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I dont want anymore babys. Is it just me?

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charliecatthenonsmoker · 16/10/2004 21:04

I have 2 dds nearly 7 and 4. I knew that dd2 would be my second and my last. I have no desire for any more children. I am enjoying them for who they are and dont drool over other peoples babys like some folks do...am I alone or are there others?

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serenequeen · 16/10/2004 21:35

oh, ok then

codswallop · 16/10/2004 21:36
WigWamBam · 16/10/2004 21:37

I never wanted children in the first place! I adore the one I've got, despite her being an accident, I still drool over new babies but I too have no desire for any more. And it makes me furious when people say (ad nauseum) "Isn't it time she had a little brother?"

nutcracker · 16/10/2004 21:37

Hey coddy tell my future please whilst your at it

Twiglett · 16/10/2004 21:37

Nope .. don't get it .. I'm broody as hell and have been since DD was 2 weeks old (she's 5 months now) .. already have a DS too ... want loads more (too old though .. and poor actually )

codswallop · 16/10/2004 21:38

how ancient are you?
cant you have one now quickly and write it off as a bf accident?

madgirl · 16/10/2004 21:38

my ds2 is 15 weeks and i feel like i might want to possible maybe entertain idea of 3rd but don't tell dh. specially cos it took 2.5 yrs after ds1 to even entertain idea of a 2nd. i am in love with both my boys.

serenequeen · 16/10/2004 21:38

yes i am too old and too poor

so twiglett you are back?

serenequeen · 16/10/2004 21:39

plus dd was 10lb 8oz - how big would the next one be?

madgirl · 16/10/2004 21:39

yeah how old are you twiglett? i'm 37...........

blossomhill · 16/10/2004 21:51

cc - I have children almost the same age as you dd - 5 and ds almost 7. A lot of people have had babies around me but and I admit to feeling brrody whilst holding them but I really don't want anymore. I am ready and excited about moving onto the next stage with my 2 as they are getting older and if I had a baby I would really begrudge going back to feeding, waking in the night, the whole lot. I just couldn't be pregnant or give birth again. I really have moved on from that stage now and am enjoying having a bit more time for me (selfish maybe?)

Twiglett · 16/10/2004 21:53

I'm 37 too .. can't do the bf accident cos of DH's medication .. could do the popping down the sperm bank and unfreezing the boys though

Twiglett · 16/10/2004 21:53

and I like the 3 year gap .. so could squeeze in 1 more maybe?

serenequeen · 16/10/2004 22:11

yes i like the 3 yr gap too so in theory could squeeze in 1 more (would be 39) - but oh god do not want to be pg again...

Twiglett · 16/10/2004 22:13

well I went blind in one eye with DS and developed pregnancy-induced asthma with DD .. so I really shouldn't want another .. cos I'll probably get some ailment like pregnancy-induced leg-falling off disease

serenequeen · 16/10/2004 22:16

omg, that sounds awful! what i don't want is 25 wks of nausea rapidly succeeded by excruciating heartburn, plus 9m of PND, 9m of gut wrenching fatigue, SPD so I can't walk hardly or look after my toddler, not sleeping for 4m so that when new baby arrived it was actually a rest...

still, at least i didn't go blind - that really is the pits

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charliecatthenonsmoker · 16/10/2004 22:18

Im 25 and could squeeze in another 6 or so but really wouldnt want to, I didnt begrudge a second of the night feeding etc but I really feel I would now.
So thats why im stopping with 2, selfish BH, probably, but better to be selfish and happy at 2 than begrudge a baby your time to have more!

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Twiglett · 16/10/2004 22:20

sorry .. just realised what I wrote .. it was only temporary in the right eye .. 99.9% cleared up after about 7 months (just have teeny blind spot now) .. and it wasn't put down to pregnancy induced .. it was just one of those things .. sounds worse than it actually was TBH

serenequeen · 16/10/2004 22:22

cctns (good for you, btw!) - i don't think that is selfish! one of the major considerations for me is "getting my groove back"...

twiglett - i'm pleased to hear it was not so bad after all.

marthamoo · 16/10/2004 22:22

No, I'm done with babies. Two is enough for me - and I couldn't go through all that again. Haven't done anything permanent about it though, am still just on the pill.

Twiglett · 16/10/2004 22:24

so do you think you have to feel 'right, that's enough for me' .. and does everyone get to that stage?

Skate · 16/10/2004 22:26

Twiglett - good question. While I was pregnant with ds3 this year I thought that was definitely it and was glad that feeling had arrived so I knew that everything was right and I didn't want any more, BUT now he's here.....just can't stand to think that's my childbearing days over!! Am I mad?!!?

serenequeen · 16/10/2004 22:27

i just feel why stop now when (1) we are just getting good at it and (2) we make such fantastic ones!

Tanzie · 16/10/2004 22:28

Two is enough for me. I don't really like babies . Not newborns anyway. I prefer them when they have got over that wobbly head, bladder on a stick phase.

blossomhill · 16/10/2004 22:29

TBH I believe it is down to personal circumstances. My dd has language difficulties and needs lots of help and support. Bearing in mind I also have ds to think of it seriously wouldn't be fair to have another child. I just couldn't cope TBH

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