Do you ever wish you hadn't chosen the name you did for you dc/feel you haven't 'bonded' with their name?

[ilovethis]

I couldnt have the name i wanted for DD1 due to family reasons and i've never really gotten used to the name we did give her. She's always been known by a series of nicknames and at 3.5 yo i still rarely call her by her real name. Now the same thing is happening with dd2 6 mo, tho to a lesser extent. Her name just hasnt grown on me. I feel bad about this, anyone else had this happen?

I have probably made it sound a lot more glamorous and exciting than it really is.

I can't tell, because anyone who knows me would know it is me, iyswim.

Ah well, I was safer with revealing my Max, there are sooooooooooooooo many of us.

I liked the name Molly fr a girl , there are loads of Dogs called that too. Suprised I didn't like Rover or Spot.

I am torn between regret that it is so unusual and fear that it will become really popular.

The problem is dh. He has awful taste in names and wouldn't go for any of the ones I wanted.

Some of the ones I managed to talk him out of:

Aurora, Snowdrop, Elysia and so on.

I don't dislike the names, but I just wasn't brave enough I suppose.

I feel this a bit about dd. We agonised over girls names (boys were easy) in both pg and never really 'got' one. She was Amelie Mae for the the first few hours, but dh was convinced she wasn't an Amelie, so we changed it. Her name was one I liked rather than loved, and it is growing on me (she's just 1), but I've found I actually call her Tiny Trouble (ds's nickname for her) or TT rather a lot. I feel really bad for not loving it still - it is a reasonably unusual name, but getting more popular.
Strangly enough, I woulnd't say I LOVE ds's name (it's quite dull) - but it is totally, totally him.

OH, and on the dog names thing - about 6 mths after I was born, my grandma got a dog ... and called it by my name - my mum never forgave her

I wanted Arthur, for both DS's Dh wouldn't agree to it. We found it really hard to agree on names.

We both love DS2 name though. He was called Hamish for a day but it didn't suit him or feel right so we changed it and it was a good move.

When we get a dog I'm calling it Arthur.

Before my dd was born she was to be Ella ,but we lived in the north of Scotland at the time and Ellie was very popular ,so whenever anyone asked do you like any names,and I said Ella they all thought i
I said Ellie .We then gave up on that name so she didn't grow up saying I'm called Ella not Ellie!
Then when she popped out the midwife said have you got a name and I said Saskia , my husband nearly choked because we had never even mentioned that name before.
I stuck with it and we all love it now.
But there are drawbacks as older people tend to say what did you say when you tell then and loads of people asked us if she's called after the girl in eastenders who got killed with an ashtray LOL
It is really just becauses I liked it and Rembrandts wife was called it.

i had chosen my ds' name when i was 7 months preggers and stuck to it.....i went and had him registered and they said it was the first Korben in 20 years to be registered here!
GO ME!

We still love our name for ds1, but it rhymes with too many things. "Have you hurt your head ......?" "Time to go to bed ...." "Do you want Jam on your bread ...." Its like that book, "Pass the Jam, Stan"

I love dd's name but I obviously say it funny (northern vowels in Essex) because no-one gets it right the first time when I tell them! Ah well...

The OH wanted something I wasn't keen on the shortenings of, I wanted something he had big objections to (Ella, btw ), the name she ended up with was one of a few I liked; he saw her first when born (emergency c-section where I had a bad reaction to the anaesthetic and was shivering like a flu victim under an inflatable heat blanket when they took her out of me) and came back round the partition to me crying 'oh, we'll call her xxx, she's definitely an xxx' ... I was away with the fairies at that stage and he could have said we'll call her Frogmella and I'd have nodded... so we gave her his choice of middle name and everyone's happy!

fred? overrun?

She's largely called 'Mrs Woman' btw - I live in dread of her telling someone that's her name when asked....

I love ds' name but wish I'd kept his middle name spare as a first name for a possible ds2 IYKWIM. Feel like I've used up the two best names on one baby.

I now call dd by her middle name. I like both her first names, and after a lot of consideration, think her second name has the edge. Good to so many other people have doubts and second thoughts. iMO if you don't like, yo should makd the change, once and for all.

Right from the moment dh and I met we knew that if we had a boy we would call him O. 7 years later I had a boy and sure enough we called him O. It suits him, I cannot imagine him with a different name.

DD was a lot more difficult. We could not agree on a name and compromised. It is a lovely name, it suits her, BUT I sometimes wish we had given her a different name.

Faeriemum, not quite Go on have another go

Im the OP and im SO glad im not the only one to have doubts about dc's names...thought i was weird...

dd3's name still doesn't come to me whne I use it, it's not the first thing I think off. Not sure if that's becosue she is number 3, or if it s the name (wan't my pick, was dh's)

ned? ed? ged? jed? red? ted?

The first one Faeriemum

I hate DS2's name. I talked DH out of calling DS1 this name, but we could not come up with a mutually acceptable alternative for DS2.

I do feel it has effected my bonding with him.....

Bit sad, isn't it, really, but what can you do?

I wish I'd spelt dd's name slightly differently.

spelled? spelt?

yay! do i get a prize??

shame i already said my sons name...i would have said...it rhymes with Bourbon

mm I think if I were you I'd rather refuse to call ds a name I hated than risk not bonding with child - rather call him the name I liked regardless....