Do you ever wish you hadn't chosen the name you did for you dc/feel you haven't 'bonded' with their name?

[ilovethis]

I couldnt have the name i wanted for DD1 due to family reasons and i've never really gotten used to the name we did give her. She's always been known by a series of nicknames and at 3.5 yo i still rarely call her by her real name. Now the same thing is happening with dd2 6 mo, tho to a lesser extent. Her name just hasnt grown on me. I feel bad about this, anyone else had this happen?

lol faeriemum, I'm afraid you will just have to content yourself with the knowledge that you guessed right
We could have started quite a game

But surely people don't actually not bond so well with the child, but as the OP said, just not bond with the name

am abit at the thought that mothers are not bonding with their dc because of their name!!

I haven't read any of the posts, but was attacted by the title, I wish my husband who is Scottish and has quite a lot of family still in Scotland so we go there quite often, had thought a bit more, before we call our son Ned.
Now any of you who are Scottish should know why!

I'm not Sottish but I know what you mean LOL

Oh Overrun- I have just read some of the posts and realised that your DS has the same one, I hope you already know about the Scottish thing, because I don't want to put you off his name.
By the way I love my son's name.

isgrassgreener, I'm afraid I'm not scottish so don't know what the problem is, but as my ds1 is also called Ned, you better let me in case we go there on holiday

xposts

har!

don;t come to Scotland with a son called Ned. What a shame.

The same here too.

We had agreed on her name during pregnancy... when she was born she was a Jennifer. DH hated it so we went with her planned name.

I still see Jennifer when I look at her

With DS I refused to agree to a definate name until he was in my arms - at which point I looked down and the only boy's name we had agreed on for either pregnancy fitted him perfectly (and he definately was not a Harrison which i had been sulking over)

Gawd what am I missing, is a name for male genatalia or something {confused emoticon) somebody put me out of my misery please. We are welsh and unschooled in all things Scottish

i have no idea what they mean

Ned is the word for chav.

Overrun- Quote from "The Patter" A guide to current Glasgow usage.
Ned - A criminal or hooligan: "Partrick police are on the look our for two neds who walked out of a local hostelry carrying the space invaders machine."

now do you see what I mean

To make matters worse, the current word for a grown up Ned is a Jakey and my other DS is called Jake.

So when we go to Scotland both of my children have names that mean thug

Mind you it means that we never have the conversation about moving to Scotland

We both hit independently on ds's name at about 16 weeks and it suits him absolutely and has done since he was born. I think we're quite lucky in that respect. We have unusual-ish, pretty striking names planned for dc2 - the 'suiting' the name thing might be more of an issue, but we're set on the names so I'm hoping not.

(at about 16 weeks pg - we didn't leave him nameless for the best part of 4 months )

Argh, oh well, when we visit Scotland I will call him by his full name Edward and then no one will be any the wiser. Except that he will be saying at the top of his voice"Its not Edward its Ned" we have never called him Edward, so now understandably he wont accept it

S'alright - I really wanted to call ds2 John Thomas (John for great grandfathers on both sides and Thomas just because) and didn't understand dh's terribly amused then terribly negative reaction until he explained the connotations said combination has for some people...

hannahsaunt lol

If my sister had been a boy, she would have been John Thomas (my mum and dad found out about the other meaning after she was born ).

have eyes watering laughing at ned and jakey, sorry.

i do not like dd1's first name. we had two names picked out and when she was born she looked like neither. dh put the pressure on for 2 days and i cracked and came up with something i thought was ok.

he announced it to the horde of visitors and i thought "no no it's not her name" but would have felt like a numpty if i had shreiked it at that moment.

never really used it at all until she was over 1 and people were wondering why she didn't respond to her name.

there are bloody loads of them and DH is finally coming round to the idea of using a variant on it or her middle name . We just (we as in all three of us) just need to pick one and stick to it. She is currently trying various versions out at playgroup and the playleaders are humouring her.

Mrs Apron - you don't need to say sorry. Thankfully we find it funny, obviously had I of know, I probably would have made different choices, but seeing as I didn't know, it is now just one of those funny stories that my DH seems to take great delight in telling.

I can't express what a huge relief it is to realise that I am not the only one who feels like this. I felt so evil for thinking it.

no. i have always liked them. lucky really. was going to name them differently (dh wanted different names for dd1 and ds) but got my way seeing as i was the one that went through the exquisite pain of childbirth!