3.25am and baby won't stop screaming. please help

[silkcushion]

5 week old dd is my first. was a good sleeper until a week ago when started being unsettled between midnight and 2am. has resulted in co sleeping cos she'd only settle with me.

tonight started screaming at 11.30 and won't stop even when i'm holding her - like now.

have tried feeding, winding, infacol, cool boiled water, nappy change, adding layers, removing layers, rocjing, swaying, singing, ssshing, cuddling, leaving to cry, using dummy

am out of ideas and feeling desperate

please help

have you taken temp/ does she look ill?

Silk do you have a car?? I suggest bunging her in the car seat and taking her for a spin for half an hour. She'll probably be sparko by the end of the road!

Poor you sweetie xxx

just keep cuddling/ jiggling/ stroking back etc as long as you can. Have you got someone there with you? If you get to the end of your tether ask them to take over for a bit.

Car thing very good idea. Forgot how well that works!

forgot to say i had taken temp. she felt hot to me nd looked red but i think that's cos she's crying. tbh i'm not sure what looking ill looks like - she's my first

thanks jenny. dh is asleep in other room - don't want to wake him yet - he's got to work in the morning.

bloody hell rg - i guess yr having a similar night - how's ellie?

If she's been screaming alot then she will be hot and flustered. Seriously Silk, take her out in the car. Failing that, why dont you and DH bung some warm clothes on and put her in the pram and walk round the block. That should work too, even if you do look like nutcases at 4am strolling round with a pram!!

Silk - amazingly enough, Ellie is being very lovely tonight. Just checking in before i hit the sofa again. She's been asleep since 1am, then i fed her at 3.15 and she went straight back to sleep. Totally the opposite of the past 3 nights!

v pleased to hear it. can you ask ellie to have aword with megan? and you should get back to sleep whilst you can

OK i'll get Ellie to send Megan some sleepy baby calming vibes. I honestly know exactly how you feel - i was at the end of my tether last night.

Get her out into the car and let me know how you got on. I'm going back to sleep (sorry!).

N'night and good luck xx

I'd forgotten how hard it is but i can almost feel the desperation coming off the computer! Wish i'd had MN when mine were babies!

night night xx

u are right jenny. i feel better being on here - not that she has stopped crying

it v difficult not knowing how to help her. that's the toughest thing so far aout being a mum - the feeling of complete lack of control. didn't realise what a control freak i was until i had megan - it'll probably e good for me

I know what you mean, there are times when having a baby makes you feel so helpless. You'd give anything to help them but there's nothing you can do. Doesn't change much as they get older!
Is she calming down yet?

I know what you mean, there are times when having a baby makes you feel so helpless. You'd give anything to help them but there's nothing you can do. Doesn't change much as they get older!
Is she calming down yet?

I just put her in her cot for 2 mins whilst I went downstairs to get a bottle warmed and when I came back she'd stopped crying. THat was short lived though - started up again after 5 mins. I'm just leaving her for a few minutes to see if she'll calm down on her own. Hence the ability to write capital letters again!

Doesn't seem to be working though and I feel rubbish about letting her cry

Don't feel rubbish. As long as you don't leave her to cry indefinately she'll be fine.

Hi, I'd forgotten about all that. DS is nearly 4 and pg now and you are freaking me out!!!!!

Do you have a baby bjorn type sling? Mine liked being held upright with head resting between breasts skin to skin and I just walked and rocked a bit to calm him down.

DD had the same problem...
one night I just tried everythign like you and I remembered my aunt pumping my cousings knees into her tummy to get the pumps out.
I'd suggest that and swaddling her and singing the bladen races over and over again

i'll get my sling out and start warbling. have tried the leg pumping thing.

i think this is the longest she's ever been awake let alone screamed for!!!

You poor thing. Has she settled yet?

nope

i wonder if i'll actually be awake all night? it's been years since i did that and i have to say being up all night partying is much more fun.

at least dh doesn't seem to have woken. he's in another room - big old house so thick walls and at the other end of the landing.

i have to return to work in feb. does this sort of thing happen when they are 3 months old? how will i cope? bad enough contemplating work with my new mummy mushy brain let alone n

i wonder if i'll actually be awake all night? it's been years since i did that and i have to say being up all night partying is much more fun.

at least dh doesn't seem to have woken. he's in another room - big old house so thick walls and at the other end of the landing.

i have to return to work in feb. does this sort of thing happen when they are 3 months old? how will i cope? bad enough contemplating work with my new mummy mushy brain let alone n