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Dresses - why do you wear them?

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Mummaluelae · 01/11/2018 08:00

Me and dp were having a Convo yesterday about this.
He believes dresses are stupid, silly to wear unless for an occasion such as prom, wedding, or going on a night out.
He believes they shouldn't be worn from day to day even if your just in the house.
His exception is 'if your a little girl. You put dresses on girls not women. When they're about 13 they should just stop wearing them!"

I obv disagree. I wear dresses round the house some days, easier than finding trousers and top to match. Leas effort with a dress! And also a dress can make me feel better sometimes too

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HundredMilesAnHour · 01/11/2018 08:25

He's quite the charmer, isn't he? I couldn't put up with someone who spouted such tosh.

I used to wear dresses every day for years as I lived somewhere very hot and humid and dresses were the most stylish way of being comfortable. I still wear a lot of dresses (now I'm back in the UK where it definitely isn't hot and humid) because I LIKE them.

Babdoc · 01/11/2018 08:26

I haven’t worn a dress for years. It’s not so much the dress I hate, it’s the ghastly feel of nasty nylon tights, which are sweaty in summer and freezing in winter.
I wear cool cotton trousers or jeans in summer, and warm cords in winter. With cosy socks, in natural fibres.
You can stride freely in trousers, whereas pencil skirts and silly high heels effectively hobble you.
Trousers are also subconsciously seen as authoritative, where dresses are not. Hence the phrase “Who wears the trousers in that marriage”.
An alien anthropologist, arriving on Earth, might view dresses as ornamental submission signals, designed for open access to genitals for shagging purposes.
The patriarchy certainly seemed keen on enforcing dresses for girls as school uniform for years, while boys got practical trousers. And the Victorians were outraged at the mere idea of women in trousers.
Food for thought.

explodingkitten · 01/11/2018 08:31

They are waaaay more comfortable than jeans, they instantly make me look more put together and they make me happy.

I don't like the fact that your DH is so invested in what other people wear. I couldn't tell you what my DH is wearing and I saw him 30 minutes ago when he was dressing in front of me. It's none of his business. He needs more important stuff to fill his thoughts with.

tabulahrasa · 01/11/2018 08:35

The only trousers I actually like are jeans, so if I can’t wear jeans I wear dresses or skirts.

CherryPavlova · 01/11/2018 08:40

I rarely wear trousers.

Dresses for work that travel well and can just be pulled on and forgotten. No matching or selecting anything more than a scarf. Smart and comfortable with a jacket. U
Summer dresses because they’re cooler and more comfortable and generally prettier.
Tunic dresses and leggings for walking the dog. Total comfort and stretch ability for getting over stiles or digging around in the bushes for balls.
They hide a multitude of sins.

ApplesinmyPocket · 01/11/2018 08:44

I wear dresses most often - soft jersey in winter with woolly tights (not glam but so comfy!) and cotton in summer. I love dresses for the comfort and they suit me better than trousers as I don't have a well-defined waist.

Howyoualldoworkme · 01/11/2018 08:47

Because I have lipedema/lymphedema and can't wear trousers

GreenMeerkat · 01/11/2018 08:49

I have large thighs and dresses hide them well.

BusterGonad · 01/11/2018 08:49

I love dresses, I am slightly over weight but I first fell in love with them when I was pretty slim, to me they are quick and easy and also look quite 'put together'. I also have long skin legs so they show off my best bit. I have huge boobs as well so a jersey dress always fits as it stretches over them, also jeans and trousers are hard to find when you have longer legs and need ex long/longer length. Oh and I have tummy issues (pain and cramps) so dresses skim and don't add to my issues.

MardAsSnails · 01/11/2018 08:50

When I was really overweight (I am when I was size 20. I’m now a 14 so still overweight), I would never ever wear a dress because it felt like a tent. So his theory doesn’t hold true

I wear them more now even in the day because my weight loss has given me more of a waist to show off, and I can now wear heels without my feet hurting as much.

LesLavandes · 01/11/2018 08:50

Dresses are feminine

Racecardriver · 01/11/2018 08:51

That is such a weird thing to think. I can’t really understand in what way they are anything less than practical for grown women. They are generally more flattering and comfortable than trousers. The only reason I don’t wear dresses ever single day is that I struggle to find ones that are long enough.

JanetLovesJason · 01/11/2018 08:53

It’s just so easy to get dressed. Put dress on. There. Done.

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Mummaluelae · 01/11/2018 08:55

Its funny as a baby (seen pics) I would wear a mixture of dresses, skirts, trousers, ect. When I started school I had the grey tunics and checkered summer dresses, no trousers. High school I only wore trousers. I started wearing dresses again when I was probably about 20 when I'd go out to pub or club then on hot weekends when iwasnt working. (My job in childcare would not be practical in a dress that's for sure and no one I worked with ever wore dress skirt or shorts tbh) when I met my dp I was wearing skinny jeans I know this because he always reminds me I looked nice in them with my boots. On our first official date as such I wore a short dress though. As I got older I stopped going out, stopped drinking, sober 4years and counting now. I don't own any party dresses,got rid of my skater dresses and my short bodycon dresses I wear as long tops. I have a few straight dresses (is that what they're called) but rarely wear them!

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bakingdemon · 01/11/2018 08:56

I pretty much only wear dresses to work. They're comfortable, they look really smart and in a mainly male work environment they help me stand out. The only disadvantage is that they don't all have pockets, but I am hopeful that more brands are listening to women's need for them!

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Mummaluelae · 01/11/2018 08:57

However, dd is not quite 1 yet, she walks confidently and wears dresses some days. I have taken her to park with ds and she worn dresses but she was not good on her feet so she would literally be pushed in a swing or slid down slide. I imagine as she gets older and we go to the park I'll put her in leggings or joggers ect so she can use the climbing equipment without flashing her knickers or tights!

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Mooehey · 01/11/2018 08:58

I wear them because Im fat and can't fit in jeans or trousers.

Dresses and leggings all the way.

Believeitornot · 01/11/2018 08:59

Why are you even engaging in this conversation with him?

It doesn’t affect him. Women can wear what they damn well please, they don’t have to give a reason.

Ginazon · 01/11/2018 09:02

He sounds like your standard misogynist.

Dresses = female = silly and stupid

Everyone should really grow up and dress like a proper person, you know, like a man.

3TresTrois · 01/11/2018 09:07

I wear dresses almost all of the time because:

They’re comfortable - nice and breezy in the summer, cosy with thick tights in the winter.

I can’t find any trousers that fit me and suit me (tall with an hourglass figure).

I’m lazy. It’s easy to feel ‘put together’ for work by grabbing a dress and some tights. I’m no good at putting outfits together and can’t be arsed with matching tops to bottoms.

They suit me! Grin

I disagree on ‘dresses are for little gurls’, too. DD (10) has never liked dresses, as she finds them restrictive for physical play. She wears leggings & trackie bottoms at weekends and trousers as part of her school uniform.

carpetrunner · 01/11/2018 09:10

I don’t like trousers. It’s a very rare day you’ll see me in a pair of trousers. I don’t like the feel on my fat thighs and even baggy ones for me I have to go up to a whale size to fit in them and that just depresses me.
In the winter I like to wear dresses tights and boots.

JeezYouLoon · 01/11/2018 09:11

You can change dresses easily, will it be as easy for your husband to change his daft ideas 

I'd say half my wardrobe is dresses, they're so easy and can be dressed up or down. Plus when I'm working I don't have to 'match' a bottom and top, one piece of clothing literally covers it.

I knew a lady years ago from ante natal and she purposely never ever wore trousers, always skirt or dress. She's made your husband's head implode 

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Mummaluelae · 01/11/2018 09:13

@Ginazon although some schools are enforcing any school pupil can wear a dress or skirt now, rather than have a set uniform for boys and girls, its all together

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Ginazon · 01/11/2018 09:15

Sorry OP I don’t understand the connection between my post and your last post?

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 01/11/2018 09:16

Dresses are great because it's one garment and you're done! No matching tops and bottoms, and as I hate spending money on work clothes, they are particularly good for making you look smart without paying loads.

Your husband is nuts - if you look back through history, robes are the clear winner.