8 yr old ds talking over dh, seems to annoy dh a lot

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surely I can't have the only child to do this, dh seems to think we do.

ds age 5 talking over me annoys me a lot let alone dh

They continue to do it until at least 11...

Actually we now all talk over each other

They continue to do it until at least 11...

Actually we now all talk over each other

I actually think it's rather rude for an 8 year old though understandable when totally over-excited

but I would have thought by approaching 7 they would get to grips with when it is inappropriate to talk ..the use of the word of 'excuse me' and closely followed by silence

but it depends what you expect of them I suppose ... you can't expect them to do that if you've never expected it before now

Clarice actually talking over herself there....

What did you say Trolley?
Couldn't hear you

He does seem to do it more to dh, although tonights incident was we were talking in the kitchen, not particularly loudly but ds came running in from the living room to tell us something he just found, 95% of the time he has fantastic manners, when its me I just remind him he has just spoken over and to wait, but dh (dh stands for something different at the moment ;)) flew off the handle and started lecturing ds about manners and sorting himself out etc etc, O know he stressful at work at the moment but aghhhhh

I think when DC are excited you have to let it go - they are too small to stop, think, wait and then remember what it was they wanted to tell you!

my nephew does this and i find it absolutely infuriating.
It is rude and bad manners and should be stopped in my opinion.
He understands that it is rude but just talks louder until he is answered....
we have all explained to him about it and that no one does it to him, but he persists.

Dissle bites own fist very very VERY hard in frustration.

My ds is 5 he has had a bad habit of this in the past & i hate it one of my bug bears, i did howver teach him "excuse me" now all i hear is "excuse me mummy" "excuse me mummy" at least he says it though i suppose.

I have got to the stage where holding a 'reminding finger' in the air and giving a look makes DS back down say 'oh sorry' and stand and wait until acknowledged

yep normally a look will do it, but it was just the way dh flew off the handle, we both did get apologies today though.

its rude. a simple " excuse me i am talking" usually suffices - no need to get the arse on over it

Mine does it. I've explained that its rud eto talk over people (wehther other kids, or adults)

I just say "DD we're talking, hang on"

Happy for her to join in any adult convo we having in her presence, but not to interrupt

It is bloody irritating to be interrupted. We do try "Er, people are talking", or "Wait your turn please" which makes me sound just like my parents...

What's more irritating is people who let their kids talk over adult conversations and stop talking to you/another adult to give them their full attention. Friends of ours have a DD like this and it drives us both mad! You can't have a sensible conversation!

The dinner-table is the place for "family" conversation but it is also the place where DW and I have to have Big Chats sometimes. I know that if we don't, she will only try and talk to me while I'm doing something important. Like trying to get to sleep. (Now that's annoying )

What age do/did your DCs master this, all?

We have a motor mouth 4.9 dd, so no one has any manners in our house. She has a strop if I shush her enough to hear anything else. I can't make myself heard to lay donw any rules about it! It makes me feel like a non-entity, that I can never say anything that anyone hears- very annoying.

Yesterday both dds went on at me for 15 minutes showing me about 40 items of art work, fighting for attention all the while, or to be first, while I cut up a melon for their snack.

My dh always turns his full attention to dds in precedence to ANYTHING I have to say-including last week that the car had 2 flat tyres so he couldn't go out. I finally shut up and left him to find out for himself.

'kin 'ell majorstress .. may I suggest you start NOW .. because you're leaving it a little late and are going to end up with 'centre of attention' brats and you need a serious talk with DH .. how on earth can a 4 year old take precedence over you .. that's appalling and teaching your child the wrong message

I'm not saying kids should be seen and not heard .. but manners are important ... extremely important .. they are not little princesses they're children they should not be the centre of attention

I got really (inwardly) cross at a 4 year old today who talked over me and his mother and told him that he had to wait because mummy and I were talking .. as soon as we'd finished I paid him loads of attention and he talked about what he wanted to say

but how dare he try to talk over me! .. its rude and disrespectful and rude

How do I stop her? She just goes into a huge instant strop. The other child age 7 is just trying to make herself heard.

DH, well, so far all I have managed is to have my own strop (no wonder dd2 does it), over the din. His reaction is that I am in the wrong. Or I just give up and think zen thoughts.

Once in that car I tried to get them to hold a talking "feather" (one), Amerindian style. It lasted about 2 minutes, then we had another strop.

cut her dead and tell her she says 'excuse me mummy' then is quiet until you have finished your conversation .. then pay her loads of attention

if she doesn't stop talking then remove her from the room and reiterate

I think you need to get DH in hand first .. what is he thinking?

I've had this problem with dh since dd1 was born, he was besotted with her - he isn't home much and pours all his attention into the kids when he gets in shortly before they go to bed at 8:00 to 8:30 (which is too late for them).

He's very overprotective and hyper-alert too with them. Others have commented.

I think that what has happened is that I have in the past just waited for them to go to bed - but that means they haven't learned to have a conversation WITH us, it's more AT us, and a competition with each other too, for very limited talk time!

I don't especially want to talk to him anymore once they are in bed these days, I am shattered and the feeling is mutual.

As for dd2 I DO cut her dead, or do it any way you can think of-without fail she then throws everything to the floor, says I HATE you and leaves the room, never divulging what she wanted to say.

And they aren't the centre of attention at school, except when they are supposed to be-and then they stand up and say their piece really well! Teacher's pets, school angels, home devils.

I tried the 'excuse me' thing with DS1 but that just resulted in him repeating it loudly until he got attention and I losst my train of thought. Now we do a thing whereby he puts his hand on my/DH's/Granny's arm if he wants our attention. We put our hand on his to show that we know he is waiting to talk and when we are ready we praise him for waiting nicely and listen to what he has to say. He is 5 and it works a treat!

And I agree about people who let their kids interrupt grown-up chat. Really annoying.