Geting ready for new years eve party and am very nervous

[twinsetandpearls]

we always go to our neighbours for new year as we can wander home and as we all have children they can dance till they drop and then be scooped up to the nearest bedroom.

I will know some of the people going but there are a few I don't and I am a tad nervous which is unlike me as I am the social butterfly of our family.

I was just in the bath getting all paranoid about the hosts explaing who we were to the family they have staying with them and saying well up the road there is our local nutter who has been locked up for Christmas after running around the village in her pyjamas clutching the contents of her bathroom cabinet. I am sure they won't and it is just paranoia but it is still worrying me a bit.

I am nervous that people may feel awqward with me if they know what has happened or that I will just feel nervous and out of place.

Dp says we don't have to go but dd has been looking forward to it for weeks, and I feel as if I have spolied enough of her Christmas.

What do I say when people say " Have you had a nice Christmas?"

I don't know the incident that you are referring to but in answer to your question, just say, "Lovely thanks, you?"

Please don't be paranoid, just go and have a nice time. You only need to speak to one person at a time, so stick with who you feel comfortable with and have a good time.

Ummmm, what happened at Christmas?

Don't worry about it. Just go and be yourself and surely people will take you for who you are rather than for stories they have heard about you.

I ran off into the village in my pyjamas with the contenst of my bathroom cabinet

Why?

It was a few days before Christmas, I had a meltdown and have been in hospital since.

Oh no Twinset. Well, I still stand by my original post. Be your normal social butterfly self tonight and that is all the people will see.

You deserve to go out and have a nice time.
But if you're not up to it I'm sure your dh will understand.
Don't put yourself in an awkward position so close to last week if you think it will set you back.

You will be amazing when you get there - Mr TSAP sounded fab on the other thread and im sure he will be there for you tonight x

Any decent person who knows about this, will have sympathy and compassion. Anyone else can bog off.

Twinset - good to see you out and about on MN and I hope you're feeling OK. Can understand why you're feeling nervous, but just go for it - have a wonderful time! If people ask about Christmas you can do a generic "Oh, you know..." kind of response if you don't feel up to anything more? Or divert by talking about your dd and what she got - children are very handy like that!

Wow if you are only half as brave as on this post you will be fine! Go and enjoy!

I have just caught up with the other thread TS&P - you seem to be doing great ! Enjoy yourself tonight, you deserve it

Dont worry, when they ask if you had a nice xmas just smile and say yes thanks, what about you? or "it flew by in a blink of an eye" or "busy, you?"

Go and enjoy yourself. I am sure it will be fine.

Happy New Year to you and your family.

Have a lovely time and if they have any compassion about them it won't be mentioned.

THankyou, am feeling a bit better now my gladrags are on.

tbh I think you are very brave to go

but dp will hold your hand i'm sure

just say Christmas was ok really quiet unless you want to go into details

xxx

enjoy yourselfxx

Say yes thank you. Then ask how theirs was and hopefullyl they'll be so busy talking about their Christmas they won't notice your sigh of relief!

Go for a wee while if you can. But if you can't... so what! You do what's best for you angel.

Happy New Year, may 2008 be filled with joy, happiness and laughter for you and yours.

Mars x

It went well, we got back about three hours ago so I must have enjoyed myself to stay so late. A few neighbours asked if I was OK as they knew what had happened but in a nice non patronising but concerned way,

good! Well done you for going.

Well done

My neighbour has been hospitalised twice now, both times after quite embrassing behaviour, but no one ever mentions it after she comes home and we al still carry on as we were, as at the end of the day she wasn't quite herself when it happened so no need to bring it up unless she wants to.

glad it went well

Well done darling. Glad you had a good time.