What your children will be when they grow up - will you emphasise money or enjoyment ? Or will you hope they find something that coincidentally provides both?

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Do you or will you encourage your children to do something they love for a living even if you know it won't pay well or will you steer them in the direction of more cash?

As we all know that you don't get paid in accordance with how clever you are or how valuable the work is (well, I would argue so since midwives aren't paid royally and some people make vast sums as footballers or glamour models) will you steer your children away from jobs that don't pay well or will you consider it unimportant and want them to carry on and be an artist if that's what they want? Or are you so rich that it won't matter because they'll be trustafarians?

I know there are exceptions, not all artists are struggling financially and plenty of people aren't well off but are happy but interested to know what you think.

I would say that the enjoyment factor is important, but that they must also be able to support themselves. I would also encourage them to consider how their enjoyment of a career may affect others, whether it be a family if they have one, or people in another country.

Their lives and their business. I would encourage them to consider what they would be doing on a day-to-day basis when deciding on a career - could save a fair bit of misery. And I would expect them to be realistic about earnings and what difference that might make to their lives.

And, no, my children won't be trustafarians - I messed up their chances by doing that Ph.D instead of doing something well paid... so I'm in no position to lecture them. (Unless of course they're actually interested in infinite group theory )

Pretty sure dd will be the most efficient serial killer in history or a dictator (she is now, why change??)

Think ds will be a gigolo.

Btw, dd is 2.5 and ds is 10 weeks.

I think I will emphasise that happiness is very important but that having enough money (and how much that is is an interesting question too) can contribute to happiness and that having no money at all or not enough to live on is pretty shite.

I guess I'd be happy if they both chose to do something they loved and it 'accidentally' made them a reasonable amount of money so they weren't struggling.

Am with Hekate and Fennel.

Def want her to be happy.
IMO happiness is about appreciating what you have and who you are. So even if that means you are doing a job for now that you don't exactly love, you can find something you love about it (eg I loved chatting to customers and helping old ladies when I worked at Iceland when I was 17...)