of ruining someone's things. It's not the way he will react is worrying me, he will probably be fine but I'm just very angry at myself as I know he spent so much time and money on this house

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CC4712 · 07/07/2023 14:11

Its concerning that you are so worried about his reaction and how to tell him about an accident!!!

I would have showed him, and contacted the supplier of the worktop. Depending on the surface, they can colour match it exactly.

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:12

@Summer2424 thanks Hun I really hope so! Such a idiot! God you really get some weirdos commenting on here don't you?! Seems like they just come on for the argument 🤦🏻‍♀️

Thanks for making me feel better about it! X

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:14

@CC4712 I called them they can't do anything. As burnt through - I'd have to replace whole surface, it was just for some advice on how to tell him and some reassurance really but wish I never done a post! You get too many judgmental people!

My partner is lovely and I'm absolutely fine, it's more of a me problem I really work myself up over things like this.

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CC4712 · 07/07/2023 14:29

Just be honest with him. 'I'm really sorry 'partners name', I had a small accident cooking. This is what I've done .....'

Buy a wooden or other nice heat pad and leave it over the burnt part. No one will ever see it.

CC4712 · 07/07/2023 14:30

Another way to think about it- if he was in YOUR house and did the same- how would you want HIM to tell you?

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:34

@CC4712 yes you're right that's exactly how I'm going to say it. I'm going to look into the wooden heat pad things! It's one of them things ah end of day! Not like I did it on purpose!
Yes I would and I would appreciate him telling me. I'm will tell him later tonight I think x

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:41

@CC4712 amazing thank you, the one on dunelm is like the kitchen side too - it's the granite one

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:44

@24Dogcuddler thank you so much x

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24Dogcuddler · 07/07/2023 14:44

Some won’t cover it
Joseph Joseph one just pops into a drawer

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elb90 · 07/07/2023 14:46

@24Dogcuddler it's so small, il show you, but annoyingly right near front of side! Would be fine if it was at back! I've left some filler on it that's why it's raised but hopefully once sanded down when dry it will appear flatter! 🙏🏼

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CountryCousin · 07/07/2023 14:57

Well, no, I’m not any sort of ‘weirdo’ Grin - but have you ever met a toddler? They destroy everything. Post keys through electrical slots, flush credit cards away, etc, etc.

I’d be incredibly uncomfortable bringing a baby into a situation where I myself felt like a visitor who had to be extra careful of the fixtures and furnishings.