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Why do people type things on here that sometimes seemto be delibrately put to make others feel bad?

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LucyJones · 09/03/2007 15:30

For example 'I really want a girl baby'
'You should be grateful for what you get as others don't have any' - makes the OP feel awful
'My MIL drives me nuts'
'You should be grateful to have a MIL, mine died at Christmas'

We're allowed to maon on here surely without people making us feeling completely selfish... Just imagine if everytime someone said 'my dh is driving me crazy' all the lone parents wetn on about how they would love a dh...

Or am I thinking about it too much

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bossykate · 09/03/2007 15:32

i agree that people seem to be very quick to sharpen their pitchforks and light their torches recently before descending in a mob on some hapless poster...

Megglevache · 09/03/2007 15:32

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LucyJones · 09/03/2007 15:33
Grin
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becklespeckle · 09/03/2007 15:33

I agree with you, I would rather not post anything than be rude like that, there are better ways to phrase things!
eg
'My MIL drives me nuts'
'I was lucky as mine was lovely, unfortunately died at Christmas, maybe you could try telling her what you think?'

danceswithaSPRINGinherstep · 09/03/2007 15:33

Oh I can't believe you two are complaining when I'm having a bad hair day. Come back when you've really got problems

FioFio · 09/03/2007 15:33

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LucyJones · 09/03/2007 15:33

exactly becklespeckle, that sounds so much nicer

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LucyJones · 09/03/2007 15:34

aw Fio, i totally see where you're coming from

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fryalot · 09/03/2007 15:34

Bad Hair Day?

You should think yourself lucky you've got hair. You could be like poor Gail Porter, you know.

zippitippitoes · 09/03/2007 15:35

I was just taken abakc by the thread how can I fake my own death before sunday..my mother is coming to visit

it does strike me as clumsy rather than humorous for some reason

becklespeckle · 09/03/2007 15:35

ah, FioFio - I lurked on that thread! Mine is out from 6.30 until 6.30, often works all weekend too and some evenings! I remember thinking some people were a bit rude.

sweetkitty · 09/03/2007 15:35

Thanks LJ I did feel truly chastised for my long ranting post. Thanks for "sticking up" for me.

It's just the way things are it's like having a whinge as your DC are driving you mad and someone else saying well you are lucky to have DC as mine died last year of course you are then going to feel like total shit. You could come up with 100 examples but hey it's life.

becklespeckle · 09/03/2007 15:35

Is that a real thread?

KathyMCMLXXII · 09/03/2007 15:36

I actually think it's very rare for people to deliberately and cold-bloodedly make people feel bad, it's just sooooo easy to do without thinking about it and equally easy to think someone is getting at you and respond in kind when actually they didn't mean it in the first place.

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LucyJones · 09/03/2007 15:36

that's okay sweetkitty, I just thought it would have made me feel really bad so felt sorry for you!!

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FioFio · 09/03/2007 15:37

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LucyJones · 09/03/2007 15:37

I really hope that's true Kathy.... i guess on here it comes across as curt cos that's the way typed things read sometimes

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BizzyDint · 09/03/2007 15:39

i guess you mean my post about my mum. well i posted what i wanted to post because it was how i felt. i'm allowed to do that too. sometimes it does people good to remember that they should be grateful for what they have, in the grand scheme of things.

i thought the title of sweetkitty's thread was not a very good one. i didn't mean to sound rude, i just posted how i felt.

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LucyJones · 09/03/2007 15:41

it wasn't just your post BizzyDint honestly. There have been a few like it.
Please don't take this thread personally.

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Jimjams2 · 09/03/2007 15:46

I think it can be helpful to think like that though. I do it to myself in my head e.g.

"ds2 is doing my head in he won't shut up"
"at least he can blody talk" (looking at ds1)

or

"ds3 is driving me mad he wants to be doing everything I want to do and won't leave me alone"
"you'd be moaning if he wasn't".

etc etc

Fio- said it before- but you need to move down here. 3 of my closest friends have dhs who work away.....

zippitippitoes · 09/03/2007 15:46

ah I see that is the thread you are referring to

well the thread title as I say did leap out at me too

sweetkitty · 09/03/2007 15:48

I am truly sorry I offended anyone with my thread title (which I will ask MN to remove) looking at it now I can understand why someone might find it crass and offensive, sometimes my "homour" can be a bit too black sometimes.

becklespeckle · 09/03/2007 15:50

well I did think it was a humorous title (despite losing my Mum last year)

Aloha · 09/03/2007 15:52

I thought the 'fake my own death' was funny.
Sometimes OPs post things that upset other people too - like the girls one. I am happy to read, 'For various reasons I'd love another girl and I'm stupidly upset about the thought of having a boy', but as I said on the thread, 'So far I've been very lucky to have only girls' it can make people with boys feel hurt on their behalf, and I think it's quite OK to point that out.
I also think a reality check can be helpful in some circumstances.

ledodgy · 09/03/2007 15:53

I agree with Jimjams I do that in my head too. I think people will point things out in case the op hasn't thought about the other side of the coin because they are wound up etc. There's been plenty of times i've got so angry with dd and she winds me up like only a 3 year old can then I think of posters on here who have lost their children and it puts things into perspective. Perspective is good.