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Tonight I did something good but DH is in a right strop

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Yorkiegirl · 09/12/2004 21:24

At 6pm this evening I had a phone call from my head teacher asking me to come in to work to play the piano for one of the Christmas productions, one I wasn't involved in. I was asked because my colleague who was supposed to do it was at the hospital with her DP who had had a suspected heart attack Sad
So I agreed to go in, but had to ask DH to come back from the pub to look after our DDs. Since I got back he has done nothing but moan, saying I shouldn't have done it. Yes, things at work have been difficult lately, but I wanted to do this for my colleague.
I just hope her DP is ok. Sad

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pixiefish · 09/12/2004 21:25

Well done YG.You did the right thing Grin

merrymarthamoo · 09/12/2004 21:36

You did the right thing YG and he is being an *rse. I hope your colleague's DP is OK too.

Kaysleighbells · 09/12/2004 21:39

You were absolutely in the right and your dh should be ashamed of himself.

MarsselectionboxLady · 09/12/2004 21:54

Well done you. I'm sure that the pub will still be there tomorrow. Grin

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Yorkiegirl · 09/12/2004 22:13

well I have just really got it in the neck. He has been so horrible to me Sad
He used to leave me and DD1 on our own all the time to go in to work in his old job. But I do it once and he kicks off.
What a selfish b*stard my DH is being. I can't do with double standards. One thing for him to do it, but my god, the world must stop if I dare to put a foot out of line. How dare I Sad

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cranberryjampot · 09/12/2004 22:16

I think you did the right think YG - what a lovely woman you are Smile

cranberryjampot · 09/12/2004 22:16

I think you did the right think YG - what a lovely woman you are Smile

tammyBEARinggifts · 09/12/2004 22:16

awww YG, you definetly did the right thing. But your dh should be a bit more understanding. What if it was him, would he expect you to go and do it anyway? Sorry YG, hope he isnt an a**e for much longer. Hope your colleague's dp is ok xxx

MarsselectionboxLady · 09/12/2004 22:17

Don't beat yourself up. Pour a glass of wine and remind yourself how lucky you are that your dh didn't have the heart attack and whilst you're at it remind him as well. You did good Smile

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Yorkiegirl · 09/12/2004 22:17

he has made me feel so angry.
I am going to sleep in DD2's room tonight, can't bear to be near him.

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merrymarthamoo · 09/12/2004 22:19

I said it before and I'll say it again: he's being an *rse. They are, sometimes. (((hugs))) YG

SantaQuated · 09/12/2004 22:20

you did the right thing YG - but i think you know that. Grin it's him that's being the awkward one.
thiunk Mras is right - point out how lucky he is - he could be the one in hospital and if he doesn't behave you may well put him there Grin

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Yorkiegirl · 09/12/2004 22:25

it is so often the case with him though, how he behaves is one thing, but then if I do something he doesn't like even a teeny weeny bit then I am in the doghouse big time.
Like last week. I went out to the MN meet I had organised. He knew I was going and I told him that as we weren't eating until 9 I would be home late. I got in at 12.30 and he was waiting up for me in a stinker of a mood. He was so cross that I had been out late. Yet he goes to the pub probably 5 times a week. But as he only goes for a couple of hours between 5 and 7 then thats ok, despite the fact that I could use his help getting DDs to bed.
Sorry to rant but this has made me feel so very sad Sad

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merrymarthamoo · 09/12/2004 22:27

You're allowed, YG. To rant and to feel sad.

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Yorkiegirl · 09/12/2004 22:28

thanks

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MarsselectionboxLady · 09/12/2004 22:31

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SantaQuated · 09/12/2004 22:31

oh, YG, sorry you are feeling like this. i din't mean to be flippant - well i did but didn't realsie how upset you were Sad

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Yorkiegirl · 09/12/2004 22:36

I didn't read your reply as being flippant, don't worry!
I am feeling very sad as he has been so unreasonable. He swore at me, which always upsets me. I mean, is he so ignorant that he can't speak without expletives?

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FimboCLAUS · 09/12/2004 23:05

Sorry you feel bad, it should be you swearing at him. Is he possessive? Could maybe see his point if he had to come home early from work or something but not the pub.

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Yorkiegirl · 09/12/2004 23:10

He's not posessive, just loses all perspective when he gets on his high horse.
Of course it would have been ok if he had done it Angry

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SantaQuated · 10/12/2004 12:43

hope you are feeling happier today and ahve had the chance to talk to your DH.

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Yorkiegirl · 10/12/2004 12:45

Haven't really spoken to him much as he left for work while I was getting DDs ready. He seems to have buried the hatchet, I just wish he'd never said the things he said.

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MariNativityPlay · 10/12/2004 12:56

When I think of all the help Mners gave him for his M & S research, Yorkiegirl...Angry perhaps we should not have spared him our precious time.
I hope that part of the reason why he is being so grouchy is that he has realised how inappropriate it is to be whining about losing pub time because you have done something really good not just for your colleague but for all the children and parents at that show. Hope he feels thoroughly guilty.
I must admit I am Shock that he regularly goes to the pub during the girls' run-up to bedtime. You both work outside the home, FGS. I think that is terribly unfair.
How is your colleague's dp today?

cardigansarenotjustforxmas · 10/12/2004 12:59

Next time your dh goes to the pub he can tell all his mates what a wonderful wife he has as she stepped in at V.Short notice to help a collegue and so that a whole school could enjoy a christmas production. Loads of happy families & kids. He came back from the pub just so all this could happen. What a good, kindhearted etc person he is. In fact loads of people should be grateful to him - he's a man who gets things done etc.... Perhaps this will make him change his tune. Must be difficult for you - why men are like this sometimes is beyond belief.Well done Yorkiegirl - hope that you collegues dp is ok xxx

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Yorkiegirl · 10/12/2004 18:12

He is definitely feeling guilty, he has been quite sheepish this evening!
As far as asking for help with his M&S research, he was very grateful and M&S were interested in what MN had to say.
I'm not defending what he did last night, but he has definitely realised what a complete and utter b*stard he was last night. He rang me at work today to see how my colleague's DP was doing.

Incidentally, the DP is still in hospital undergoing tests to see what the problem is. Will let you know what happens there.

Thanks everyone.

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