Toots - thankyou for the encouraging words. They are very positive. But I now feel rather guilty, as though I've been mis-presenting myself here.
In many ways I'm in quite a good place - I have 70,000 words written (of which a small portion is very good, a larger portion needs substantial revision and quite a bit still needs to go in the bin). I need to write about 10,000 or so joining-up bits, I guess, and to retype the whole thing twice, to polish.
And I am now working like the wind whenever I get the chance. But every time I just get in the groove, there is illness, or guests or something, and I fall off again, and forget all my thoughts about how it all joins up. Which is infuriating, as if I had my own way I would write, if not all day, then certainly every morning [guilty mother face]. But two mornings a week is all the childcare we have right now...
But yes, you are right. Mr PhD wouldn't necessarily want my time, but he would exchange a body part for my home life.
And Wilbur - 'detailed carrying things over ponds manual' really made me laugh. Next time I get a particularly detailed bit of pedantry at a writing group, I will remember that, and it will stop me getting cross.