Female sexuality

[Monkeytrousers]

hello and welcome

Very well, you are excused!

MT -

Is it possible to have a title or syllabus for this lovely lecture series? Or is it a debate?

I havnet followed with a fine tooth comb - got a bit distracted back there - and it would be good to know what the terms were.

A comparison of the various theories of ..

By J.R. Monkeytrousers.

Or'this house believes...? (Might be quite rousing)

so what happens to all this random sexual desire when you get older then...and can't blame it on the need to make babies eh?

I just had a message asking if i wear stockings

my reply

Oh do you have a stocking fetish then?..only when robbing banks..and these days i find fraud easier

xx
hth

his reply

yes

another one bites the dust lol

Eh????

I'll have you know that I would never go to the bar for research. >

Not when the common room is cheaper and warmer and my mates are all there.

actually i'm quite interested in the brain and sex...eg why manic depressives have doolally tap sexual drives alongside the desire to spend money and be generally reckless and madly creative

answers on a postcard

Dear zippi
Weather here great. Arrow shows my hotel room.
isn't it that risk assessment is suppressed during manic episodes?

Zippi. my supervisot has written this Lots about that in there

It's a debate isn't it? I was only joking re the lecture theme, honest

ok now i know i really wasn't concentrating. do I have to go back tot he Porn thread to work it out or is it easily precis'd.
Sorry.
And disappointed! was looking forward to catching your eye with my pertinence.

You did. And uou are very pert!

Baise moi! This is the continuation of the porn thread!?

I was enjoying the lecture actually.

So, where are we at with the debate?

Soph, re your comment, this is from a Home Office document from last year entitled 'Rape and Sexual Assault on Women; the extent and nature of the problem':

?Research into sexual victimisation, as in other areas, is affected to some extent by the qualitative/quantitative paradox. Whilst qualitative work produces richer data, necessarily small samples mean inferences to the wider population cannot be made. Although some writers claim it is impossible to adequately explore the experiences of a victim using rigid, closed questions; quantitative work is the only way in which the extent of a problem can be measured in a systematic way.?

Zippi asked my question - what happens in post-menopausal situations, then?

You would expect libido (particularly on the non pair-bonding side) to die down somewhat after the menopause. Are there any post-menopausal mums in the house who can corroborate or otherwise?

Quick google search suggests this is true judging by the number of products being pushed to restore libido post-menopause.

my libido seems quite healthy but i'm not post menopausal

Somebody - somebody! - make a controversial point about sex, sexuality, darwin, evolution, the muppets.

I've got lots of disagreement pumping around my pre-menopausal bloodstream, and nowhere for it to go.

I agree obm - we need something to get our teeth into.

we are not a monogamous species.
How do we deal with it especially regarding children?

Do women want monogamy more than men do?

I'm 48 and don't know if I'll be able to stick my dp if I my libido disappears.

I have a theory about pms - because we fancy men strongly only part of the time, those times when everything they do irritates the hell out of us are times when we aren't fertile and really would rather not have a man around at all. But we have to try to be with them because we have this pair-bond thing to keep going.

Is there really a difference in how the sexes react to infidelity? Are men more bothered by the actual sex and women by the 'emotional' infidelity?

Could you share a man? I think I could if it were eg Brad pitt.

Don't know if any of this will get things going.

We could go on to rape and, say, the thing about is being about sex and not power. Now, that's a tough subject.

I think there is a lot of conflict between the sexes - MT tends to look more at the compatability.

I've recently read about eg a snake (can't for now remember the species) its the kind where the males wait for the females to emerge from hibernation and all pounce on her. They crush her causing a stress response and therefore the causing the opening of her cloaca so they can mate with her.

This reminds me of Olivia Judson - has anyone else read her brilliantly wicked 'Dr Tatiana's sex Advice to all Creation'??? An absolute must read if you can.

(sorry, I tend to work in bursts like this. I also tend to score towards the 'male' on those tests you can do about where you stand on the male/female spectrum!)

Thanks Etin.
lots of stuff here. Bring it on! Tomorrow!
Night..

obm - it's way past my bedtime and i'll be going in a mo. but I just looked at your profile and was impressed to see that you are only 15 with two kids. Wow.

And obum (obum? ), hope we are up to it tomorrow.

well you know the accelerated life-learning module at MIT High is really impressive.
Plus bat years are different i think.

Yes, I do like to emphasise the 'cooperation of the sexes' just as a counter weight to the 'battle of the sexes'; as Helena Cronin say's, there can actually be no cooperation without conflict in any arena - they are two sides of the same coin.

Just to emphasise, I agree we are not a monogamous species, we are mildly polgynous - i.e. a few long term pair bonds per lifetime seems to be the norm - but not a lot of people will know that this is predicable by the size of men's balls!! haha

I did a 'study' on here once asking the question about the gender difference in reaction to infidelity. The results (though not scientific by any standards!) did mirror the consensus, that women are more concerned by emotional infidelity/divided loyalies and men more the sexual aspect.

Someone I studied with at LSE interviewed Dr Titania recently! He was singing her praises too.(Though at first I thought he was talking about the witchy woman from This Morning )