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DILEMMA:OPINIONS SOUGHT URGENTLY

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guiltymum · 16/07/2004 15:33

Ok, here goes.Dh's parents live abroad(v.far away in a place we can't visit)and we haven't seen them for 7 months.Ds2 is only 10 months so they have missed most of his life so far.They are home at the moment and its the great- grandparents diamond wedding and we are having a big family reunion this weekend.We haven't seen 99% of the family since I was pregnant with ds2 and so they have never met him.DS1 has been poorly this week but perked up a lot yesterday,started eating again etc.This morning he woke up covered in a rash but said he felt ok.Went round to the doctors who said he thought it was scarlet fever.He has got anti-biotics and the doctor says he will be infectious until about sunday.
Do we go to the party?????? What would you all do?? My better half says we should stay away and not risk infecting everyone else but my selfish side says just go anyway, he's feeling better and so long as we don't let him hug and kiss anyone or be hugged and kissed it'll be ok.Come on help me out please.

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Easy · 16/07/2004 16:52

Tell us what you decide GM. If you don't go we'll come on for a chat on sunday.

aloha · 16/07/2004 16:52

If your ds will be infectious until Sunday, then won't Sunday be OK? Did you call the GP?

aloha · 16/07/2004 16:54

If your ds will be infectious until Sunday, then won't Sunday be OK? Did you call the GP?

lydialemon · 16/07/2004 17:00

holding dd so excuse typing!

bfs dd has sf at the moment - definitely not good to have. her gp says she is infectious until rash goes.

Phew got rid of DD!

Now, her DD got the rash last friday, and wasn't clear until wednesday afternoon, but she is still very weak - tires easily etc.

Personally, I don't think DS will be non-infectious by sunday, and the incubation period is 48-72 hours, so any of you can still go down with it..........

At the most I would say go, but DS1 stays in the hotel and you and DH take turns in staying in with him. I don't think anyone would thank you if they caught it.

BFs GP said that it is a very nasty infection that, if untreated, can lead to longterm organ damage. Apparently it causes the body to shed the lining of organs, tongue peels, stomach lining peels........ yuck, yuck, yuck.

Slinky · 16/07/2004 17:02

I tend to agree with Chandra. I wouldn't take my child - I wouldn't want to run the risk of infecting elderly people - and having my mum immune-suppressed during her chemo. makes me more aware of immunity problems in other people. (Had to avoid my mum for a month due to DD1 and DS1 getting chickenpox).

I would insist my DH attends on his own -in fact we were supposed to go to a wedding last weekend (3 hours away) but DS1 was ill and I wasn't happy to leave him with my mum (although she would have been happy to - I didn't think it was fair) so I made DH go on his own and offer my apologies.

My grandparents had a party for their "Golden Anniversary" years ago - so glad I went to that as shortly after my grandfather passed away

Am aware that your DH works away during the week but this is ONE weekend we're talking about. DH doesn't see our kids much during the week (commutes to London leaving 5am getting home between 8pm to 10pm so kids in bed) but I still insisted he went last weekend - and to make up for it he's taking DS1 and DD1 to see Spiderman 2 tomorrow

Not meaning to be morbid - but I think your DH should go to see his grandparents - you never know what's round the corner.

ggglimpopo · 16/07/2004 17:21

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guiltymum · 16/07/2004 21:46

ok here's the update.Phoned my gp practice and they had the paediatrician call me back.Explained the situation to her and she said that she didn't see a problem with him going.He would have had 48 hours worth of anti-biotics by then and she didn't think it was anything to worry about.
She said if I wanted to be especially careful then not to allow him to kiss anyone.I then phoned dh's family and sounded them out about it.They said come. So we are going to go.
There won't be any pregnant people there,or any people with immune problems.
Thank you all for your help and advice. I realise this isn't going to be a popular decision and you are all going to hate me for it!!If the paed hadn't been so supportive we wouldn't have gone.

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lou33 · 16/07/2004 21:50

Have a nice time GM .

Miaou · 16/07/2004 21:53

I won't hate you for it, guiltymum! There's NO WAY (IMO) that they would have said you could go if they thought it wasn't safe.

Go, enjoy, have fun. Be guilt free. You were caring enough to go to a lot of effort to make sure everyone will be OK.

ponygirl · 16/07/2004 21:56

Hi guiltymum. If the paed says it's fine to go then you can go with a clear conscience! Have a great time.

Easy · 18/07/2004 13:46

Really glad you've been able to go.

Hope you're havingt a lovely time.

Lots of Love.

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