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Yesterday I discovered my dad is a cross dresser

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Bluebudgie · 26/07/2021 16:05

Name changed for obvious reasons also not sure if this the best section for this?

Yesterday morning my dad was rushed into hospital, thankfully nothing life threatening and he should be home in a few days.

I went round to his flat just to check everything was turned off, safe and secure etc.
I noticed there was a load of washing finished in the machine so thought I would hang it on the airer to dry, most of what was in there was womens clothes.
So I'm thinking oh he is doing someone a favour, a neighbours machine had broken maybe.
On the airer there were already other clothes and underwear I'm still thinking it's someone else's of course.
Having folded it all and hung up what had come from the machine I went into his bedroom and the penny dropped!
More clothes hanging in his wardrobe and a bra on the bed.
At this point I did have a good look around I know its wrong but I had to be positive in my own mind about what was dawning on me, I am in no doubt that the clothes etc are his.
Thing is I don't know what to do now, I'm thinking maybe I should go back and put the laundry back in the machine and pretend I hadn't noticed or leave it as is and just not mention it.
Maybe he would be happy if it wasn't a secret?
I really don't know what to do for the best.
I wonder if my mum knows? Is this why they divorced? I obviously can't speak to her.
Just not sure how to handle this whilst still dealing with my own thoughts and emotions.

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Gregwiggle · 26/07/2021 19:01

The OP is in shock, let's not needlessly have a go.

TheChampIsHere · 26/07/2021 19:02

Perhaps it's an identity thing! This is why people should educate themselves befor speaking!

I’d put money on it being a sexual thing.

Gregwiggle · 26/07/2021 19:05

It doesn't really matter why he does it.

beastlyslumber · 26/07/2021 19:07

@TheChampIsHere

I'm kind of shocked by the assumption by a few that this is sexual thing!

I’d be shocked if it’s not.

Same.
TheChampIsHere · 26/07/2021 19:16

It doesn't really matter why he does it.

It may matter. OP may think it’s fine to talk to her dad about it if she thinks it’s just about what he chooses to wear. She may or may not choose to have that conversation if she realises it’s likely to be a sexual thing. 🤷🏻‍♀️

TheChampIsHere · 26/07/2021 19:17

Either way, I wouldn’t mention it.

Gregwiggle · 26/07/2021 19:23

Me either.

VouisLuitton · 26/07/2021 19:32

I don’t think I would mention it.
Maybe don’t tell him you’ve already been round there but ask him if he would like you to go and do some washing/tidying before he gets home. His response should tell you if he’s ok with you finding anything.

Bluebudgie · 27/07/2021 12:30

Thank you all for your input.
I have decided to go and put everything back so it will appear that I was never there.
I still don't think it is a fetish though, nothing there would suggest that, however I just don't know if he wants it to be a secret or not so I think the best thing is to pretend that I don't know anything.
As @VouisLuitton suggested I may offer to pop around and just see what he says.

I do feel bad for him I hate to think he is scared or embarrassed, wish I could reach out in some way.

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