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what age would you let your daughter have her ears pierced?

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turquey · 03/12/2004 04:01

My dd is nearly 7 and apparently "all" the girls in her class have their ears pierced. (I don't believe her). She's desperate to have hers done now. I think she should be about 12 or older.
What do others think?

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ChristmasCracker · 03/12/2004 13:14

My two Dd's had theirs done at about 2.5.

I don't have a prob with it at all, i had mine done at that age too.

cupcakes · 03/12/2004 13:16

My dad absolutely refused to let me have mine done - my mum still hasn't had hers done (gosh, he sounds like a tyrant!). Did it in my second year of university (aged 19) and when I told my dad he put the phone down on me!!
Because of safety reasons I would put it off with dd for as long as possible - i.e. 16!!!

PickasillyChristmasName · 03/12/2004 13:18

Having pierced ears was about the only thing my dad was really strict on - and also talked about it as "mutilating" ears.

I was told I could have them done when I was 18, so when I was 18 casually mentioned it and my dad exploded . So I waited until I was 19 and at university.

My younger sister had hers done when she was 16 and my mum had hers done at the same time and there was no reaction from my dad...

Not sure I like the idea of DS having a pierced ear (or anything else really) but I think that like Lonelymum there probably are more important things to worry about. But he would have to understand that he would be in charge of dealing with it afterwards

PickasillyChristmasName · 03/12/2004 13:19

Cupcakes, our dads sound very similar (except my mum now has had hers done )

MarsselectionboxLady · 03/12/2004 13:22

DD1 (10) and DD2(6) haven't mentioned having their ears pierced. I wear earrings, but because of the DTs not much at the moment. I haven't mentioned them to the girls, even though my neice had hers pierced when she was tiny and it was expected that I would do the same. I'm waiting for them to ask and when they do I'll say yes. My DS1 is not allowed pierced ears at school (or should I say earrings or piercings). I don't think that it would occur to him to ask even though a few of his friends have had it done. I guess there are more important things to worry about.

cupcakes · 03/12/2004 13:37

Pickasilly... - your dad is just like mine! He even paid for my younger sister to get hers done when she was 15 or so!

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turquey · 03/12/2004 13:39

Thanks for all the responses, I had thought I might just be behind the times.
I do see your point lonelymum but there are two reasons I'm against it : one is the infection/danger side, she's always scrambling about in bushes or whatever where they could catch, also her fingers are permanently filthy; secondly she is also wanting makeup/high heels etc and I just want to make a stand. She's not even 7 and those things are for mid teens! I won't get started here on my rant against high heels even being manufactured for growing feet.

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meea · 03/12/2004 13:46

dd1 had hers done when she was 5 after her having asked me as a lot of girls in her class had theirs done.
She only wears the pretty little studs she had them pierced with and has only had infections when her teacher made her start taking them out instead of covering them with plasters.
Now she is covering them again no problems.
she is also really good at turning and cleaning them.

hana · 03/12/2004 13:48

10

ItllBeLonelymumThisChristmas · 03/12/2004 13:49

Turquey - agree with you about high heels and make up, and even sexy clothes for pre-teens. What is that about?

Loobie · 03/12/2004 17:20

I await the onslaught but my dd had hers done at about 9 months.

TheHollyAndTheTwiglett · 03/12/2004 17:25

Right of passage .. I think 13 is the earliest but telling them 16 all the way

blossomgoodwill · 03/12/2004 17:25

Not until she is at least 10.

TheHollyAndTheTwiglett · 03/12/2004 17:26

Loobie .. totally your decision if you want your baby pierced .. personally I don't like it and don't think children and babies need or should wear jewellry ... but that's my problem not yours

JoolsTide · 03/12/2004 17:34

btw I was 35 and that was under pressure!

TheHollyAndTheTwiglett · 03/12/2004 17:35

jewellery

Tinker · 03/12/2004 17:38

I had mine done at about 13 - seems to be the accepted age on here. Strangely, it was my dad who was in favour of it and took me. Won't let my onw little girl have hers done until she is at least that age

smellymelly · 03/12/2004 17:41

I was 12, and I think that is plenty early enough. My mum said 16, but she wanted hers done and she was a wimp, so I went with her!

I have 5 holes now, and I don't wear earings at all now! Well only on special occasions.

Dd is only 2, so thankfully she hasn't asked yet, but I will hold out till she is a teenager too.

ghostofchristmaspast · 03/12/2004 17:47

I had mine done at 10 to the disgust of my sister who had not been allowed until she was 14 and then we had them done together.
Personally I think I was too young.
I won't let DD have hers done till she has left home (when she is 21) and she won't be able to have a boyfriend until she is 25.

No, seriously, I think 12 (when they are at secondary school) is the earliest.

mears · 03/12/2004 18:52

I was going to wait until my DD started secondary school. In the end up she got them dove just before she turned 9 because she was a flowergirl at my friend's wedding and wanted it done. She was probably the last girl in her class to get them done I have to say. She took really good care of them and has never had an infection.
She only weras studs at the moment.

I hate seeing boys with periced ears, especially still at primary school. And sorry Loobie - I absolutely hate seeing babies with pierced ears.

happymerryberries · 03/12/2004 19:01

Boyfriend???? She is going to be a nun I tell you!

Sorry, but I don't like them on small children or boys of any age. Each to their own. I don't like any other piercings either, they make me wince. But as I say, each to their own

andaSOPPYnewyear · 03/12/2004 19:05

My mum decided 13 - at the time that seemed FAR too long to wait but now I'm glad I did. However since then I've let them heal up!

littleweed · 03/12/2004 20:48

13 at the earliest- htough I had to wait until I was 18. If my DS EVER gets his done i will be furiuos.

WestCountryLass · 03/12/2004 21:23

I had mine done as a coming of age thing when I was 13 and I am planning the same for my DD.

My DD is 4 months and has no hair and despite being dressed from head to toe in pink or lilac half the time I have had 'whats he called' comments and I have thought (for a milisecond) about getting them done. I could not go through with it though!

jingleballs · 03/12/2004 21:33

I was 10 when I had mine done. My cousins both had theirs done at 5, and I must say (no offense to any one who's little one has had their DD ears peirced) but personally I don't like babys ie/ under 1 with peirced ears.

(ducks on the floor incase!)

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