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So upset and it's all my own fault.

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nutcracker · 08/09/2004 17:11

Some of you may know that i was supposed to be going back to college this september.
I started the course last sept but dropped out just before i should of taken my exams at the end of the first term.
My friend also left but she did take her exams.

We both decided that we wanted to go back and have had a hell of a time trying to get back in as this years course is full.

My friend has just rung to say that our old tutor has told her that because she did her exams and got the credits she can start in yr 2's class. This will mean that she only has to do one yr now instead of 2.

I rang and was told that because i didn't do the exam and didn't get the credit I have to do the it all again from the beginning even though it means that for the first term i will be doing work that i have already done and assignments that i have already done and passed, same goes for presentations, mini tests e.t.c.

I am soo annoyed and upset, i have been crying since she rang. It's my own fault but it's ruined everything.
I won't be able to do the course at all now as i will have to much of a rush to get from school to college in the morning on the bus and home in rush hour on a bus with ds i do not fancy at all.

My friend feels quitye guilty i think as i was crying at her down the phone but obviously I don't want her to feel bad as it's my fault not hers.

Am just soooo anyoed with myslef for being so stupid.

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SoupDragon · 09/09/2004 12:12

Won't your friend be at Uni similar times to you for 2 out of the 3 years?

nikcola · 09/09/2004 12:12

nutty you can do it if i can you can ok xxxxxxxxxxxxx cheer up luv there must be a way round it , god if i lived closer i would help you, take care nutty xxxx

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nutcracker · 09/09/2004 12:15

Thanks Niki, I know i'm just being silly i know.

Soupy - You are gonna laugh at this, but she wants to do midwifery so we wouldn't actually be at uni 'together' iykwim, just in vaguley the same place some of the time.

I know how ridiculous i sound, someone slap me please.

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SoupDragon · 09/09/2004 12:16

Slap!

SoupDragon · 09/09/2004 12:16

You wouldn't actually have been at uni together anyway?? Oh, Nutty!! After this year you'll still be in vaguely the same place at the same time

ponygirl · 09/09/2004 12:21

Oh Nutcracker, I sympathise sooo much. I know just what it's like to know what you want to do but you just don't seem to get to it. And the thing that's standing most in the way is yourself. Now, hard work and dedication? Honey, you've got three kids, if that doesn't take hard work and dedication I don't know what does. And how dare anyone doubt your abilities? They shouldn't and neither should you. If it's what you've wanted all this time, then you really need to sort out these difficulties. There has to be a solution somewhere. My god, this country is desperate for nurses, I can't believe there isn't some flexibility in the system to help with your childcare issues to enable you to do this course. Are there any student support groups who might be able to advise? Or the Union? Sorry, this is a bit vague, but it's donkeys ages since I was at college. Which is why I really want you to achieve this, Nutty: I'm a decade older than you and have too many "I wish I'd done..." and I can't go back now. But you still have all those chances. TAKE THEM! xxx

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nutcracker · 09/09/2004 12:23

Ouch thanks

I know i'm a twit.

Plus if they had of let me do the course over 1 yr i wouldn't have had time to learn to drive either so it is best this way.

Another confession.....I do actually know someone else on the course. Tiredemma is doing it too and we know each other from school, although haven't seen each other since then.

I will try to contact her through CAT

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ponygirl · 09/09/2004 12:25

OK, you're really right out of excuses now! Get down that college, girl!

nikcola · 09/09/2004 12:25

yey go nutty xxxxxxxxx

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nutcracker · 09/09/2004 12:27

Thanks PG

I know i'll have mega regrets if i don't do it.

Am going to have a good think about it over the weekend.

Hmm uni just emailed me back and sais that Dc passes are no longer accepted at all. Oh well thought that was a long shot.

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nutcracker · 09/09/2004 12:31

O.k i have emailed tiredemma through MN.

Am going to check out bus timetable and stuff now.

Nik are you getting a grant for books and stuff ??? I applied for one for course fees, books and childcare but haven't heard anything.

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LIZS · 09/09/2004 12:39

Nutty

I know you are disappointed and upset with yourself but I think you need to establish what the real issue is here.

Your friend was going to do it with you and share the course and the travelling - but there would have been occasions where it didn't work out, one's got a sick child and can't go or whatever. She has got herself into the second year but if she hasn't covered all the work that the others have then she could well fall behind and get demotivated again. If she does get through this year then she'll go to uni ahead of you but you wouldn't have been together a lot of the time anyway ! Surely you could still arrange to get together and share books, information and help each other during the week. There must still be common ground on the different parts of the course and you would have the advantage of her being a little further on.

On the practical side if you still want to enrol for this course I think you need to meet the tutor face to face and outline your worries over getting there on time, creche opening hours, repeating work and so on. They will respect you more for being upfront and may be more accommodating now than if you started and then found yourself in difficulties. If you can take your previous coursework and show them what you had achieved, be it without the exam, they may find a way to exempt you from some parts of the course. Of course it isn't going to be nice getting caught in rain etc but perhaps you'll meet someone there who could give you a lift part way occasionally.

If you become more proactive hopefully you can feel more positive about the course and will find a way to achieve what you really want.

Good luck.

nikcola · 09/09/2004 12:48

err yeh im getting funding for dds childcare but havent heard anything final yet they cant do anytink till i get my timetable on my induction on monday they are a real pain in the arse they make it soo hard for people with children,

im getting help with books ans stuff but its not much £150 a yaer and thats it , keep at it nut you will get there xxx

SoupDragon · 09/09/2004 12:54

You already know someone else doing it at the same time as you...???

Don't think about it - just do it. You know it makes sense.

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nutcracker · 09/09/2004 13:22

Nik - Will you be doing Psychology and Phisiology ???

If you are I can recommend 'Foundations of Psychology' By Nicky Haynes. It's a big thick book and costs around 25 quid but i got mine for a tenner off ebay, worth a look.

Also do you have a WORKS book shop near you ???
I got 'Atlas of Anatomy' and 'Atlas of the human body' from there. One was a tenner and one was about 6 quid i think, and they are both really good.
They also do posters of the human body which are useful too.

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nutcracker · 09/09/2004 13:24

Sorry soupy i'm frustrating aren't I.

O.k, have made a desicion......................

I'll go back, on one condition........that i can moan and moan on here about how hard it all is blah blah blah

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aloha · 09/09/2004 13:34

It is ONE day a week! If you were going to work five days a week as a nurse it would rain just as much!!! Get an umbrella and a raincoat. Come on, you really are inventing problems here. When I said the taxi thing I said it was ridiculous - the point is to think of SOLUTIONS not more problems. There are lots of solutions. As you said yourself, they won't mind if you are a bit late on odd days. It doesn't rain every day between 8.30 and 8.90 am! And it is only ONE day a week. Stop dwelling on the negative and get there and start the rest of your life. You can't see past next week at the moment, but you are talking about something that has the potential to change your life forever. No pain, no gain!

coddychops · 09/09/2004 13:34

well said aloha

aloha · 09/09/2004 13:35

Yay! Don't you dare bottle out now! You aren't Paula Radcliffe, you know

coddychops · 09/09/2004 13:35

lol aloha
my god I need cheering up aotady too
you lot make me laugh

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nutcracker · 09/09/2004 13:38

LOL Aloha

O.k now i will be looking for experts in Maths and Biochemistry as those are my worst subjects

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nutcracker · 09/09/2004 13:39

What did you teach again Coddy ??

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serenequeen · 09/09/2004 13:41

lol @ aloha!

but she's right, nutty! glad to see you are coming round to the idea - you'd be crazy not to pursue this, and if you show a fraction of the determination and tenacity you put into getting a new house, you'll be sorted.

good luck!

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nutcracker · 09/09/2004 13:48

Thanks serenequeen, nice of you to say so

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coddychops · 09/09/2004 13:54

no not science ( says she who got D for o level BIO)

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