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Got to go to baby clinic today but dreading it, some support please!

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babyonboard · 20/02/2008 12:58

DD needs to be weighed, plus is overdue her mmr but she is ill so I know they won't do it anyway. I feel we are being forced to go just to show our face, iyswim.

I hate the clinic. It is always packed, far too hot and DS gets very bored waiting. It's also set up ridiculously so that the waiting room has double automatic doors which open onto a busy main road. This means I have to pretty much hold onto the DC so they don't run out.

I feel like I'm just complaining over nothing but the HV's annoy me too. I wish we could just get in and out, do what we need to, without having to sit and talk about feelings etc. If I had any problems I would let them know, I don't need to be probed.

Tell me how to handle it, we are all ill and I can't be arsed with the polite nodding etc at their inane comments.

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LaDiDaDi · 20/02/2008 12:59

Why do you need to go?

Are you concerned about her, weight or otherwise? If not I wouldn't go.

Kindersurpise · 20/02/2008 13:00

Do you have to go? What would happen if you did not go?

RubyRioja · 20/02/2008 13:00

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LaDiDaDi · 20/02/2008 13:00

Great minds Kinder..

Jackstini · 20/02/2008 13:01

Don't go!
dd doesn't NEED to be weighed and you don't need the hassle.

Kindersurpise · 20/02/2008 13:03

Is this the kind of support you were looking for?

princessmel · 20/02/2008 13:04

My hv was the opposite. Sometimes I'd want them to ask about my feeelings and it would be get weighed and on the the next baby and we'd be out the door. Of course we had the long wait before we got to speak to her.

I'd not go unless you are worried about her weight.

For jabs I now book a separate nurse appointment and say we can't make clinic day.

PortAndLemon · 20/02/2008 13:09

You don't need to go. Really. If you don't want to, don't. If it's an appointment system, though, it would be polite to call and let them know you're not coming.

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babyonboard · 20/02/2008 13:13

I really do need to go it's complicated.

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Tutter · 20/02/2008 13:15

why do you need to go?

Daisymoo · 20/02/2008 13:17

As everyone else has said, you don't have to go.

The automatic doors opening on to a busy road at a baby clinic is really bad though. I would ask to see their risk assessment for the baby clinic - they should have done one, but I bet they haven't or it would have highlighted the risk from the doors

PortAndLemon · 20/02/2008 13:18

Assuming you need to go at some point for some complicated reason, do you need to go today? Would it really matter if you went, say, next week when you are all feeling better?

funnyhaha · 20/02/2008 13:19

Agree with portandlemon - ring them & let them know you're too ill to make it, if that would help?

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babyonboard · 20/02/2008 13:20

Sorry I posted before finishing then.

I've osted about all this on mumsnet anyway so may aswell let you know. DD was a 'surprise baby' I didn't know I was pregnant until she was pretty much crowning. This didn't look good for the HV obviously, although she saw me two months before the birth and admits she'd never have guessed herself. They were fine after a while but then we had some issues after evil step mother in law called social services about us. Again this was soon resolved when they saw we were all healthy and happy, but I have been told I need to attend clinic regularly or it will be a 'red flag'. It really pisses me off to be honest.

I just read that back and think you probably will now judge us, but any of you who know me from my previous posts will know it's not the nightmare benefit scrounging take a break story it sounds like.

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Lulumama · 20/02/2008 13:20

can anyone come with or stay with your other DCs at home? if you are all ill, can you reschedule for a couple of weeks ,which gives you time to get some help perhaps with the other DCs or at least you will be feeling better ?

Lulumama · 20/02/2008 13:21

i see

perhaps your HV could see you at home? then she can see that everything at home is just fine too?

what a PITA

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babyonboard · 20/02/2008 13:22

daisymoo, it is a brand new surgery and the HV agree it is a nightmare and unworkable, they are looking into it.

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TotalChaos · 20/02/2008 13:25

you poor thing, I was on some sort of nutter list due to mental health reasons in PG, so had HV coming out weekly for the first four months (and she was HORRIBLE to me), I do sympathise, it's so irritating seeing a health pro you don't need to see who is all judgey judgey.

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babyonboard · 20/02/2008 13:25

It is a pita they refuse home visits as they are too busy. I just know if I call to let them know I can't make it they will be judgey.

I just don't know if it's a good idea to take the DC when we have a nasty virus, especially to a clinic pretty much full of newborns?

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Lulumama · 20/02/2008 13:27

gosh, that is very poor

when you are feeling up to it, maybe a word with teh practice manager. ridicolous to have an unsafe clinic and no home visits

my HV came out weekly for months when i had bad PND. to save me traipsing to clinic.

i don;t see the point of taking ill children to a clinic where they could infect other children and pick up another infection!

surely they will understand children get poorly?

poor you, what a quandary

TotalChaos · 20/02/2008 13:28

part of the way I got HV off my back was agreeing to go to toddler groups/baby massage groups run by surestart centre. if you don't already go to something like that, maybe that would help?

LaDiDaDi · 20/02/2008 13:28

Well it seems more complicated than it did initially but I definitely wouldn't judge you. What a shock dd must have been.

I would still ring the HV and explain your circumstances today and see if they could either visit you at home or just see them next week.

pickie · 20/02/2008 13:30

In our clinic they specifically ask you not to bring DC in that are ill due to the presence of newborns. might be worth giving the HV a call and ask if ok to come in.

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babyonboard · 20/02/2008 13:33

I suppose I will ring her. it just makes me angry that I am scared or worried about contacting them.
I'm sure they don't intend to do this to people?
totalchaos, yes they tried to force me onto a surestart type parenting programme but I reused. I am a fantastic parent and I know it. The DC have many friends, we go to soft play, swimming classes and book/toddler groups . Plus as we live in London we also have lots trips to art galleries/museums etc. I don't need the state to prescribe our lifestyle for us.

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scattyspice · 20/02/2008 13:34

We had a self weighing clinic in our area (not at my GPs) You could go and weigh the baby yourself, toys out for toddlers to play with, you could chat to other Mums and HVs there to talkto if you needed.Much better. Ask if there is one in your area.
I only got mine weighed a few times any way and never after 12 mnths.

I'm sure you could arrange with practice nurse to have MMR another time to avoid the clinic.

I agree baby clinics PITA when you have a toddler.

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