What for my child to call my parents?

[Toria33]

I’m stuck, my baby arrived beginning of feb, and my both sets of parents want to be grandma and granddad. It’s traditional on my husbands side, but for me it feels stiff
I grew up with things like
Nana and nanny
mam ton and all sort of silly names come from my side , my side is mostly welsh, has anyone any suggestions of names?

Mamgu & Tadcu? But it's up to your parents/PIL to choose what they want to be referred to ask surely?

OP - you said it's not what your family do but your baby has two families, yours and your DH's. There will be other things in the future that are "not what your family does" but might be what your DH's family do and you will have to compromise/find a way round (and grit your teeth, try to keep your mouth shut to keep the peace).

I always called mine Grandma first name. DS calls my mum grandma and my MIL Nanny.

Not a care for what my hubby’s parents do
its just my parents, and coming from lines of the stated (mam ton, nanna, nanny etc) i does not feel right

I had no part in deciding what my parents and my in-laws wanted to be called by their grandchildren. They decided. My parents were already GPs by the time my oldest was born so that had already been decided, but for my in-laws it was first grandchild. They chose Nana and Grandpa. I don't like the name Nana but it wasn't my decision to make! Both sets of own grandparents were Grandma and Grandpa...was never an issue. It's not like I got them mixed up. If there was a situation where there was confusion over which Grandma and Grandpa we were talking about we just said the surname!

It's "not what your family do" yet is the names your parents have chosen.

My mum agrees that she wants something else but has gone to it out of default (as all he other names are other people to us) except mam-gu which she isn’t keen on. As I said it’s not about confusing, it just feels wrong and and doesn’t suit mum at all. I understand what people are saying but I go to use the name and my brain is rebuffing

What would your mum prefare then?

Growing up our grans were just Gran then their second name so we could differentiate.

When myself and my cousin had our babies at roughly the same time my mum wanted grandma and my cousins mum wanted Nana and it did feel strange to start with but it just becomes natural.

let your parents choose what they want to be called . No drama.

My Welsh grandparents were nanna and grandpop which I still love.

she said she does want something different but she wants it to develop.. but it’s just ugh using the name in passing talking to baby, which is making me not say it or use it. I know it weird,
it’s not drama just a bit of a aversion to using grandma for my mum
I would literally be happy with anything else
grandmom
grandmum
mam gu
nain ect

my welsh grandparents were also nanna and grandpop
English were nanny and grandad

I want to get them cards from baby for Mother’s Day and birthday next week and it just feels solidifying

I don't quite understand.

if she doesn't want to be grandma then she chooses what she does want ad interim. Just because your own GM is say Granny, doesn't mean she can't be too.

I want to get them cards from baby for Mother’s Day and birthday next week and it just feels solidifying

But baby isn't here yet?
So maybe just wait til next year.
I doubt your mum will be expected a card from the Runcorn grandchild anyway, so I wouldn't let that aspect get in the way of waiting to,see which name sticks when baby is here.

This year get one from yourself and add 'baby' or 'bump' (or whatever you refer to your baby as) to that. You don't need to choose yet.

I used grandma and grandad for both of mine growing up.

That what she feels, they had unique names and they are their’s and she doesn’t want to reuse, i can understand that

As i said Mother’s Day in the U.K. and my dad’s birthday is this week
and baby is 6 weeks i believe i said something about him being here at the start and hating using grandma