What for my child to call my parents?

[Toria33]

I’m stuck, my baby arrived beginning of feb, and my both sets of parents want to be grandma and granddad. It’s traditional on my husbands side, but for me it feels stiff
I grew up with things like
Nana and nanny
mam ton and all sort of silly names come from my side , my side is mostly welsh, has anyone any suggestions of names?

Oh dear God, this is not a problem. Let me be called whatever they want to be called. Kids will make up their own nicknames in time.

Let them be called grandma and grandad if they want

Let them be called what they want to be called!

my mum was grandma that’s what she wanted and dh has older nieces who called his parents gran and papa. So we called them the same.

growing up I had two grans.

My mum is Mimi (me me) and dad is grandad.
DHS parents are granny and grandpa except my boy changed it to papa which fil has accepted lol.

If they both want grandma and grandad just go with that and as your child gets older just use last names to differentiate. Granda Smith or grandma Jones for example

When I was a child one set of Grandparents lived in Wales and one set in London so they were known to me and dsis as "Grannie and Grandad from Wales" and "Grannie and Grandad from London".

My DC have "Grannie Rose and Grandad Peter" and "Grannie Sarah and Grandad Martin".

I'm sure you can think of a way of differentiating between them so they can both be called what they would like.

Nain & Taid if you're Welsh?

Non issue, let them choose and if they end up as grandma smith or grandma seaside or ginger grandma (or proper grandma vs other grandma as my friends children called them) so be it.

Let them be called what they want & add their forenames to differentiate its not worth making an issue

I’d thank my lucky stars that the grandparents don’t want ridiculous nicknames. Grandma Jane and granddad John don’t feel stiff to me at all.

I think that, so long as it's not something you really hate or is too closely linked to mum/dad type pet names, then the grandparents should be allowed to chose. It's what they will be being called and need to respond I'm after all.

Having both the same really isnt an issue either. Just use surnames when you need to differentiate.

Growing up, we had Nanny A and Nanny B, Grandad A and Grandad B (A and B being either surname or first name, depending on what is comfortable, eg Grandma Smith/ Grandma Jean). No confusion at all!

Is this the first grandkid on both sides? When our daughter was born, we naturally went with what her cousins were already using (luckily different) but otherwise we would have used some form of the above.

Just let them choose.
Highly likely your child will make up their own name anyway.

Let the gps pick their own names . I wouldn’t have appreciated my ds choosing what I will be called .

It's very regional. Round here grandma is nanan. I grew up saying granny, and where DH is from it is also granny so it was easy. DD called her grandmother granny. By the time she was born DH and I only had one parent left between us.

I do think the grandparents get a say in what they want to be called.

I had two grans, they were identified by the town they lived in. My children had a nanna and Pappa and grampy.

Forgot to add: we also used the Danish names at times when we weren't speaking English, eg Mormor, Farmor (both Grandma, but literally Mum's Mum, Dad's mum), Morfar, Farfar (sure you get the idea... i wish english had an equivalent!)

This was what me and my mum hope (she wants something natural and organic)

I completely understand people’s just deal with it / why do you care attitude. But obviously I care if I have asked and it feels that unnatural to me

It's what they want to be called though so you can't dictate otherwise. They've not asked for something absolutely ludicrous. Are you always so controlling?

They should be allowed to choose what they are called, not you OP.

Not about it being non confusing, I said its not what my family normally do / i find it stiff, not my experience of family

Mam-gu if welsh. My dm began as granny Wales but it morphed into something very different as ds found it difficult to pronounce. He found his own name for her and it is totally unique.

Natural and organic is great. If it happens naturally and organically.

But your child won't start talking for months and meanwhile those old folk who keep popping in will have to be called something.

It's contra natural and organic to plan it.

My parents already had names that my nieces and nephews were using so that was straightforward. DH's nieces and nephews were calling DH's parents by their first names which I wasn't keen on at all so we said do you want to be X or Y (based on names DH had used for his grandparents) and they chose. FIL ended up wanting to use the name I called one of my grandfathers which DH had said he wouldn't like so it's worth exploring different options rather than making assumptions. MIL used a name from her own culture. So all the grandparents have different names but I think it's absolutely fine and normal to be e.g. Grannie Mainland and Grannie Island.

DD calls my in-laws Granny and Grandad and my mum is Nana which is what I was always brought up with. DH calls his grandparents Gran and Papa. Let the grandparents decide what they want to be called