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What seemingly nice comments make you want to rip people's heads off?

58 replies

Twiglett · 15/04/2007 09:33

for me its always from my mother and siblkings and is: "your children are so good .. you are so lucky"

funny that isn't it? if they were being PITAs it would be my fault but because they are behaving well its pure luck

what does it for you?

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nappyaddict · 15/04/2007 14:18

oh and why should i kill my child just because his father is an arsehole. hardly his fault is it!

kittypants · 15/04/2007 14:19

why did you have a 3rd child when you already had one of each.does my head in!

Tommy · 15/04/2007 14:26

I hate "Isn't he good?" aimed at DH because he hoovers or irons or does some other "women's work"

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berolina · 15/04/2007 14:40

This one is utterly unreasonable, but still riles me: when Germans chuck all manner of English expressions into conversations with me, go on about London or whatever other part of England they've been to or ask me to correct their English. It's absolutely fine in some contexts (recent, peretty medical conversation with consultant about my placenta being a case in point - he needed to check I understood) and I know people do it because they're excited about talking to an English person, but it makes me feel like just that - an English person rather than a person.

berolina · 15/04/2007 14:42

(suppose I should add that my German is pretty much perfect, so there's no need for them to overcome a language barrier)

fryalot · 15/04/2007 14:43

"you're looking well" translates as "My God aren't you FAT"
"You're so lucky being a SAHM" translates as "wtf do you do all day?"
"aww, your dp is so good with the kids" translates as "get off your lazy backside and change that nappy yourself"
"oh, your house looks nice" translates as "Good grief, she's hoovered"

I could go on....... perhaps I'm just oversensitive

UnquietDad · 15/04/2007 14:44

(as I'm a freelancer): "you're really lucky being able to sort out your own work hours"

No, YOU'RE really lucky getting a salary.

LilRedWG · 15/04/2007 14:44

All of Squonk's, plus, "I must say you're looking better now you've got a bit of meat on you." That's one I got levelled at me last night at a party that I'd really made an effort to look good at.

fryalot · 15/04/2007 14:45

and the surprised way they say "you look nice" which you know means you don't normally!

wheresthehamster · 15/04/2007 14:46

"That was REALLY nice - DP probably did most of it didn't he?"

My mother's comment when she's enjoyed one of my meals.

fryalot · 15/04/2007 14:49

oooh, wheresthehamster - I would be ripping heads off if that was said to me

snipersmum · 15/04/2007 14:51

I had an e-mail reply to our recent birth announcement of dc3 which said 'are you completely mad having 3? you do know they outnumber you now, don't you?' from someone I don't know well enough to make that kind of (unfunny) joke. (still tempted to write a stinging reply back, but DH told me to ignore it)

Also, something which really makes my blood boil is 'did you have a third because you wanted a girl' as if my ds2 was some kind of disappointment to me because he had a willy

Londonmamma · 15/04/2007 14:53

What a great thread!! I remember so many of these from when mine were babies.

My (now-ex)SIL said to my mother 'well, he'll have to have a routine when he goes to school',
about my little baby. She disapproved of him having long afternoon sleeps so DH could get to see him once in a while. She MOST disapproved of my sloppy night time routine - BFing/bed sharing etc

'You'll never get them out of your bed' was my mum's and all her friends' opinion about not forcing them into their cots. For me, it was anything to get some sleep .....

FluffyMummy123 · 15/04/2007 14:59

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VoluptuaGoodshag · 15/04/2007 15:06

"do you trust him when he is away?" my Mum on DH. Erm yes, I do have a relationship based on trust.

Also agree with the lucky to have him comments because he actually does things round the house. Just because your generation did everything doesn't mean I have to act like a martyr because I feel guilty or sorry for you.

Mum again prior to having a family/partner - "Ah you're a career girl aren't you?" Erm no because in this day and age you have to get up of your backside and earn some dosh to feed yourself unless you want me to sponge off you for the rest of my life.

Tommy · 15/04/2007 15:17

LOL at the "You look well" - what does that mean exactly? Loads of people have said it to me recently and I'm not sure if it means "you do look well bearing in mind that 8 weeks ago you were at death's door and you look much better" or "You've lost weight"

DrNortherner · 15/04/2007 15:22

How aon earth does anyone take offence at 'you look well'? I always take it as a compliment if it's said to me. I only say it to people if I mean they look good.

Londonmamma · 15/04/2007 15:22

'I liek tit hat three outnumber you'

Cod - what language is that?

McDreamy · 15/04/2007 15:24

You look tired - because it's always on the days I feel good! Or have put some make up on! Never on the days when I feel like and look like crap!

meowmix · 15/04/2007 15:27

i hate "gosh aren't you pale.." which is MILs standard greeting.

Optional responses I have toyed with (but never used YET):

"No your colour's gone wonky"
"DH is a vampire and he got thirsty on the way over"
"Your presence drains the colour from my life"
"shut up you moose, I'm scottish, I was born pale"

monkeymonkeymoomoo · 15/04/2007 15:30

Or even worse Tommy, you've PUT ON weight!

kittypants · 15/04/2007 15:30

oh yes the you look much better with more meat on you.id only just had baby!!

meowmix · 15/04/2007 15:31

Oh and also (sorry on a roll now) from MIL and her sister

"aren't you thin.." followed by a lovely round of "ooooh margaret isn't she thin?"... "do you eat at all because you're ever so thin..." "oooh margaret isn't she lucky she can eat that and stay so thin" "ooh how do you stay thin..." etc etc

I'm not that thin. I'm just little.

They are elephants in human form and fail to see the connection between non-stop eating cake and resembling an overstuffed sofa.

[ooooh margaret,.... i bet she feels better for that... ]