what do you hate about weddings?

[coddychops]

me first

bridal favours
n paying fro all oyur drinks
bossy wedding lists( or to cgive cash - rude IMo)
long speeches or rude ones
hen enights that are expensive

grandperents of the groom who divorced in th e early 1960s treading around each other like lions

Standing in a church graveyard in February, with snow falling waiting for the b*dy pictures to be taken (in the end we got fed up hanging around and nipped into the pub across the road for a swift pint )

And from my own wedding....

having to deal with my parents who are divorced and with new partners PLUS

dealing with my Out-laws who are divorced and remarried and both hate each other on sight, new partners hate each other ....

then my delightful?? SIL who firstly announced she wasn't coming to wedding because we were marrying on the day that she got divorced (do you detect a theme in our family????) but as I pointed out if I tried to avoid dates where everyone got divorced then I'd have no b*dy dates to choose from.

Also SIL dislikes her Stepmother and SIL and MIL gang up against SM.

And you wonder why we now have nothing at all do with my Outlaws

Still, our 11th Anniversary on Saturday

I like naff wedding discos where they play 80s hits... and I like kids running around the dance floor before the disco. Hate weddings where we don't know anyone but the bride and groom and one of the ushers, who is busy, though.

Weddings where the reception is bloody miles away from the church and the hotel you are staying at later.

you're making me cringe as I'm now remembering our own wedding. Due to a complete mistake on the part of the venue organiser, our 'free' bar ran out! We had agreed an amount of money that would have taken us up to well after the bar closed and was designed to leave a bit extra for the guests who were staying the night but the barstaff had been given a copy of the 'Bar Account' from the wedding the night before.
The real trouble was, because DH and I weren't going anywhere near the bar (having drinks got for us) we didn't find this out until very very late in the evening when most of the damage had been done. And you can only explain to so many people before you just sound like you're trying to cover your tracks for being stingy. Horrible memory. Yuk. But the rest of the day was lovely.

Line ups, long photos, long speeches,loud music during the meal, discos............oh i do sound like a boring old f*

I would like to say in defence of top tables....we HAD to have one at our wedding as all DHs family said they wouldn't come if they had to sit with his mother so we had to have her...sigh.

But we had the same drink as everyone else!!!!!

The insincerity of "forever and ever" particularly when one or both have been married before

CYNICALLY - that most of them end in divorce

Waiting around for photographers to take naff photos with bride and groom's hands intertwined with flowers is definitely the worst.

Watching elderly relatives get drunker and drunker and revealing more and more shocking family history is definitely the best.

I hate it when you have to go to the church at midday, then you get the reception and food, speeches etc and it's all over by 3 or 4. You then have to hang around for hours til the evening do by which time I always have a vile headache. Why can't people get married later and have it going straight through?

Throwing the bouquet so everyone can see who are the singles. Amazing the amount of people who fight over it.

Agree with many here - photos, big gaps of time with nothing going on, not enough wine served with the meal (particular bug bear of mine), really small portions (esp of vegetarian food) bizzare customs that people think they have to do - like "favours" and wearing top hats and tails and trying to have a formal dinner when no-one in the wedding party has ever been to a formal dinner in their lives and look really uncomfortable and don't know what they're doing, having to sit in the toilet with my grandmother for the whole time while she was being sick (oh, actually, that was only 1 wedding I went to ).
Our wedding was great though - none of the above

the funnniest wedding shot in the world is the "bride down the drain " shot
the bride is sitting on grass with her leg tucked under her and her dress swwoshed around the front with thte bouquet placed on it.

she looks like she has no legs and has popped ip from underground to say hi!

you mean like we did at sp, cd?

dont like high cost weddings as its a waste of money just for the purposes of showing off IMO. £10,000 can do so much more. have toldall my kids am not paying for owt expensive.

however went to BILs wedding a couple of weeks ago - was fab and cheap - they spent all they could and it wasnt much. aunty made the flowers as a present as she is the florist. we bought the cake and bits n pieces and lent money for the disco.

after the church we went back to the couples house and they put up a £30 gazebo withthe food in. kitchen chairs in the garden - and buy your own beer form the offlicence. it was classic- the bride had a bottle of wicked in one hand and a fag in the other - thems the kind of wedding i like!!

Being made to watch the happy couple's entire wedding or honeymoon video afterwards when you go to visit them.

Ones where the bar is not subsidised in a VERY expensive hotel. I really don't think it's fair to expect guests to pay £6 or £7 for a vodka & tonic. Was at a wedding recently where this was the case and people were finding the prices very steep and a bit of a shock.

There is a breed of bride & groom who only think about what they want for "their" day and forget that their guests are equally (if not more) important.

my own:
wearing perma-grin all day long
Wedding car sent was a 2 door vauxhall something or other
crap and expensive photographer
getting married at 3pm in October (on the day after the clocks went back - photos in dwindling light, freezing cold and photographer would NOT relocate the wedding party somewhere lighter and warmer!)

Other weddings:
being invited to the church and evening reception only
making smalltalk with folk you don't know
not knowing if you should wear a hat or not, buying v expensive one and it being the only one in church (apart from organists knitted teacosy)

Ooooh I LOVE weddings...especially since ours was so completely crap. It was worth it to get married to dh but apart from that...

What I really hate is when I know too much about the bride or groom. Eg recent wedding, -the bride and groom had known each other a year, the groom, dps friend, had been dumped by his partner of 7 years and had met the bride not long after. Have to admit they were lovely together and still together now 2 yrs on so I'm really just judgemental.

I've got a wedding coming up where I'm about 80% certain that the groom is shagging one of the bridesmaids (his friend, not the bride's). And if they're not, everyone who knows the pair of them thinks they might be. The bride is absolutely lovely and I'm certain she has no idea as she doesn't mvoe in this circle. They have kids too.

I feel that in both of these cases the wedding is not a celebration of their love etc etc but something that one party is using to prove something. And that means I can't enjoy it properly (which of course is the main consideration ;) ).

Also its that whole "Don't mention the war" thing.

And personally, I hate Wagner's wedding march.

I love small quirky weddings, preferably with no relatives (or only cool ones). I wish we had been brave enough to have a small quirky wedding and invite friends, not a small crappy wedding and invite relatives.

I also really dislike it when people expect guests to pay for their own drinks. I'm sorry but unless its a really small wedding and the reception is in a pub and everyone has known everyone else since they were 12 (went to one like this and it was great)-DO NOT ASK GUESTS TO BUY THEIR OWN DRINKS. If you ask guests to buy their own drinks it is not a reception it is you saying "Do you want to come down the pub?" and that it totally different IMO.

Well I think thats everything.

Oh also-the number of weddings I have been too where there is LIMITLESS wine, beer etc but one bottle of nice water per table, then you're onto the Peckham Spring. Non drinkers (eg drivers and pregnant women) should get NICE drinks too!

I don't mind weddings where I am just a guest.

I was bridesmaid for my friend, who planned the thing for 2 years, we had days out looking at shoes, flowers, venues, hairdressing trial runs not to mention the 20 shops we had to go to find the perfect dress, in the end she had the dresses made and I had no less that 6 dress fittings. She spent about £6500 and all the way through the day she was panicking if every little detail went wrong, she cried most of the morning because the button holes didn't show up and afterwards admitted that she enjoyed it very little. She finished paying it off last year, 6 years after getting married.

This made me decide that when I got married I would keep it simple, and we did, we just decided to get married and then 3 weeks later we were married, registry office, pub reception, my mum and dad paid for dress hire & cake, I think the wedding cost us about £450, and as it was low pressure I totally loved it and had the best day ever.

I should add that the last two weddings I've been to - which add up to a high proportion of all those I've ever been to, in fact - were quite quite lovely and I even cried at one of them (although that was partly because the Inferiorettes were running rampant around the church).

Invites that say "Unfortunately we cannot accomodate children" sent by a member of your family who know full well that you have a DS & that you live 200 miles away !!
Also added onto this was a request for money in the form of a cheque so they can commission a piece of art to celebrate the occasion !!
WHAT ????
Now is that just me.... ???

People looking at you in sympathy 'cos you're not married and saying 'never mind' and giving dp looks that could kill like its all his fault (its me that doesn't want to be married FFS)...
all the hanging around!