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manners -mumsnetters !

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321 · 09/11/2004 20:58

Am I alone in thinking that if you open a thread asking advice/opinions that you should actually acknowledge them? Of course I don't mean each individual one but a return at the end of a thread or follow up after a day or so would be polite. Most do but quite often no acknowlegement,does any one else find this frustrating? Name change in case I'm being v. over sensitive

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zebra · 09/11/2004 21:00

Agree, but...Sometimes it's hard to find time to get back & read the replies, sometimes I forget I asked the question, or I can't find the thread again!

wobblyknicks · 09/11/2004 21:01

Definitely agree if its a serious one asking for advice but not if its a 'fun' one just trying to have a laugh or a chat.

wallawallabingbang · 09/11/2004 21:02

I agree but dont think mumsnet is that easy to manage your posts. Its easy to forget to "search" for your threads

PicadillyCircus · 09/11/2004 21:04

I generally would but sometimes forget. Sorry

Levanna · 09/11/2004 21:06

I agree, I mean I think I should, it would be polite to do so, but like others, sometimes I don't even get back to the computer to check on a thread until it's dissapeared far far down the list.

agy · 09/11/2004 21:07

I've thought this.

serenequeen · 09/11/2004 22:17

no you're not alone in thinking this! it's one of my pet peeves.

please no-one look up my posts to see if i have always done it - i think i have but may have missed on occasion due to work/family pressures

nikkim · 09/11/2004 22:41

now feeling paranoid as am so forgetful I have probably abandoned loads of threads. Sorry

MistressMary · 09/11/2004 22:42

I try to. It's polite and appreciate the advice.

marthamoo · 09/11/2004 22:42

I do remember posting about my bad back and then it got a lot better and I forgot I'd ever posted about it....I'M SORRY !

KateandtheGirls · 09/11/2004 23:17

I agree 321.

I always go back and do a search on any threads I've posted on in the past day or two to see if I want to add anything, especially if it's a thread I started.

Is that the answer you were hoping for, 321?

321...

321...

Where are you 321?

MarsLady · 09/11/2004 23:22

lol kateandthegirls

jampot · 09/11/2004 23:23

i do try to update and can sometimes hear the groans of other MNers so am a bit cautious

mummyloves · 09/11/2004 23:23

AGH!!! Hvae felt sooo guilty I've just been back looking at threads I've either posted. or know I've said I'd respond to if someone wanted!!! Thanks for pointing this one out. It's not deliberate, it's a time thing with me, I can't always get a minute to myself. Sorry if I've ever upset anyone, honestly not intentional (sad)

Gobbledigook · 09/11/2004 23:23

I try to and if I've been on a contraversial thread I go back to check I've not caused any offence and so if I have I can try and clarify what I was really trying to say/make apologies if necessary. It's difficult to know how your message can be taken sometimes, like on email.

nightowl · 10/11/2004 01:53

i always try to go back and acknowledge but sometimes think it looks like im trying to bump my own thread and have left it....hmmm...makes me think now. i do think its rude though when someone gives someone else a rollocking for a particular post and then never goes back to see if that person explained themselves or apologised. quite distressing for the person who never meant any harm i imagine.

jabberwocky · 10/11/2004 07:08

ditto nightowl

spacemonkey · 10/11/2004 07:32

I always try to acknowledge any responses, and always try to go back and tie up the thread with the outcome if appropriate (because sometimes I'm left wondering what happened with other people's threads)

maomao · 10/11/2004 07:55

Oh dear, if I've done this, I'm sorry

SoupDragon · 10/11/2004 08:14

It would be nice to be able to search for all the threads you started rather than just all the ones you posted on. Sometimes I can't remember exactly what I called a thread or where I put it so never find it again after the initial flurry of interest.

codswallop · 10/11/2004 08:17

I see your point BUt I do think it woudl become very voring if you keep sayiog
"yes thank you soupy thtas really interesting" ( whilst really thinking god thats not it at all ;) ) when the thread has moved on

codswallop · 10/11/2004 08:18

boring I mean

roisin · 10/11/2004 08:40

I try and do this - but sometimes fail, I know. If I get a couple of replies straight away, that's fab. But I find if you post a thank you note at that point, then sometimes it puts of further contributions. But if I leave it and wait for a few more and go off, then sometimes I forget about it until much, much later.

handlemecarefully · 10/11/2004 08:53

I generally do go back and say thanks for any advice etc, but to be quite honest I don't mind if other people don't go back and acknowledge advice on their threads....life is too short / live and let live etc

agy · 10/11/2004 08:55

I was thinking of recipes and suchlike - where it involves a lot of typing!