Devastated by a strangers comments

[KitKatDotty]

First time posting so apologies if I get it wrong!

Went out to lunch today with my DH, DS and parents for their wedding anniversary. They see us regularly but when we are all together we always try to let them have as much time and cuddles with DS as obviously he sees me and DH far more.

So, at the end of the meal this old lady who is out with her son and has been speaking loudly enough for all nearby people to hear all the way through, says “the parents have not been paying any interest to the child and leaving it all to the grandmother”....while we were sat at the table next to them and in full earshot. (I heard part of it but not all of it otherwise I would have said something there and then).

Now this true - we were letting DSs grandparents take the lead with feeding him and look at his books with him and get as many cuddles as they could. DS was very well behaved and not causing any fuss or noise (above what a normal 15 month old would).

I was so upset that some stranger assumes the dynamics of my family and thinks I am uninterested in my DS - and not only that, but say it loud enough for me to hear. It’s not only rude but plain mean and hurtful.

Now I am aware that she does not know I have taken a career break, that I willingly spend all day every day with DS, that I have never spent a night apart from him and that I am having the time of my life with my baby.

But, AIBU to think that that was out of line and mean, plain and simple? Why does someone think it’s ok to do something like that?

What a mean old lady. Spend a minute or two wondering what on earth has gone so badly wrong in her life that she has to be such a miserable cow, and then give her no more head-space.

Total over reaction. You know it isn't true, why care what a stranger says? Toughen up a bit, OP, you'll hear far worse criticism of your parenting as years go by.

Horrible old bat. Ignore.

I want my child and his grandparents to be as close as they can. Not everyone gets that opportunity
I think you've hit the nail on the head there op. I'd say she either doesn't have grandchildren and feels bitter or she's so narky she's not invited to spend time with them. It obviously bothered her enough seeing your lovely happy family that she felt the need to make remarks.

Oh who cares what some weirdo said. I wouldn't even give it a second thought. You know the truth.

'Devastated'? Blimey, get a grip OP, even if you have downgraded to upset. Why let a total stranger who had no more than a snapshot of your family life for an hour on one day in one month in one year, and who clearly knows nothing about you or you family, upset you so much?

Seriously, you need to try to care less about others and work on your confidence and self esteem. YOU (and your family) know that everything was 100% fine. That's all you need to worry about. A random, total stranger's comments are 100% irrelevant. Learn to laugh and smile and ignore ignorance.

Very unkind

Whenever mil is here my two completely ignore me- they see here every other weekend. If someone made a comment like that id be annoyed. Not my choice that they ignore me😅(she gives them chocolate etc)

Couldn’t get annoyed about that. I’d probably have laughed at the absurdity of it.

Definitely wouldn’t have posted about it.

Move on. You don’t need her approval and you don’t need mn approval.