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Smug fruit shoot feeders - don't you ever worry about 20 years down the line?

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welliemum · 18/03/2007 21:09

Lots of people here talk about feeding their dcs crap food as a badge of honour - it's a weird kind of street cred.

"My kinds eat junk food - so shoot me, ha ha"
[subtext: I am a laid-back cool person and people who fuss about junk food are so up their own bums it's unbelievable]

But.... there's a big worry out there about obesity, about additives in food, about the way bad eating habits often have their beginnings in childhood...... and the concerns are likely to get stronger with time.

Don't you ever worry that 20 years from now when times have moved on, one of your dcs will read your light hearted comments and actually feel a bit that you seemed so proud of feeding them crap?

Whereas what I'd hope for with mine is to be able to say, "Well, you did sometimes eat rubbish at parties and I wasn't all that happy about it, but I let you because I didn't want you to feel left out. I didn't stress about it too much because I knew you ate well the rest of the time."

[subtext: I was never a perfect parent but I did my best to find the balance between feeding you well and not being obsessional about food].

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lionheart · 18/03/2007 21:45

I think it is defensive, too, although it's not just the smugness that produces this response

but the way in which parents who deviate from the ultra healthy line have been pilloried.

ScummyMummy · 18/03/2007 21:45

That's a perceptive post, soapbox. I must admit as well that when i meet people who are having a rough time (through work, mostly) I find it hard to put their troubles all or mainly down to their diet, even when that it is very poor and needs to improve. Even though I think good healthy food is fab and ideal and a good thing, it annoys me a bit when people argue that poor diet is the root of all evil and sometimes even seem to blame people for causing themselves problems on the grounds that they eat shit.

Soapbox · 18/03/2007 21:45

To completely divert the thread away from fruit shoots...

DO you know that I have never tried any drugs at all (except for a one-time only puff of a spliff) and I could really kick myself now for not doing so!

I'm so curious to know what a coke rush feels like or an esctasy high - but am way too old and straight laced to have a go now!

Now - this is a post which I will be embarrased about should my children find it in 10 years time

nulnulcat · 18/03/2007 21:46

vodka and blackcurrant fruit shoot is really nice by the way! for the grown ups at the party - i con dd into thinking she is drinking fruit shoot i just tip it out and re fill bottle with water and she thinks she got the same as her friends we were at pub yesterday and the only place to tip it was into my vodka and very nice it was too!

Spidermama · 18/03/2007 21:46

People who love good food and enjoy feeding it to their kids and talking to other like-minded mums should free to do so without the tedious accusations of smugness.

I'm going to start lobbing accusations of smugness at Fruitshoot fans. Not everyone can be that relaxed you know! Look at you, watcing while your kids sip Fruitshoots and trying to make me feel bad and uptight for favouring water.

Maybe not.

Blu · 18/03/2007 21:46

It gets talked about that way on MN because we're all sick to the (rotting) back teeth of hearing about it!

I really do feel like a screeching teenager now!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 18/03/2007 21:47

SOAPY!!!!

CountTo10 · 18/03/2007 21:47

But then you could start a thread saying - smug people who don't give fruitshoots why do you feel its your place to patronise those that do????? Surely???? Not that I'm saying that's what going on here but by opening the thread in the way you have you are courting controversy non so that you can make yourself feel better about not giving them?? or is that just me going one step too far??

As i've said before, great you don't buy fruitshoots in the supermarket, but why do you feel the need to come and post about those who do???

LilyLoo · 18/03/2007 21:49

So are you talking about the most extreme cases then where they have it all the time and not just the mums who let them have it within a balanced diet ? Just not sure that they deserve the 'you seemed so proud of feeding them crap'

lilymolly · 18/03/2007 21:49

soapbox, not that good to be honest, the after effects of the high are shit, and are not worth the highs iyswim, that said, I feel that at least I will be able to give dd some advice regarding drugs when she is older as I will have had some experience of taking them.
Its funny that at the moment I refuse to give her any form of juice (dd 14mnths) but will I be worrying about cocaine/heroin in a few years time, puts it into perspective imo.

misdee · 18/03/2007 21:49

soapy

maybe there should be a name changing thread to discuss that for you lol.

franca70 · 18/03/2007 21:49

soapbox!

Blu · 18/03/2007 21:49

Moderation is the key to most things we make a decision about!

Like speed (in our cars, not whizz.......), or alcohol, or food full stop, really - otherwise we would eat ourselves to death, even on lentil bake!

So how is 'in moderation' a cop out? It's an essential skill and discipline.

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 18/03/2007 21:50

nope I've never tried drugs either. and have only been drunk three times in my life - how sad am I?

ate loads of chocolate when I was growing up though

welliemum · 18/03/2007 21:50

soapbox. Something for your grandchildren to enjoy!

I agree with your post about age making a big difference.

Oh dear, Blu, sorry to be boring! I think it's an interesting point!

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CountTo10 · 18/03/2007 21:51

Drugs are overrated and if anything I'm more worried about my child being exposed to illegal drugs on the playground than fruitshoots - although perhaps by the time my child is at school they might be banned and are being sold on the corner

lionheart · 18/03/2007 21:51

In twenty years time, Mumsnet will be a fantastic archive for researchers looking into anything from female bonding to felting.

That often gives me pause for thought.

misdee · 18/03/2007 21:52

lionheart i thought you said felching then

Blu · 18/03/2007 21:52

Well having tried and enjoyed a number of substances mentioned below (such as chocolate, obviously) I can report that moderation was definitely the crucial factor.

ScummyMummy · 18/03/2007 21:52

Death by lentil bake is not a way I'd like to go!

No comment on drugs in case sons read it in 10 years time.

CountTo10 · 18/03/2007 21:54

misdee me too - thank god it's not just me!!!

Aloha · 18/03/2007 21:54

I am actually laughing at the thought of stropping teenagers with their bottles of White Lightning (or whatever foul brew is in vogue) and kebabs and chips, screaming at their parents 'You don't love me! You...(sob)...let me have...(sob)...Fruit Shoots! I (sob) HATE YOU!"

Soapbox · 18/03/2007 21:55

I think I'll just adopt my mum's approach - 'Just say no!' It clearly worked for me

wannaBeWhateverIWannaBe · 18/03/2007 21:55

did you know that coka cola used to contain cokaine?

WelshBoris · 18/03/2007 21:55

Blu- that was a Clintonesque post then. "I did not inhale"