Friend has asked for money as 'wedding gift'.....

[PinkChick]

her wedding is abroad and we are all going.
She initially said no present as the hol/place she has chosen is v.expensive, but knowing her well, she would not refuse a present
her ssi (my best friend) said to me at weekend she has asked them for the money as her and finace have house and two girls and dont 'need' kettle toaster etc and she wuould love to save for a hot tub for garden ....
so how much should we give?
i have known her long time, but am b.friends with her sis, she is someone we all go out with on occasion, used to be inseperable as group when younger and looked after her dd while back

Not read all the thread so apologies if a pepition but what I would do is give them a certain amount for every year they've been together that way you only have to bung them a few quid but still look very thoughtful and considereate

we are getting married soon and have asked people to give us cash towards our honeymoon if they want to give anything at all, as we have a house full of stuff. however i'm going to get a terramundi pot so people can put the money in and we won't know how much any particular person gave, then people won't feel bad if they can't afford much

tbh i would just give her £40, she has asked for money because that's what she wants, so i'd just give her whatever you can afford. i'm sure if she's got any manners then she won't complain! esp if you are flying abroad for her wedding!