£1 to go to school in non-uniform tomorrow.....

[hatwoman]

...should I pay or dds? (6 and 4 - they get £1 a week spending money)

Half each - I'm the master of compromise

i've to pay 50p for DS to go to nursery in oversized clothes the teacher suggested daddys tshirt WTF

Agree - half each. You could always pay more - after all, it is Comic Relief.....

If you don't pay, you leave your daughters with a choice between giving a whole week's pocket money away or risking being the only ones in school uniform, which seems particularly tough on the four-year-old. So I think you should pay, I'm afraid.

you pay

you pay

You pay
Our pocket monies will be spent on the sweeties and the lob a wet sponge at the PE teacher attraction

tbh it hadn't occured to me not to pay - until this afternoon they started asking about Comic Relief and what it was all about. I came out with the standard spiel - explaining it was to raise money for children who didn;t have all the great things we have - good schools, nice warm house, clean water, good food etc etc - and it occured to me that maybe they were old enough to start to embrace that - at least a bit - to make that choice - ask themselves whether they'd like to pay, out of their own money. they save up quite a bit - they don;t get much chance to spend so it's really not a big deal. so mean or educative? (I think i'll go with the compromise tbh)

Would you or your dh give your entire weekly wage to charity? Or even half of it? I doubt it!

Suggest they contribute 10p each so they experience giving without feeling that charity is a punishment.

you pay it is charity

I usually pay on these kind of days, but I must admit when it comes to Children In Need, my dd likes to take her own money into the bank and pay it in to the fund, so she feels like she has actually given.
[sneeks up behind Kbear and shouts BOO!]

but they spend 100 per cent of their money on fripperies. at least some of dh's and my money goes on reasonably essential things.

I pay for such events; not DD. She knows all about the good causes side of it, but at this age we use our family money to put towards charity. Besides DD, almost 5yo, doesn't get pocket money anyway so it would be savings only.

nh - you say you pay it's charity - you're completely missing my point - it's precisely because it's for charity that I'm wondering whether they ought to pay. I think dh and I will stretch to a bit more than a couple of quid (even if we don;t get to wear non-uniform)

That reminds me. I bought both my dses a red nose weeks ago when they first came out but waned them that I would only buy one each. If they lost it or wanted another they'd have to use their pocket money. Of course they ate the chocolate and promptly lost them bth (actually they let the dog shred them).

Of course now they want another one each for tomorrow. I said they'd have to pay themselves. ds1 came out with

"No you should pay - our money is for spending on things we want. Your money is for charity."

comic relief is only every 2 years after all, i wouldnt begrudge it. (though need to check my purse now)

I DO NOT begrudge it!!!! read my posts.

My DC's love to use their own money for these kind of charitable events. They are keen for it to be their money that is going to help those in need.

I still give whatever I was planning on anyway.

We've actually got a sponsored silly dance tomorrow to raise funds, so I am off to fill the form with ficticious names and addresses because I have been remiss in getting real people to fill the damned thing in

FFS! £1!! you pay!

ooo the old fictitous names trick! I don;t even make them up - granny has been sponsoring all manner of things over the years, without knowing it

I had friends kids here when the last Children In Need was on and I was explaining to the 7 year old what the whole event was for as she didn't know and when I said its for children who maybe didn't have some of the lovely things that she has, she said 'what, like (my dd), coz she hasn't got as much as me! She nearly became a Children In Need statistic that night, as I nearly physically abused her!!

WATCH MY LIPS. I DO NOT BEGRUDGE IT. This is not about my contribution to Comic Relief. It is about whether or not it's a useful learning opportunity.

yawn, sorry um,

I think many of you are missing the point - Hatwoman is more than happy to pay the £1 herself, but is wondering whether she should encourage the children to get involved in charitable giving by using their money to do so.

Unless I have completely misread the thread!