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Tammybear's quite upset

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tammybear · 01/11/2004 16:37

Im half upset and disappointed and feel like i could cry, the other half is so angry that Ive been walking around with my fists clenched and felt like hitting the next person that p*ed me off.

to the point: dp said to me today he's having his doubts about us living together next year. he doesnt think we can really afford it, plus he would rather us living "comfortably" and not "struggling" like i am now (i added that like i am now bit!) Im so annoyed. Only saturday he was saying his parents are trying to change his mind but hes not having it and is definetly going to move in. but i knew they'd get to him, and tbh i have been thinking we'll probably be a bit tight with money, but at least we'd be together (cheesy i know!)

We were originally going to live together when he's done his third year which he was going to do here, so looks like we're going back to that plan (but havent really spoken to dp as ive been too angry/upset to talk to him so maybe i can change his mind...) but who says his parents wont change his mind then as well. oh poo!

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tammybear · 02/11/2004 13:59

well i wont be seeing him again til probably 26th, as he'll have his show then. we're both busy up til then. might do. as scary as that will be lol. just tried ringing the uni's accommodation line but the womans not in that i need to speak to so will speak to her tomorrow and find out how that all works, as im sure he'll have to pay something for a place. although if he did, he'll probably be at mine most of the time anyway

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JuniperDewdrop · 02/11/2004 14:03

Well you're better to be informed so you know where you stand ( uni accomodation i mean)
hope it all works out well for you

nailpolish · 02/11/2004 14:06

keep your head high tammybear, you are being very strong. just wanted to send you HUGS

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tammybear · 02/11/2004 14:08

thanks juniper and nailpolish. will keep u posted if anything develops

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cardigan · 02/11/2004 14:12

Could you check the uni website. Accomodation is payable in a hall of residence - often with meals included. Perhaps your dp could keep a room at uni for degree work & spend rest of time with you. But - halls of residence don't tend to be quiet for work & are often reserved for first year students.

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tammybear · 02/11/2004 14:15

i did think of that cardigan. just suggested it to dp, but he says that hes thinking of not doing it altogether now. but i know hes just saying that cos hes p*ed off with everything. do you have any idea of how much it would be if he did have a room?

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cardigan · 02/11/2004 14:21

One that I know - At nottingham university fees 2003-4 from £2,112 to £3,565 pa depending on type of accommodation and meals. I remember you saying Reading I think? and the website gives a chart with the different charges also info -
www.rdg.ac.uk/UnivRead/Halls/fees_self.htm

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tammybear · 02/11/2004 14:22

thanks

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cardigan · 02/11/2004 14:22

Lots of best wishes with this

MrsMiaWallace · 02/11/2004 19:56

hi tammybear, was not around last night, hows things?

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tammybear · 02/11/2004 21:51

dont know at the moment mia. all confused.

exp has just pissed me off. just apologised on msn to him for how i was when he visited, and then he goes tammybear? and i said yeah its my nickname, and he says dont like it. well he can bloody f**k off with what he thinks

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MrsMiaWallace · 02/11/2004 21:57

your doing the right thing giving his space to think(even if his mother isnt?)
he's just being picky and arsy as they do so well when they're pissed off. let it go over your head and dont rise to it.he'll get sick and come crawling soon enough.x

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tammybear · 02/11/2004 22:01

lol MMW. well i think its maybe best all round he doesnt live with me next year but have come up with other options he could do.

  1. carry on living with his parents but stay at mine when he has college so that way its not like we'll be paying extra as it'll just be me and dd, and dp staying a couple of nights a week

  2. his staying at accommodation provided by college, where he can still come over whenever and it wont affect anything

  3. him moving in, and me getting a full time job but at the moment im job hunting and its impossible, but maybe thats because its coming up til xmas

  4. him not doing the 3rd year, which from my POV is out of the question. ill make him do it!! lol

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MrsMiaWallace · 02/11/2004 22:05

accomaodation at college sounds good, then he can be away from his mum but she will be happy as she knows he wont have to give it up and start full time work and then you get many shag fests when hes not studying!!!!!!!!!!

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tammybear · 02/11/2004 22:10

lol MMW, well im speaking to a woman about it tomorrow and will find out more info

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MrsMiaWallace · 02/11/2004 22:13

well good luck hun. i off to bed now as dd porly and will prob have to give her lots of cuddles tonight.
might spk to you tomorrow night?
xx

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tammybear · 02/11/2004 22:14

most likely. where else am i going to be? lol. nite xxx

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tammybear · 03/11/2004 09:26

bit of good news, but not going to get excited until dp's spoken to his parents about it, and they're happy with it. we were talking last night, and he said it looked like he would just have to travel up on the train back and to when he has college. so i said to him about my 3 ideas (not including the dropping it one) and he likes the idea of him staying at mine when he has it and then going home when he doesnt, that way everyones happy. i get to see dp a whole lot more than i do now, dp gets to do his course and be with me for a part of it, and his parents dont have to worry about him not doing his work as he'll be doing it at their house and there isnt the worry of how we're going to support ourselves as dp wont be technically living with me. im just a go between college and home lol. fingers crossed theyre happy with that idea!

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tammybear · 03/11/2004 16:47

WOOWOO! Fabulous fabulous news!! (cant remember the last time I used the word fabulous!?) Dp has spoken to his parents, and theyre fine with the idea of him staying at mine when he has college. So although we wont be living together properly, at least we'll be living together half of the week lol. And thats better than nothing. So everyones happy! WOOWOO! He's spoken to the college and someones going to ring him back about his course, and he's coming up next Weds afternoon to go to the open evening. WOOWOO, Im back to being happy

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doziduck · 03/11/2004 17:08

so pleased for you tammybear

Cadbury · 03/11/2004 17:09

Great tammybear.

Gobbledigook · 06/11/2004 15:47

Thank Gawd for that!!!

So pleased you are all smiles again!

jampot · 06/11/2004 15:52

Brill news Tammybear xx

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tammybear · 06/11/2004 15:54

thanks you guys, roll on 2005 now!

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essbee · 06/11/2004 16:01

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