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FACEBOOK - why?

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Rhubarb · 15/09/2007 11:49

I mean, it's bad enough spending a couple of hours on Mumsnet without having another site to waste my life on as well!

I like to go outside every now and then, breathe the fresh air and talk to real people, you know that thing where you move your mouth and real words come out?

I mean, how can we teach our kids social skills when all we do is sit at the pc "chatting" to pretend people all day?

And yet when I mention my flange of pixies you all think I'm the one who's mad!

So explain the addiction to me please.

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auntyquated · 15/09/2007 13:13

i have a page but have no idea how i use it.
i have looked for games but can't find any. i can't work out how you find people on there unless they rae already in your email addy list.

squeakybrushes · 15/09/2007 13:24

rhubarb - i totally agree - both sites just suck up time and energy that would be much better put to use on something constructive.

not sure what tho'. there are many things i could do but as for getting up off my flange and doing them...

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Rhubarb · 15/09/2007 19:56

Drinking wine, for me, is a far better usage of your time and energy. In fact, lifting the glass to your mouth takes a lot of energy as it is!

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foxinsocks · 15/09/2007 19:57

it's great if you have friends from overseas - the message thing works well because you can leave a message for someone even if they are there or not (iyswim) and they'll pick it up next time they log on.

Having said that, I haven't joined again but keep meaning to!

EricL · 15/09/2007 20:05

I don't get it either. It seems to be designed for everyone to be organised into groups by workplace, college etc and doesn't seem to be great for just meeting random people from all over the world in all walks of life.

Why anyone would want to chat to people from their work or uni that they have seen when they get home is beyond my comprehension.

I have abslolutely no desire to want to talk to people who i used to know from years ago either. I don't know them anymore so they aren't friends. If it wasn't for the internet we wouldn't feel like we were missing out on something. You make friends, move on and make new ones - i just don't understand why people would want to contact people that they wouldn't have given a second thought to if it wasn't for the tinterweb.

Its just extreme nosiness and designed for people who like to express their bragging rights i think.

ledodgy · 15/09/2007 20:06

I'm using facebook alot more than mn lately for the same reasons listed here. It's a good way of keeping in touch with friends. I've been contacted buy people who I actually really liked but life got in the way and people move etc and you lose touch. it's brilliant when you think you'll never see them again and they crop up on facebook and you can catch up and meet up again. I also use itfor keeping in touch with my cousins who I rarely see in rl. Sometimes it freaks you out though. A guy facebooked me who I haven't seen for 12 year last night and I wondered who the hell the bloke was on his photo as he had very little hair and was a bit a chubby then I realised it was him! It does destroy the illusion you have of people from years ago, in your mind they never change.

EricL · 15/09/2007 20:06

(Plus i can't work it - which is why i am being mean to it )

ledodgy · 15/09/2007 20:06

*by

Skyler · 15/09/2007 20:07

I have only just discovered it and use it to share photos with friends and family. I had a 'dropped' friend find me on there and I ignored her friend request (evil me). I check my page and do the quizzes and play Pacman but I wouldn't use it to meet new people. I have caught up with some good friends I made and lost touch with on there. We move around a lot though so it is an easy / lazy way of keeping in touch.
Mumsnet is my anonymous place to be.

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Rhubarb · 15/09/2007 20:08

It's a bunch of lies! You try to get more friends, is that right? But do you see these people on a day to day basis? No! And the stuff you read about people, it's about as true as me saying that I'm shagging George Clooney, which I am but that's besides the point.

Should I set one up for Morty do you think?

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Lovecat · 15/09/2007 21:02

Um... this prompted me to log on to FB and some strange random bloke is asking me to be his friend - is it terribly rude to ask them back 'are you sure you've got the right person, as I've never heard of you?'

fireflyfairy2 · 15/09/2007 21:18

OMG!!! I am so excited!!

I think I just found a girl I used to write to from I was about 10 to round 17!!!!!!!!!!!

I even went to visit her in Scotland!!

We lost touch when we were about 17 as she was really good at gymnastics & went to America to train & we decided we would have a break in letter writing... I got married shortly after & we all know how life changes when children come along..

I have messaged her... oh I hope it's her!!

fireflyfairy2 · 15/09/2007 21:22

Debbie C.. I think I have started a new game

I don't even know what I'm doing

WelshBoris · 15/09/2007 21:27

This rant was brought on by me inviting you to join FB?

I live on my own with my daughter Rhubarb, as you well know. When she goes to bed at 8pm I'd love to be out partying and spending time with my real friends

But I can't. Because I'm a single mother.

So excuse me if I choose to spend my evenings chatting to old and current friends on Facebook.

Off to chat some "real" words to myself now.

Perhaps I won't feel so fucking shit then.

WelshBoris · 15/09/2007 21:29

You know I'm actually really pissed off now which is bizarre. Maybe I'm tired after DDs party today but your rant has upset me. FB stops me feeling lonely in the nights. I don't feel so fucking alone.

You're one of the first to come down on posters who say MN is not real, arguing that it is a life line to a lot of mothers.

Well MN, MSN and FB are MY lifelines.

fireflyfairy2 · 15/09/2007 21:34

You can add me welshy.. Ill chat to anyone me!

ledodgy · 15/09/2007 21:36

You can add me too and you Firefly!

fireflyfairy2 · 15/09/2007 21:39

OK

j20baby · 15/09/2007 21:45

hmm, i don't know how it works, and i've only got 1 friend
she's a nice friend though

fireflyfairy2 · 15/09/2007 21:45

Have added you ledodgy... but can't find WB on there!

Nemo2007 · 15/09/2007 21:46

WB you can add me if you like

I wouldnt feel pissed off its not worth it. Some people can go out and see 'real friends' for other reasons some of us cant. If it wasnt for the internet I would probably only speak to Dh in the week. We dont have the money to go out, I dont have the energy after dealing with 3 dc all day so I go online and 'talk'

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Rhubarb · 16/09/2007 16:46

Oh dear, didn't mean to piss anyone off!

WB this was not a rant intended for you, it was tongue in cheek. I don't really care why people use Facebook, after all I use Mumsnet so what is the difference? I was just fooling around on a wet day and certainly didn't mean any offence. If you read the thread again I'm sure you will see that.

Sorry, it obviously touched a nerve with you and I shouldn't have been so insensitive. As I said, I didn't start this thread with you in mind.

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Jennifer8 · 16/09/2007 16:52

Hate it, hate it, hate it. I hate it so much!

I was invited onto it by a dear friend who has a wide social circle, and felt so hideously inadequate I had to leave. I also couldn't figure out how to use the site, it was really tricky to navigate (to a beginner anyway).
I also hated having constant emails telling me someone had left me a message or something and havng to try and keep up with them all.
It was a total stress and never, ever finished. I can see how it gets addictive because it is so hard to get everything done, you reply to a note and then they reply back, it's a nightmare!

Sorry to offend anyone who likes it
Just my personal feelings.

Ecmo · 16/09/2007 16:56

Oh I think I'm sadder....I have a Bebo page I only have 2 friends on it and they are my dd and ds!

In my defence I only created it so I can mess about on photoshop and make cool pictures to make my page pretty!...I only go on to do that....and to leave messages for my dd who is usually leaving one for me on her computer upstairs!

Jennifer8 · 16/09/2007 16:56

And I only feel this way because I don't actually have any friends

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