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what do you hate about weddings?

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coddychops · 12/09/2004 19:13

me first

bridal favours
n paying fro all oyur drinks
bossy wedding lists( or to cgive cash - rude IMo)
long speeches or rude ones
hen enights that are expensive

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MeanBean · 13/09/2004 09:01

Whizzz - what a cheek!

Part of the "our day", world revolves around us phenomenon.

vict17 · 13/09/2004 09:12

I went to a wedding once where the bride, groom and all their family left in middle of reception (actually it wasn't a reception, it was in a pub that had closed down the day before and was offering no food) to go and see bride's sister in hospital who had just had a baby. So we'd travelled, paid for a hotel etc for what was in effect about a 3 hour shindig and we were all starving. Fair enough they wanted to see the new baby and were sad that sister was missing out on their day but why arrange the wedding for when your sister is due to give birth?!! Sorry this was a while ago now but still makes me cross just thinking about it....

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coddychops · 13/09/2004 09:13

Oh yes hate no kids ones (we once read one that said " because we wnat o you to realax" as if kids always = misery!)

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coddychops · 13/09/2004 09:14

oh and ditto re drinks
dont invite poeple
its like saying "ome around for a meal nd making you buy a take away)
this did once hapen to me

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whizzz · 13/09/2004 09:18

It never even occured to us at ours to ban kids - we even ensured that there was a kids option on the food ! Must admit haven;t been to any really bad ones yet - although have had one with the worlds most cheesiest DJ though !

Twinkie · 13/09/2004 09:18

The fact that really the whole day is about the two of you and yet you are expected to invite loads of people - some who you have never net before) and share what is really a lovely romantic act between the two of you with all of these people whilst putting them up, buying them round upon round of drink and feeding them too!!

(Can you tell I have had one failed marrraige already!!)

This time around it will be a tiny affair just the two of us DD & DS and our closest friends and his family and an uncle and aunt from my side - I would get married at a register office and then hire out a restaurant for the evening and that will be it - no pomp and circumstance to detract from what we are actually pledging to each other!!

Well I'll get back on my cynical horse and make for the sunset now!!

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coddychops · 13/09/2004 09:27

the more marriages are costing the shorter they last

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beetroot · 13/09/2004 09:33

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MummyToSteven · 13/09/2004 09:37

i don't see what's wrong with expecting people to pay for their own drinks, and don't quite see why it is necessary to pay for people to get hammered! after all tap water should always be freely available

aloha · 13/09/2004 09:39

Hate discos, dancing, speeches, long services, paying for drinks and worst of all....waiting hours and hours and hours for food so everyone pissed, tired, hacked off and headachy by time they sit down for minute portion of chewy chicken.
Of course, mine had none of that - and the kids all loved ours - picnic on the lawn, fairy woods, boat rides, cake...

aloha · 13/09/2004 09:40

I wouldn't ask people to a party and ask them to pay for their own drinks! IMO If they are your guests, you pay, because if they are paying, aren't you their guest??

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coddychops · 13/09/2004 09:50

well said
its poepole ib=nviting too many

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Bibiboo · 13/09/2004 09:55

I hate the fact that so much is expected of you on your wedding day. You have to pay for everything, entertain everyone, invite and pay for people you never see, don't like or don't even know just to keep others happy and STILL get people slagging off one aspect or another of your day. Grrrr.
I wish, I wish, I wish I'd stood my ground for my wedding day and only invited the people who I knew would be happy for us and enjoy the day for what it was meant to be.
And as for the children thing - we upset a whole load of people by not inviting their children, who then turned up and saw a few toddlers and babies there. Basically, our rule was, if you've got little ones and are having to travel a fair distance, then by all means bring them as it could prove too tricky to leave them all weekend. On the other hand, if they are teenagers, don't even know me and can be quite happily left with relatives, then I'm not paying for them.
Also hate the constant "Children next then?" comments from everyone - I just smiled and nodded politely until the next morning when we announced that I was in fact 12 weeks pregnant and wasn't just being a "killjoy" by not drinking on my own wedding day.

Metrobaby · 13/09/2004 10:55

I've yet to go to a wedding that has had all drinks paid for.

bakedpotato · 13/09/2004 11:08

a recentish mad development is this feeling that weddings have to have evetyhing, vintage cars, sugared almonds, loads of flowers, multiple supper courses, discos, show-off honeymoon destination... and the expendable thing is the drinks budget. wrong! it's outrageous. there is a sort of transaction going on here, sorry to sound businesslike, but it's a cheek to expect a wedding present if you haven't got your guests slightly tiddly

jampot · 13/09/2004 11:13

Metrobaby - we supplied all the drinks at our wedding. Dh's best man was supplier of the drinks to the venue we held our reception at so we bought it all at cost then tipped the manager a nice little tip for allowing us to do so. Then the leisure company who owned the restaurant couldn't work out how they could have a sit down wedding party for 40 without any drink being consumed and promptly sacked the management!!!

MeanBean · 13/09/2004 11:18

I think that's the thing I hate absolutely most about weddings thinking about it bakedpotato - the increasingly transactional nature of it. "Hmm, they're spending £50 a head, so the commercial value of my gift must be at least £50, irrespective of my income and other outgoings..."

bakedpotato · 13/09/2004 11:30

in my experience the weddings with the meanest drinks budgets are invariably the ones where the wedding list details are enclosed with the invite

artyjoe · 13/09/2004 11:34

Went to my sisters wedding just last week, apart from the fact I truly believe she was making the biggest mistake of her life...the speeches, my God!

In the afternoon the speeches went on for a few hours, and only 4 were left for the evening...the 4 lasted for 2.5hrs, the grooms speech alone was exactly 45 minutes! They went on so long the speeches finished at 10.20pm and the disco finished at 11pm, so 40 minutes of trying to rub off the dreadful speeches before going back to expensive hotel!

Also hadn't seen dad in 12 years who was sat on the top table with mum, who hadn't spoken to him since he left her in Spain! It was awful! Awful! Awful!

jasper · 13/09/2004 14:04

the fact that most will end up either divorced or wishing they could get divorced but are trapped for reasons of finance/children

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